Old Fashioned Love

[Andreina]

Old Fashioned Love... that's what I want in the end. I can't see myself ever living in an open relationship. I want mutual trust, love and exclusivity. I want to be the only one to touch him, love him, pleasure and pleasure him. I want him to be the only one to sexually pleasure me. I need the security to know that we are on a mutual exclusive basis to feel secure. I don't want to think that another woman pleases him or that he feels aroused and fucks another woman while I'm at home. It would kill me.

Is that too oldfashioned in this modern world? Is there still such a thing as traditional love, a traditional relationship? One to one.


Halo

 

[Black_Bird]

While I may *fantasize* about being with more then one partner, I must agree; an old fashioned two-people-in-love type of relationship is the one I would most want in my life.

No, you aren't old fashioned. Not everybody is meant to live a swinger's life. I'm not.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Is that too oldfashioned in this modern world? Is there still such a thing as traditional love, a traditional relationship? One to one.

No, I don't think its old fashion @ all.
I crave the same thing and would love to have that one of these days.

Right now I am in a loving relationship but we are still wondering what will become of us. I am not one to push things or make demands. We are happy where we are right now , our love is simple and ours alone. The outside world ceases to exsist when we are together. While this is a little bit selfish I just want to be with him and only him @ this very moment in my life.
What will become of us, only time will tell -- and right now I am right where I want to be -- with him.

Traditional love does exsist....Halo

 

[Wiggles]

I think that is the sort of relationship most people start out with. They may eventually move on to an open relationship, cheating, or swinging.

This is what I look for in a relationship. I couldn't ever share, and frankly I don't want to.

I'm like a little penguin, I want the same mate for my entire life. Uncomplicated, simple love.

 

[alltherage]

There is nothing old fashioned about wanting to find that one special person. I am still looking and my hopes are as high as my will to find it. Open relationships are excuses for the fact that the people in them have not found the kind of love you talk about little. I do not mean that as a judgement of open relationships at all. I just don't think that the issue would ever come up if you find a soul mate.

 

[rexfelis]

That's what I am looking for too. Old fashioned is good. If it's still an option, it must have stood the test of time, at least for someone.

Old Fashioned Love... that's what I want in the end. I can't see myself ever living in an open relationship. I want mutual trust, love and exclusivity. I want to be the only one to touch him, love him, pleasure and pleasure him. I want him to be the only one to sexually pleasure me. I need the security to know that we are on a mutual exclusive basis to feel secure. I don't want to think that another woman pleases him or that he feels aroused and fucks another woman while I'm at home. It would kill me.

Is that too oldfashioned in this modern world? Is there still such a thing as traditional love, a traditional relationship? One to one.


Halo

 

[Kitte]

I believe in old fashioned love I think one on one is the best type of relationship for me, tho occasionally I do want two partners. One to do the dishes and one to Mop! And believe me my husband and I have and do fantasize about having another partner but that reality just isnt for us.

 

[Starblayde]

Is that too oldfashioned in this modern world? Is there still such a thing as traditional love, a traditional relationship? One to one.Halo

Its not the type of relationship that is usually found in a board like this, but its a lovely ideal... one that i'm hoping to live up to

wherever she may be

 

[April]

It's a nice idea, but love is not simple and uncomplicated. It's messy, painful, and horribly confusing at times.

All the same, I wouldn't trade a one-on-one relationship for anything. It's a wondrous thing, especially in the beginning stages. I miss those.

 

[Andreina]

It's a nice idea, but love is not simple and uncomplicated. It's messy, painful, and horribly confusing at times.

I know, that's why I'm so scared to fall in love - so scared that I fight the feeling off whenever possible.

Halo

 

[Starblayde]

I know, that's why I'm so scared to fall in love - so scared that I fight the feeling off whenever possible.

Halo

Being wary is fine so you dont get hurt.... but to be scared....i think thats a bad thing.

Personally i'm open to truly falling in love, but i need to check myself every so often to stop it happening too quickly, or with the wrong person.

