How would you LIKE to be broken up with?

[Propagandist]

To answer the original question.....

Complete honesty and rational conversation.

 

[Mia62]

To answer the original question.....

Complete honesty and rational conversation.

Are "rational conversations" ever present in a break up?

 

[LadyG]

They can be, especially if both parties know there's problems.


Okay, not likely, but it sounded good

 

[Lancecastor]

Re: Re: Here's a classic...

So Lance...you would like to receive one of these cards?

If not...how would you like to be dumped?

*gets out notebook and pen* ;-)

At my advanced age, I do believe that I've collected the whole set of Breakup Commemorative Crying Towels.

My personal favorite was a grrl who had somehow come to the conclusion that dating me for a year gave her property rights.

one nite, after some olympic class sex, she announced in bed it would be the last time as she'd decided to break up with me. She then said she wanted to discuss the settlement. I was like "settlement?' and she said "yeah, you know, which half of your stuff do I get?"

It's a tender story...one that ended with the police asking her to leave and never return.

So at this point...nothing women do, think or say really surprises me anymore...I just try to smile and remember the good times.

 

[Propagandist]

Are "rational conversations" ever present in a break up?

You said "how I would like", not what actually usually happens

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Eh?? Shoot...I always thought...no, never mind.

(I am just teasing you, JM. *muah*)

I'm breaking up with you now...meanie!

 

[plasticman33]

That's it babe! It's all over between us! Go chase your rainbow!

 

[Mia62]

I'm breaking up with you now...meanie!

Was it something I said?

 

[Tan&Hard&Ready]

Rule #1: Strive to be the breakee, not the breakor. Git while the gittin' is good.

Rule #2, if you failed to follow rule #1: don't allow breakor to dissect every nuance of relationship; grab some torrid breakup sex (experts advise something kinky); send a Christmas card every other year;

t.h.r.

 

[Freya]

What I'd like.
"Hi, I don't want to date anymore 'k?"

just get it over with. don't drag it out. don't make a huge deal over it. don't start a fight , don't go fuck someone else. Be honest and to the point.

And none of that mysterious vanishing act bullshit. Just have some balls (male or female) and spit it out.

 

[Mia62]

spit it out.

But isn't this what I am sposed to do while still with him??

 

[Freya]

But isn't this what I am sposed to do while still with him??

Not unless it tastes funky.

 

[Donna Greed]

I don't think there is a way I would like to be broken up with. I'd have to agree with the shoot me from behind technique. It does seem least painful. I do know that my least favorite way to be broken up with is the guys who start acting like total stark raving assholes to drive you to break up with them because they don't have the guts to do it themselves. This one has happened to me too many times.

The last one actually told me that he was more interested in beer than he was in me, but he loved me, so if I would be willing to work around his drinking schedule without interfering in it he would love it it I'd stick around. Suffice it to say I did not, but there is no way he could have said something like that and not thought I was going to dump him. It had to be intentional.

 

[Lasz]

Have a sit down, and just dont do it over the phone, e-mail, etc. It has to be done in person.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Honest, honesty and honesty. I don't want someone who's a coward and doesn't dare doing it face to face (if possible). I also do not want to find out that it's over and that you've hooked up with someone else by hearing it from a third person. Honest, sincerity and an explanation.

 

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[Gilly Bean]

Now, this depends.


If he was good in bed: A quick bang, and an open booty call.

If he was really rich: A quick bang, an open booty call, and a nice prize package worth hundreds at least.

If he was joe schmo, a nice hug, a promise to stay friends, and never hearing from him again would do.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

I'd like to hear "I'm so sorry things aren't working out between us, but I'd like to introduce you to my double jointed nymphomaniac girlfriend".

Then even if there isn't a girlfriend it kinda cushions the blow ...lol

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: How would you LIKE to be broken up with?

Please for the love of pete dont give me a Dear John...had too many of those already.

Would you understand if I sent you a knife...but didn't sign it?

 

[islandman]

Ideally by being up front about it. Beating around the bush just postpones the healing and wastes emotional energy.

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: How would you LIKE to be broken up with?

Ideally by being up front about it. Beating around the bush just postpones the healing and wastes emotional energy.

"postpones the healing"....good point. I wonder if everyone realizes that you go through a grieving process during a breakup?

 

[DéjàNu]

the worst is when they vanished, dont take your calls or messages, dont want to talk... being a jerk finally

I prefer islandman way... being up front about it.

 

[Lancecastor]

the worst is when they vanished, dont take your calls or messages, dont want to talk... being a jerk finally

a nice hug, a promise to stay friends, and never hearing from him again would do.

Hmmm...yes, it's often the case I think that women would prefer to foster an illusion of parting on good terms, yet don't want to see you again...whereas guys tend to close the book and leave it at that without any discussion.

Doesn't each amount to the same thing?

 

[islandman]

Re: Re: Re: How would you LIKE to be broken up with?

"postpones the healing"....good point. I wonder if everyone realizes that you go through a grieving process during a breakup?

You mean, we're on the same page here? Is it a full moon out?

 

[plasticman33]

the worst is when they vanished, dont take your calls or messages, dont want to talk... being a jerk finally

I prefer islandman way... being up front about it.

Finding out what a jerk they really are might be a better way, ma chatte. It doesn't leave you hanging and hoping for something that will never be.