I think I'm gay

[Manful]

I'm older, but now I can't masturbate without thinking of men, sex with men. I've been doing this for years while maintaining my heterosexuality. I now struggle to have sex with women. Its gay this, gay that, and I'm dying for a gay experence.

My thought is, I might try a gay massage, with a happy ending as a first step. If I enjoy that, then I really know I'm gay.

what do you all think?

 

[PaulSmithers]

Well that sounds like a good place to start to me. Nice and easy at first to see how it goes.

 

[tonethebone]

Nothing wrong with being gay. Why not try some touching and sucking first. Then go back to a women to see how it feels. Maybe try both at the same time. (my personal fantasy)

 

[limplizzard]

After a certain age I had a desire to try m2m sex, I finely tried sex with another guy and discovered
I like sucking a cock almost as much as I like eating a pussy. I don't consider myself gay but who cares.

 

[noonenew]

After a certain age I had a desire to try m2m sex, I finely tried sex with another guy and discovered
I like sucking a cock almost as much as I like eating a pussy. I don't consider myself gay but who cares.

That's how I feel. I just plain enjoy sex, almost regardless of who it's with.

 

[human_male]

Won't know until you try.

I would think I'm gay too except I have this breast fetish. And I find a lot of women so excruciatingly gorgeous.

Sometimes I wish I was gay. It would make things a lot simpler I think.

 

[Jander1]

Won't know until you try.

I would think I'm gay too except I have this breast fetish. And I find a lot of women so excruciatingly gorgeous.

Sometimes I wish I was gay. It would make things a lot simpler I think.

Def have felt the same abouti t being easier if I were just gay. I am in the same situation where I cant jerk off w/out thinking about men but love my wife and find women attractive. (my wife does know about these fantasies)

 

[infinity706]

Well, you might still be bi. It might just be that you're so preoccupied with fucking a guy right now, that you can't concentrate on enjoying women, too.

 

[human_male]

Def have felt the same abouti t being easier if I were just gay. I am in the same situation where I cant jerk off w/out thinking about men but love my wife and find women attractive. (my wife does know about these fantasies)

I've sort of assumed that I'm bi, but I'm not convinced. Instead of being both, it feels more like being neither. Is that how it is for you too?

 

[bi golly]

what do you all think?

I think you are trying to apply logic to a proposition that defies logic.

I think you may find that you respond sexually to people of both genders. But what about emotionally?

 

[little cletus]

I think you are a human being with sexual desires. If you want to try it, do it. If you don't like it and just want to fantisize about it, who cares. Life is too short to worry about labels or not trying things. As long as it is between consenting adults, who cares what anyone else thinks.

 

[none2_none2]

I'm older, but now I can't masturbate without thinking of men, sex with men. I've been doing this for years while maintaining my heterosexuality. I now struggle to have sex with women. Its gay this, gay that, and I'm dying for a gay experence.

My thought is, I might try a gay massage, with a happy ending as a first step. If I enjoy that, then I really know I'm gay.

what do you all think?

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Which part of you is real?

You wrote a thread on the General Board entitled: "After two divorces, I'm not in love with a gay man" (where you later went to say you meant to say "now" instead of "not"). Then in that thread you wrote the following on 06-17-2008, 08:22 PM

You can't really compare the two they are vastly different. I fell for the person, not the label. I never thought as myself as gay, I have always dated and had sex with women, until now.

So over a month ago you stated on the general board that you hadn't had gay sex/love until then with some guy named Roger who you expected to propose to you shortly. Now a month later you are dying for a gay experience. Did you ditch Robert and regain your hymen?

There is nothing that states that everything posted has to be of a serious nature, but lying to people not only is rude, it is immature -- especially for someone who claims to be in their mid-40's.

 

[alaskabibear]

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Which part of you is real?

You wrote a thread on the General Board entitled: "After two divorces, I'm not in love with a gay man" (where you later went to say you meant to say "now" instead of "not"). Then in that thread you wrote the following on 06-17-2008, 08:22 PM



So over a month ago you stated on the general board that you hadn't had gay sex/love until then with some guy named Roger who you expected to propose to you shortly. Now a month later you are dying for a gay experience. Did you ditch Robert and regain your hymen?

There is nothing that states that everything posted has to be of a serious nature, but lying to people not only is rude, it is immature -- especially for someone who claims to be in their mid-40's.

A common problem I fear - especially when school let's out for the summer and the kids are home alone with their computers. One clue is to notice that a person joins Lit in April or May, professes to be a middle aged working person, but somehow can accumulate a couple of hundred posts in one month!

 

[george51]

I'm older, but now I can't masturbate without thinking of men, sex with men. I've been doing this for years while maintaining my heterosexuality. I now struggle to have sex with women. Its gay this, gay that, and I'm dying for a gay experence.

what do you all think?

I know I'm bi and I haven't had any gay experience for years. But I think it might be about time to restart. I prefer hetro porn, but I think the other side might be more fun again for real.

Is that you in the avatar? You'll be beating them off with a stick.

 

[BiDrew42]

Why label yourself? But if you must:

Try sex with another male and see how you like it. If you like it so much you choose never to have sex with a woman again, you can call yourself gay.

If you try sex with a man and like it, but still enjoy sex with women, feel free to call yourself bisexual.

If you have sex with another guy one time and don't like it, call yourself heterosexual. But try not to feel guilty about it - just because you suck one cock doesn't mean you're gay.

Drew

 

[mrb1950]

Well said Drew.

 

[gloriann]

I notice that the "gay" issue is so much heavier for men than it is for women. So what if you are? So what if you're bi? Labels, labels.... shaking my head... love who you love and don't hurt anyone.

 

[Kantarii]

I think you are letting your fantasies consume you from the inside out. That's not mentally healthy. Try exploring your fantasies. The best way is probably finding a couple to play with where the guy is bisexual. Best of luck.

 

[priapusone]

Yes, just go with the flow and see where it takes you...its a nice, very nice trip into your self...

 

[gunthernehmen]

I suspect the ride is different for everyone.

I could only "love" a woman. I like men and the masculine camaraderie that comes with them. I enjoy talking about cars, guns, hiking, fishing, the great outdoors and all the things that bore most women to tears. But I've never loved a man or even felt romantic toward one, but I do have lifelong friendships that in some ways might as well be.

Sexual attraction though, is another matter. There, I'm a bit more open minded. I still lean more to enjoying a beautiful lady, but the right man can rev up my engine in bed too.

There are unique activities than a man can do with a man or a man can with a woman. Liking both is the best of both worlds, at least for me.

And of course it doubles the options on Saturday night.

@Manful, keep your head clear and try it out with an open mind. You might find it's just a phase. You might find you like both or are all gay. You might even find out you like cross dressing or more. Follow your instincts.

 

[jomar]

Um, you three know this thread is eight years old, right?

 

[gunthernehmen]

Um, you three know this thread is eight years old, right?

Well, NOW we do :/

I wonder how it worked out?

 

[Kantarii]

Um, you three know this thread is eight years old, right?

I wonder if he has gotten his mind straight about his sexual orientation by now? Kant

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Well, you might still be bi. It might just be that you're so preoccupied with fucking a guy right now, that you can't concentrate on enjoying women, too.

That's what occurred to me, too, that it's a new discovery and it carries a fixation for the moment because it's new. I think that he should run with it and see if it suits him, but only after making a blood donation. Because after you've done that, you can't donate blood again for another year. Hope that gets changed and soon.