Litiquette

[NotHisLady]

I'm late to the party--it's true what they say "miss a day miss a lot"

I think people gravitate to Lit because it has a sort of laissez-faire attitude about it. A feeling of being able to say pretty much anything at all when, in our real life so much is off limits.

Also it's just so easy once you get past that awkward 'newbie' phase. (There's a small feeling of being a part of the group once you've done that without running away. A feeling of belonging and of having been accepted.)

There is that aura of being a bit naughty too, of participating in a group that is doing something forbidden. The 'oh my I can't let anyone see' feeling is a tiny bit exhilarating.

Mix all of that up with the fact that most of the people here are smart and outspoken, the sort I would like to spend time talking to in real life conversations but never seem to find.

It isn't so very odd that people are attracted and hang around.

Now and then the atmosphere changes and I leave rather than participate where I feel uncomfortable or just unhappy. Even then I find myself looking in to see when and if the time is right to wander back.

 

[ChainedUp]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

 

[NotHisLady]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

Here I present a sort of combination of who I am and who I'm trying to be. The longer I'm here the easier it is to show those attributes (confidence, the ability to say what I think, being able to simply talk to people I don't know.)
So I suppose I'm a combination of the two. Perhaps when I'm finally the person I let myself be on the screen in my actual flesh I may not need this place any more.

 

[rubydlite]

Here I present a sort of combination of who I am and who I'm trying to be. The longer I'm here the easier it is to show those attributes (confidence, the ability to say what I think, being able to simply talk to people I don't know.)
So I suppose I'm a combination of the two. Perhaps when I'm finally the person I let myself be on the screen in my actual flesh I may not need this place any more.

This....


I found lit while literally searching for answers to how I was feeling. From a story perspective...I write what I like....from a lit board perspective I represent who I wish I could be on the outside. I use lit as a way to feel out what makes me comfortable...to meet like minds...etc.
So....like NotHisLady...perhaps lit is helping me represent myself more accurately in real life...not the other way around.

 

[ForeverDreaming]

I am late too, but as for the clique/newbie thing. The other place I tend to not post in or participate in, is when you see lit couples dominating a thread. Some lit couples are fun and I enjoy how they interact, but when you walk into a thread and think "wow, get a room" I exit quietly. Strange I guess since I like to watch normally
I guess that still comes from the PM I got from a lit partner telling me to back off her man for commenting on a couple of his pics.

 

[Thandi]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I am completely me on Lit.....but since being here, I've discovered so many different facets of myself that I didn't know were there.
I thank those who have helped me with discovery!

 

[perkyT]

I am me...and my evil twin...and the disastrous other twin.

 

[stickygirl]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lend themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I spent a few years of my life being someone other people wanted me to be and I don't recommend it. If Lit gives an opportunity for people to safely explore an element of their persona they are unable to do in RL, then it is doing it's job. I think it's a healthy thing to 'play act' as we used to do as children so long as it isn't maliciously deceitful.

Why do people play act on Lit?
Do they want to be braver, to pretend they have sex everyday or have multiple orgasms every time, to impress people? Probably, but it doesn't take long to sniff out BS.
Do people pretend to be complete asshats? Nope - they just are. Ergo - all asshats are genuinely stupid Elementary Watson!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I spent a few years of my life being someone other people wanted me to be and I don't recommend it. If Lit gives an opportunity for people to safely explore an element of their persona they are unable to do in RL, then it is doing it's job. I think it's a healthy thing to 'play act' as we used to do as children so long as it isn't maliciously deceitful.

Why do people play act on Lit?
Do they want to be braver, to pretend they have sex everyday or have multiple orgasms every time, to impress people? Probably, but it doesn't take long to sniff out BS.
Do people pretend to be complete asshats? Nope - they just are. Ergo - all asshats are genuinely stupid Elementary Watson!

I almost hate to admit this here..


And it might come as a shock to some of you.
But.. Since you asked. .

I am the same absofuckinglutely awesome person here on Lit as I am IRL...

Go me

 

[Mindfondler]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I refer the honourable member to my previous answer:

I don't have the time, energy or acting talent to maintain a different online persona. I tend to write what I'm thinking just as if I were saying it out loud. I do review my text for clarity before I post it, though, and this process of tweaking it may remove a bit of character and spontaneity. My ad lib audio clips (see below) are probably the most accurate representation of my real life persona.

I'm unable to speak for others.
.

