Regular transitions from online to physical relationships

[horny_giraffe]

I'm just curious to know how many literotica members participate in physical relationships that have started or are mirrored in literotica relationships.

I see a lot of overtures and invitations taking place, and I assume that many are tongue-in-cheek. Personally, any overture directed at me is just talk. Perhaps that sort of talk can lead to some kind of online relationship--but that's it.

But the seriousness with which some people seem to respond leads me to believe that many people seem to expect this as an extremely possible transition.

Do you feel that online flirtations and invitations should be taken seriously in the physical sense (I.E. "Wanna fuck" PMs mean they are actually hoping to come to your physical residence.) or do you see these as no more than invitations to online relationships?

I definitely get the feeling that I am missing some dynamic, here.
I am anonymous--aren't you?

 

[lovetoread]

Well speaking from experience,my online flirt became my serious relationship. We have wild passionate sex and I am moving up to him in a few months,how is that for a real life transition?

Before him however,there was never any intention of following up the flirt with any real life meetings. I think its easy to pop on here and say "come on wanna fuck?" and you hope that the person you are talking to understands that it isnt for real. But yes,there are times you get invitations for real life meetings,its just not realistic to think that it will ever happen.

I still flirt with my fellow on the boards and yes when I mention doing anything with him,I do mean it.

 

[artful]

Opinion

Yes,online can lead to phsical,but rarely works out due to the image projected on line has a lot to do with what people THINK they are,as opposed to WHO they REALLY are.Its not lieing,but still,it is false.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[SweetCherry]

Re: Opinion

Yes,online can lead to phsical,but rarely works out due to the image projected on line has a lot to do with what people THINK they are,as opposed to WHO they REALLY are.Its not lieing,but still,it is false.

I have to disagree here as well. I can name at least 3 couples here on Lit who have made it work after meeting in RL. I've been in a serious online relatioship for the past 18 months, and it's progressed to the point of being a RL one as soon as we can physically meet. I feel deep love and respect for Draco and we both make sacrifices to be with each other. We've been thru a few glitches and fights, but what relationship doesn't have that problem? In a RL relationship, how often is it based no sex? In an online one, it can't be that and last long. When there's no sexual contact, there's no sexual relationship and you have to find something else to do to make it go for any length of time.

 

[cellis]

Well... I have never had an online relationship with anyone at Lit... but for over a year now I have been dating men I met on line... in fact, I am now in a committed relationship with someone I met on line.... and we do have a R/T relationship... I was lucky that he lives where I live....

 

[bluntforcemama]

I'm fucking Juspar. Wait... Juspar's fucking me.... ah FUCK!

 

[Cheyenne]

Count me in the none of your business category.

Some people are comfortable plastering their personal life all over the board, some aren't. I think I've learned that it is better to keep some things away from the board.

My guess is that for every relationship on the board where you can read step by step progress reports, there are probably 2 or 3 that happen behind the scenes in email, PMs, phone calls, etc. I don't know how many of those progress to physical relationships vs. remain online only, or fizzle completely. That might make an interesting poll question though.

I would add that the vast majority of the flirtation you see on the board is just that, fun flirtation. Not really serious.

 

[MissTaken]

I would add that the vast majority of the flirtation you see on the board is just that, fun flirtation. Not really serious.

Excellent point! (And I am relieved to see it made and out in the open!)

I flirt for fun and have made some wonderful on line friends here.

I have never had a real life relationship with someone I met at the lit boards.

I have brought people to the lit boards though.

 

[juicylips]

I see a lot of overtures and invitations taking place, and I assume that many are tongue-in-cheek. Personally, any overture directed at me is just talk. Perhaps that sort of talk can lead to some kind of online relationship--but that's it.

But the seriousness with which some people seem to respond leads me to believe that many people seem to expect this as an extremely possible transition.

Do you feel that online flirtations and invitations should be taken seriously in the physical sense (I.E. "Wanna fuck" PMs mean they are actually hoping to come to your physical residence.) or do you see these as no more than invitations to online relationships?

I definitely get the feeling that I am missing some dynamic, here.
I am anonymous--aren't you?

Glad to see this thread

When you talk about "the seriousness with which some people respond", what do you consider serious? If the response is sexually graphic or detailed, that doesn't mean a thing to me.
I respond like that often and that is just how I express myself. I don't intend for someone to show up at my door and fuck me to death.

I never take online firtations seriously, unless, that person decides to be direct by emailing or pming. Then we will just go from there. But on the boards, it is just a big playground where I love to play and play and PLAY!!!

Cassidy

 

[Scabbers]

Wot the fuck?

I don't intend for someone to show up at my door and fuck me to death.
Cassidy

Guess I'll cancel that air ticket to Ohio! Between this and the "kiss-off" thread, I'm beginning to get the hint!

 

[Cheyenne]

I never take online firtations seriously, unless, that person decides to be direct by emailing or pming. Then we will just go from there.

A good point. I think it is much easier to check someone out in emails or PM mode than out in the open on the bb. On the bb, it is hard to tell sometimes if someone is flirting innocently or is more serious. The privacy of communication away from the board makes it easier to figure out if there is something there, or if you just misread someone's intentions and they aren't really interested in you at all.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Wot the fuck?

