Is it a "good" relatinship only if...

[tswyk]

Is it a "good" relationship only if...

it lasts "forever"?


I was on the road tonight, chatting on the cell with a fellow Litster, and this subject came up. I look back on my past - and my past relationships - and am glad to say that of all the lovers I've had in the past 23 years, there's only ONE that I have no desire or concern to keep up with.

For my 40th birthday, hubby threw me a surprise party. Two of my ex-lovers were there with their wife/girlfriend - invited by my husband, because we're all friends. I find that I tend to keep up with these men, because I really DO care about them - beyond whether they are "Mr. Right" or not.

I'm believe that I choose good men to have relationships with.

No, they obviously don't end up as "forever" types, but I leave them knowing that there were other reasons - besides sex or "love" - that I liked being with them. There are good points in each of these men, good reasons to continue to remain in touch, even if we aren't meant to remain together.


So...you tell me...is it a "bad" relationship - a "failed" attempt - if it doesn't turn into "forever"?

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edited for spelling, and yes, I'm drinking!!!

 

[perks]

no and I heart you.

 

[tswyk]

I you too, sweet cheeks!!!!!

 

[bknight2602]

By this definition most of my past relationships have been failures, because I don't want to keep up with them. Others I have lost contact but wish I could find them!

 

[Cerberus666]

I don't think so. Sometimes people lose track of each other. sometimes it's just better not to see the person anymore for whatever reason. That doesn't mean the relationship failed, it jst means that it ran its course and its lifetime is over.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Cerberus666]

How does one explain this to a person that you married...or the kids that have resulted?

Hell i'm tryin to do that right now. With no success. when I find out how I'll let you know. Right now there just isn't a feasable answer that results favorably for me.

 

[Lancecastor]

How does one explain this to a person that you married...or the kids that have resulted?

My ex-wife "explained" it to me in a highly "communicative" and "loving" way , at which time I "heard" her and we "settled" things "amicably" due to our "mutual decision" for daddy to "live in another house".

I suggest you go buy an Econo-Sac O' Parentheses, cuz you'll be needin' them. Buy the Dr. Evil brand; they're "Laser" tested.

In truth, the kids figure all this stuff out in advance anyway...on the street and in school and on tv, where kids learn everything anyway.

 

[Oliver Twisted]

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[Cerberus666]

where the hell do these people keep coming from?