Is internal peace compatible with pursuing an ideal that is defined by another agent?

[Primalex]

In other words: If you love to be trained to become the perfect cherished sex toy, will you ever find peace?

Being at peace internally is reflected by

• feeling like the pieces of yourself actually fit together
• knowing that the life you're living reflects what really matters to you
• being able to pause, let go, and say, "this is enough for now"

But if the ideal "you" is based on another person's standard, your peace is hostage to them not changing their standards and you have no way to accomplish your goal on your own, because only they can let you know. External ideals require calibration to someone else's judgement while peace requires a sense of "complete enoughness".

In your own history, when you tried to become what someone else wanted you to be: Did the experience feel like inner peace, or like tension? And if you think you have achieved the goal, is it bliss or merely a struggle against entropy?

 

[cascadiabound]

I think this is precisely why compatibility matters. And that it is an ongoing communication as things change - which they inevitably will on both sides of the slash

 

[Ash999]

In other words: If you love to be trained to become the perfect cherished sex toy, will you ever find peace?

Being at peace internally is reflected by

• feeling like the pieces of yourself actually fit together
• knowing that the life you're living reflects what really matters to you
• being able to pause, let go, and say, "this is enough for now"

But if the ideal "you" is based on another person's standard, your peace is hostage to them not changing their standards and you have no way to accomplish your goal on your own, because only they can let you know. External ideals require calibration to someone else's judgement while peace requires a sense of "complete enoughness".

In your own history, when you tried to become what someone else wanted you to be: Did the experience feel like inner peace, or like tension? And if you think you have achieved the goal, is it bliss or merely a struggle against entropy?

When the Dom punishes the Sub.......the Sub enters the ' Zone' ........a Sea of Mental, Submissive, Erotic Bliss.....