Guess I'll cancel that air ticket to Ohio! Between this and the "kiss-off" thread, I'm beginning to get the hint!

Sorry, but your ticket is nonrefundable, so you are stuck with it!!

Can't get out of seeing me that easy

Cassidy

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Here on the boards, I'll fuck anyone willing to play with me. In real life, Myst and I didn't have any idea where our relationship would go once we actually met. It'd be foolish to say we met as just friends. But we sure as hell weren't prepared for what we actaully got. And while I must say that she is exactly who she is in RL here on the board, there is something magical about looking into her eyes and hearing her laugh. Oh, and we fuck.


As for anonimity - I am, unless you happen to recognise my Av?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

A good point. I think it is much easier to check someone out in emails or PM mode than out in the open on the bb. On the bb, it is hard to tell sometimes if someone is flirting innocently or is more serious. The privacy of communication away from the board makes it easier to figure out if there is something there, or if you just misread someone's intentions and they aren't really interested in you at all.

Exactly - Myst and I spoke on MSN, for hours many times, for 8 months before we met IRL.

 

[Summery]

I think anything is possible. And in most cases everyone's situation is different.
Through what started out as harmless flirtation and just playing on the BB, I have been given the opportunity to get to know ToddH on a more personal level.
First it was posting to each other in threads, then PMs constantly back and forth, moved on to emails and chat, then phone calls on a daily basis, then actual hand written snail mail. So we are sharing in a relationship, but think it is still too early to define it.
For us, we have decided to meet in RL.......months down the road if we are still feeling the same way that we are now.
Can it be a forever lasting relationship that all started out by meeting right here at Lit? I'm certainly hoping so! SweetCherry and Draco, set a good example of what is possible....as well as several other couples I am aware of.
So maybe months down the road, I will have better answers and definitions to the original questions.
I'd like to also add that, though we still post to each other in threads and flirt, we have agreed to still be ourselves. There isn't a reason for us to change who we are or how we post. We flirt with other's but we communicate....have an understanding. We are secure with ourselves and each other.
The only issue I have is, I find it truly disturbing when someone else has a 'personal opinion' about a relationship, they know nothing about!

 

[Georgia Girl]

Savant and I met over in Syd's Hot Tub in chat and then moved on to msn and the phone. We met in RL over Thanksgiving and it was beyond wonderful but the distance is hard. 3000 miles seperate us and neither of us is in a position to be able to move so we have allowed the relationship to shift to one of deep and meaningful friends.

So yes, it does happen and it can be magical but as others have said, if you were to walk into my office right now the person that I am here is the person that I am on the BB's. The photo that I show people is just me as I am when I am chatting/posting on the BB.

Dawn

 

[Marxist]

I wish people woudn't put their really intimate lives out there for all to see. I know that's asking the impossible around here, but I hate to hear the lovemaking and later recrimminations go on and on.

Not that sharing is bad. It's just the specifics are mundane and not necessary.

The only time I feel different is when people are announcing they're getting married, divorced, or having a baby. And even that is a little overplayed at times.

Would I fuck / date / marry someone from the board? Not very likely in a lifetime, but you'll never know in truth.

 

[juicylips]

I wish people woudn't put their really intimate lives out there for all to see. I know that's asking the impossible around here, but I hate to hear the lovemaking and later recrimminations go on and on.


The only time I feel different is when people are announcing they're getting married, divorced, or having a baby. And even that is a little overplayed at times.

So when our baby is born, then I can tell everyone on Lit about our hot, torrid affair.

Cassidy

 

[Marxist]

So when our baby is born, then I can tell everyone on Lit about our hot, torrid affair.

Cassidy

No.

 

[MissTaken]

I wish people woudn't put their really intimate lives out there for all to see. I know that's asking the impossible around here, but I hate to hear the lovemaking and later recrimminations go on and on.

Not that sharing is bad. It's just the specifics are mundane and not necessary.

Guilty as charged!!!!

(I am trying not to post too much personal information anymore unless it is a thread specific topic that concerns issues, not events.)

So, I am NOT telling you about the last time I had sex!

 

[Marxist]

So, I am NOT telling you about the last time I had sex!

Nothing wrong with telling everybody how you got it and how you saw stars. I just don't care to know who did it to you.

Unless they're famous. Or a professional who doesn't mind you publishing their number for others to use. Or it's me and you're bragging about the ratchethead action.

 

[MissTaken]

Well,

two weeks ago

at the hardware store

saw stars

Marxist

ratchethead action.

Wooo hooooooooooooooo

 

[sexy-girl]

well i met lisa for real but by living in different countries meant had to have an online/phone long distance relationship it was very hard ... i know it makes it different though because we met for real ... did that make it easier or harder ... difficult to say

 

[Marxist]

Well,

two weeks ago

at the hardware store

saw stars

Marxist

ratchethead action.

Wooo hooooooooooooooo

They say "Ace is the place".


And sexy-girl, could you mention Lisa one more time. You haven't made your daily quota.