NotHisLady
aimlessly wandering
- Joined
- Dec 12, 2012
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There is a huge difference.I see that as a huge difference. Figuring out where you got sidetracked rather than someone telling you where you where you went wrong.
Okay, I'm off to see the wizard.
Turning to friends or family is something I've done it the past and found that their 'advice' was in the form of 'you should do this' or 'you should have done that' which is less than helpful.
As a person with depression and social anxiety having people telling me that I should just 'try to feel better' or that maybe getting my hair done is the way to go not only didn't help it made me feel like a failure when all that stuff didn't work.
To have a person who is impartial, who doesn't have a preconceived idea of what my life should look like was like being set free.
Having someone who knows the right questions rather than a friend or family member is the other thing. Mostly those people mean well and try but don't have real help to give--often make things worse.
I don't want someone to tell me what to do, I don't even want to be herded in one direction or the other. What I want is someone who can help me find the blocks that are keeping me from being able to make good decisions and learn to get around them or tear them down.