 

[rexfelis]

Based on how I have ended up in 80% or more of my in-person relationships, I wonder why I even try still, sometimes. But I am not afraid of it.

 

[Guest]

No, you're NOT too old fashioned

Love is scary. Once you find it, it's still scary.

My wife and I are so close not that we've discussed being open. It's like moving to another dimension of trust. Have we acted on this? NO. Will we? Probably not. But just talking about it has brought us even closer. The most we do is talk about others we are attrated to while making love. THAT is wonderful, and has broadened our sex life. I guess it's not EXACTLY open, but sort of. But we've been through a lot, and EVERY situation and relationship is unique.

The fact that you fear falling in love a bit is part of why you currently feel this way. People are a constantly changing entity, molded by their daily experiences, which are always unique. You are who you are, and that's the way it's meant to be.

Don't ever doubt yourself. Just be. And be happy.

 

[Andreina]

how can feel safe with your partner when you know that you will get hurt eventually. that s/he is likely to cheat on you and betray your trust, betray the very concept of love itself?

i have the highest respect of people who live in a relationship. i would be too insecure to do it and too scared to get hurt - like always



Halo

 

[Guest]

If we lived on the same continent, we'd have lunch and talk...

how can feel safe with your partner when you know that you will get hurt eventually. that s/he is likely to cheat on you and betray your trust, betray the very concept of love itself?

i have the highest respect of people who live in a relationship. i would be too insecure to do it and too scared to get hurt - like always



Halo

1) You don't KNOW they're going to cheat

2) pain and hurt come with all aspects of life. It's part of life - the ying and the yang. To fully appreciate a "high" one must know what a "low" is. The lows cause you to grow and evolve as a person, and help to shape the "self". Pain WILL happen even with perfect fidelity.

Despite my rant above about my love of my wife and our great relationship, we found out 2 weeks ago that she has cancer. That's a BIG ASS LOW!!



But what if I we'd never met? There would be some other tragedy to take it's place. It's life's destiny.

Close your eyes and experience life.

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

There's lots of people that don't cheat. Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Maybe you'll find one of the gems.

 

[Andreina]

i rather never love than being cheated on.
im a coward.


Halo

 

[Juspar Emvan]

This is what I look for in a relationship. I couldn't ever share, and frankly I don't want to.

I'm like a little penguin, I want the same mate for my entire life. Uncomplicated, simple love.

lmao

An oxymoron? I want a friend, a lover.

 

[rexfelis]

As badly as I have been hurt, time and again, I have to say I agree - it's better to have loved and lost.

You can never know someone's going to cheat on you. Go out there and accept what someone has to offer you. There are guys out there, like me, who cheated and had so much anguish over it that we vowed never to do it again. And there's guys strong enough to never cheat.

i rather never love than being cheated on.
im a coward.


Halo

 

[Starblayde]

i rather never love than being cheated on.
im a coward.


Halo

Its not cheating that I've ever been guilty of. I'd never want or need to do that

Its just every so often I end doing something really stupid that screws over whatever realtionship i happen to be in, usually ending it right then and there.

 

[Guest]

i rather never love than being cheated on.
im a coward.


Halo

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

You are always welcome at my house for all of the loveless orgasms you can handle.

Hang in there

 

[WhiteRose]

And there's guys strong enough to never cheat.

*wishes guys came with drop down menus glued to their foreheads so we could pick and choose qualities*

By the time you fall in love and find out they're not the right ones, it's too late.

 

[rexfelis]

It's all about growing through the experience, good or bad.

And God help us when Bill Gates brings out Windows on your forehead. lol

*wishes guys came with drop down menus glued to their foreheads so we could pick and choose qualities*

By the time you fall in love and find out they're not the right ones, it's too late.

 

[ToddHwrd]

*wishes guys came with drop down menus glued to their foreheads so we could pick and choose qualities*

By the time you fall in love and find out they're not the right ones, it's too late.

WhiteRose wouldn't that take all the fun out of it for you.....?

 

[Guest]

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