 

[Aquagal]

I am late too, but as for the clique/newbie thing. The other place I tend to not post in or participate in, is when you see lit couples dominating a thread. Some lit couples are fun and I enjoy how they interact, but when you walk into a thread and think "wow, get a room" I exit quietly. Strange I guess since I like to watch normally
I guess that still comes from the PM I got from a lit partner telling me to back off her man for commenting on a couple of his pics.

Sorry, this made laugh. People are stupid sometimes. Were you supposed to post a comment like 'nice lighting'? If only I'd gotten that PM, I'd have ripped her a new one.

 

[ForeverDreaming]

Sorry, this made laugh. People are stupid sometimes. Were you supposed to post a comment like 'nice lighting'? If only I'd gotten that PM, I'd have ripped her a new one.

Well considering he stopped talking to me at the same time, I got the impression I might not havebeen the only one to get a warning. After that she dominated most of his comments and made it more then obvious they were a couple, so I just exited rolling my eyes.

 

[o_so_wet]

OMG. I can't.

 

[shmily]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I am myself on Lit as in RL. In my current work environment I have to tone it down some as it's a little stuffy, but my RL friends accept me as I am. Lit has let me explore some areas I have been interested in safely. My stories are experiences that I have traveled.
I have been on & off lit for several years. When I first joined it seemed as a newbie you were pushed away, but I hung in there, just being me and posted with lots of people - some of which I met in RL and stayed in touch for a few years then kinda drifted away as we were in different states and situations. Some formed another site - which was smaller and never developed as large as lit but was easier to "fit" in. Easier to publish stories.
"s

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I think that anyone who has ever been aware of my posts, knows that I have never been anything other than who I really am. That has caused problems for me. Maybe it's because I am too open about my feelings or something. Something about the way I post here seems to really turn a lot of people off, makes them dislike, or even actively hate me. I've never truly understood why.

But I have learned to cope by falling back to lurker mode whenever I need to.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I am someone else. I'm an 18 YO blonde girl with big boobs and a tiny ass who loves for older men to have their way with me.

 

[Thandi]

I think that anyone who has ever been aware of my posts, knows that I have never been anything other than who I really am. That has caused problems for me. Maybe it's because I am too open about my feelings or something. Something about the way I post here seems to really turn a lot of people off, makes them dislike, or even actively hate me. I've never truly understood why.

But I have learned to cope by falling back to lurker mode whenever I need to.

I have never understood that. You are a caring, intelligent romantic man. I for one enjoy your company!

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I have never understood that. You are a caring, intelligent romantic man. I for one enjoy your company!

*smiles* Thank you sweetie. *softly kisses your cheek*

But I wasn't looking for an ego boost. Maybe if I share my story, someone else might not make the same mistakes.

 

[photograph]

Evening topic: I've always been curious to know what percentage of Litsters present themselves as who they want to be rather than who they are. I realize that this is a topic similar to bad drivers in that very few admit to being the driver everyone else hates. But, do you think many, some or few post as who they want to be rather than who they are.

I say some, lit is a great way to explore or escape, both lens themselves well to being who you want to be not who you are.

I will say I'm similar. Not the same as in real life, but similar.

Here, I feel more comfortable exploring some aspects of my personality, whereas in real life, I can't express those as freely. I tone down how I act in real life, unless you are close to me. I lean more towards an introvert, and generally stick to the "smile and nod" approach unless I'm comfortable with the person.

 

[sereneone4u]

I have never understood that. You are a caring, intelligent romantic man. I for one enjoy your company!

I agree with this.

 

[PrissOff]

That male/female numbers thread makes me go, "huh?"

Battle of the Sexes?

It's just a silly little game meant to be fun. I guess you just play for bragging rights, really. Once a game is over (meaning it's either reached 500 or -500), it's noted on page 1, and it begins again from 0.

 

[sereneone4u]

I will say I'm similar. Not the same as in real life, but similar.

Here, I feel more comfortable exploring some aspects of my personality, whereas in real life, I can't express those as freely. I tone down how I act in real life, unless you are close to me. I lean more towards an introvert, and generally stick to the "smile and nod" approach unless I'm comfortable with the person.

Photo, hugs!

You have been missed.

 

[photograph]

*smiles* Thank you sweetie. *softly kisses your cheek*

But I wasn't looking for an ego boost. Maybe if I share my story, someone else might not make the same mistakes.

I agree with Thandi. I adore you, but you already knew that.

 

[Thandi]

I agree with Thandi. I adore you, but you already knew that.

Darling Photo!!!!
How are you??!!

 

[photograph]

Photo, hugs!

You have been missed.

Thank you, Serene.

It'll take me a bit to get back to my regular posting. Feeling rather....empty. I know it will pass as my routine resumes, but it sucks hardcore.