Is romance dead?

[Noor]

I have a number with M and S on.

See, you’re part way there

 

[Mike130]

I like to think there's people out there who care for each other on an emotional level. Previous posters helped me to remember that everyone expresses their emotions in different ways. People need their needs met in different ways.

I asked in part because I've never been promiscuous. Sometimes I wonder if I'm missing out while I'm still young enough to be considered attractive. But then I hear dating horror stories from my sister/friends and come on here and read all the various threads and I can't help but think I'm really not missing out on anything. I don't think I'm cut out for modern dating.

First connections are usually a physical attraction and it takes a while to develop an emotional attraction. Personality, intelligence and other qualities are layers that peel back and reveal themselves over longer periods. It used to be that you would meet a potential partner at a bar or through work. Not sure how it is to date now. On line dating is an option. I guess you might get a sense of a person’s interests better than meeting them at a bar. I don’t know if you have to be promiscuous, but I think you have to have a decent sample size to determine who best fits your personality and best fits your emotional needs.

I dated a lot of different girls before I met my wife. And even then, I kinda knew it was right, but I was so used to being single that it was a major change to become monogamous. But we’ve been married almost 40 years and love does grow…

 

[AG31]

First connections are usually a physical attraction and it takes a while to develop an emotional attraction.

In my experience it's the reverse. Just goes to show that people are funny.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

In my experience it's the reverse. Just goes to show that people are funny.

Me too. An emotional connection had always been the most important thing for me.

When I was a young woman, I worked with a man I was not physically attracted to at all until I learned what a kind, sensible person he was. I looked for reasons to be attracted to him (he had nice hands, always dressed nice).

 

[AG31]

he had nice hands

Yup.

 

[Noor]

Yup.

Agreed hands are important