Okay... here's the situation...

[MaddyBaby]

Okay, I know some of you wonderful people will have some good advice on here... I read it EVERYDAY...

Okay, there's a girl I know... she is moving soon. She needs to help out some family, but was also moving to start a new life. Now that she has made herself more established and has started coming out more.. she met someone awhile back. This someone is a wonderful, wonderful person.. and she loves to spend time with this person. She was sure about moving before, but now not so much. She has grown reeeeally attached to this person, and vice versa. How do you deal with a situation like that?

 

[MaddyBaby]

Hm. No one wants to tackle this... either that or it's a dumb request for advice. LOL

 

[lobito]

If they are truly in love or whatever the situation is, then it's like any relationship, it will stand the test of time and distance.

I won't assume that one of these girls is you, but I'd assume it could be.

 

[Cheyenne]

What's the question though? I think I'm not understanding what you're asking. If the one should still move away from the other?

 

[MaddyBaby]

Well, I guess what I am asking is...how should they leave off later? I mean, these feelings are rather strong... should they just give up on something like that?

 

[lobito]

Why give up? How long has the relationship been going on? Is there a possibility of it going on longer? Maybe even a lifetime?

I don't give up on ANYONE in my life, past or present. I'm ALWAYS there to do what I can, even if it means loving someone who's moving far away.

 

[MaddyBaby]

Well, see... they aren't sure what's going on...they don't know what's happening... like, what the determination of the situation is, like... "Relationship"... or "Dating"... or whatever. I dunno. It's fucked up... but they DO have very strong feelings for each other.

 

[lobito]

Well then dear, "THEY" need to figure that out, before the one person moves away. "THEY" need to ask each other many important Q's about what's in the future, IF anything at all.

 

[Ice Cold]

You never know what life will bring... so why close a potential door. If you have feelings there is no need to push them down.
IF it was meant to be, sometime, somewhere, someday it will be.

Distance should never matter in affairs of the heart.

 

[Lasz]

Family is always more important.
A relationship can end in a week. Even if it seems really good at the time.
The relationship with your sister, brother, parentss, etc. Most of the time lasts forever.

I would say go with your sister. And give the long distance thing a try, if it doesn't work there are a lot more fish in the ocean.

 

[MaddyBaby]

*nods* I understand... you both are very correct. I guess it is time to ask some questions, no? I think they are both just scared of what is to come... perhaps they are both not ready for a relationship... but like each other too much to not have something. Things will get figured out, I am sure.


And Lo and Ice... you two are right about not giving up and distance shouldn't effect matters of the heart. Let's hope this stays true.