Litiquette

[sereneone4u]

Thank you, Serene.

It'll take me a bit to get back to my regular posting. Feeling rather....empty. I know it will pass as my routine resumes, but it sucks hardcore.

Hugs, Darling.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I am who I am in RL. However, I am a little more reserved in RL than I am on Lit. That is one thing that Lit has allowed me to do....be more free...open.

 

[Paul_Chance]

First off, great conversational run on a thread ChainedUp.

I am basically me, largely because I come to Lit when I have quiet time to relax, post, and read - being someone else would make it work and I'm avoiding that.

Finally, back to something from way earlier that I wanted to share in case someone didn't know about it: NPR Storycorp. Truly awesome radio if you like listening to people tell the stories of their lives.

 

[may_I_please]

I am basically me too, but a little more so and a lot more flirty. I am possibly more single-faceted here as I use Lit as my escape from things I find difficult to deal with in RL, I'm certainly more private here.

 

[stickygirl]

The reason I like it here Chainey is because your posters everyone are genuine - that comes across in bucketloads so ... please don't run out of questions

 

[ChainedUp]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

 

[Astaylith]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I am happy that one of my Lit friends is now a friend in real life; we keep in contact outside of Lit via e-mail and texting. I'd like to have that with another friend, but I don't think he's open to a friendship outside of Lit.

Another good question would be what does it take for a Lit friend to become a real life friend?

 

[Thandi]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I think it depends on the depth of the friendship. I know I have one that would maintain.

 

[Ellafun]

I do communicate with several Litsters outside of these "walls," so to speak, and would probably continue to do so if Lit disappeared. Sometimes you just find a really good recipe you wanna share, you know?

 

[stickygirl]

I have a couple of people I email outside of Lit and I hope very much we keep in touch. They've both been a great help to me as well as being a bit … frisky on occasions.

I wouldn't like to weigh my friendships in terms of who they are - it's circumstances that dictate how our lives change. I've lost touch with a few people since I went to college but I still think of them as friends

 

[rubydlite]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I have made a few genuine connections here and touch base with these people outside of lit. I would hope that in a years time I'd still do so.
I feel that lit forces you to understand and get to know a person in a way you may not in real life....and these friendships feel as strong as some of my 'real life' forever friends.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I have six Lit friends who have my address, phone number, real name, etc. We keep in touch off Lit ( obviously)

If they really needed something and I could provide it, I gladly would.

I don't give that away lightly, though. If you message me and can't feel comfortable using your name in conversation, then,the relationship stops at mere acquaintance.

I Hope that doesn't sound harsh.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I have been on here for several years. The first young lady that I ever had a crush on left Lit more than a year ago. Her and I are still friends today. We email occasionally and had a pleasant chat just the other day.

There are some others I consider close friends. There are also a few that I wish I was close friends with.

 

[periastron23]

I have a couple of good friends here and I know we would stay in touch. But even in real life as people's circumstances change, communication changes.

I think this goes back to the previous question, those who are genuine will have folks they connect with and keep.

 

[ChainedUp]

I've been asked to answer more of my own questions, so I shall. To be honest, I didn't really expect anyone to post that no, I'm not close enough to anyone to maintain a relationship outside of lit. Those that are in that realm either don't know it or don't care to admit it. There's a simple test to give yourself an indication, go dark for a few days, and see if by day 3 or day 5 you have anyone sending you a checking in message. Now if you give any advance warning of your absence the experiment is flawed.

For me, I have a good friend I've met here and I know that we'd stay in touch. I have a few others that I would hope to stay in touch with and then there are those that would fade away, some undoubtedly quickly

 

[Thandi]

The reason I like it here Chainey is because your posters everyone are genuine - that comes across in bucketloads so ... please don't run out of questions

I agree.
Chained, I thank you for the amount of time you put in thinking about your questions.
You give good thread!

 

[ydahecnot]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I am me anywhere. To create a new persona seems schizophrenic to me.

 

[ChainedUp]

I agree.
Chained, I thank you for the amount of time you put in thinking about your questions.
You give good thread!

I also like to think I have great thread stamina

 

[Thandi]

I also like to think I have great thread stamina

That you do! The stamina of a 20 year old!

 

[sereneone4u]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I have several close friends I know outside of Lit. A couple even know my family and have my personal information. I even get mail from them and such. I plan on meeting a couple of them some day.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I agree.
Chained, I thank you for the amount of time you put in thinking about your questions.
You give good thread!

Haha! That made me chuckle.

 

[ForeverDreaming]

I think it depends on our friendship. One of my best friends, I met from lit, and he is very much a part of my daily life, he knows me, my family, We talk and email and Share normal daily activities. We even try to out do each other for best views (pictures) He sends me a picture of the sunrise, I'll send him a picture of the sun set. Even though we met on a sex site, it's not a friendship based out of sex.

I have a few others who have gotten into my personal life, and I appreciate them as well.

The more you let me in, the more I let you in.

 

[NotHisLady]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

I have 2 wonderful friends I met here. Both know me outside this forum, in fact we very rarely communicate here at all anymore. Now we phone/text or email, messenger or skype. I've sent and received birthday and holiday cards.
My husband knows both of them by name.
The things we talk about range far beyond "Lit related things" and other than having the freedom to talk about anything at all you'd never even know what sort of place we met in the first place.
As for that test of yours, Chained, I was gone from here for months and my friendships never changed at all--never missed a beat other than some teasing when one of us "feel of the wagon" and came back for a while.

There was one person I had thought would follow me when I left who didn't. That made me sad but I have to say I didn't try very hard either. Lit was our only line of communication so I could get messages easily but to send them I had to come back here. At the time I wasn't coming back here.

Currently there is one person I very much want to have move into my real life as a friend who I think will make that leap.

The other people I know here are friendly but I think not looking for deeper friendships of the sort I have to offer.

That figures into who does and doesn't become real life friends to some degree, expectations. If two people have widely different expectations that makes a real life friendship nearly impossible.

(Someday I'll write a short answer, I swear I will!!)

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I am happy that one of my Lit friends is now a friend in real life; we keep in contact outside of Lit via e-mail and texting. I'd like to have that with another friend, but I don't think he's open to a friendship outside of Lit.

Another good question would be what does it take for a Lit friend to become a real life friend?

This is a question I've tried for years to find the answer to with many people. I've always been open to it, but not many seem to be in return.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I've been asked to answer more of my own questions, so I shall. To be honest, I didn't really expect anyone to post that no, I'm not close enough to anyone to maintain a relationship outside of lit. Those that are in that realm either don't know it or don't care to admit it. There's a simple test to give yourself an indication, go dark for a few days, and see if by day 3 or day 5 you have anyone sending you a checking in message. Now if you give any advance warning of your absence the experiment is flawed.

For me, I have a good friend I've met here and I know that we'd stay in touch. I have a few others that I would hope to stay in touch with and then there are those that would fade away, some undoubtedly quickly

Unfortunately, I have done this and usually nobody noticed. I don't know, maybe it really is me.