How did you discover your kink?

[KaitlynW1993]

My trainer educating me (theory) and pushing my limits.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

As I learned more and more about the kinky side of sex, an undeniable strong urge from within made me want to experiment with each one. I have embraced most of them.

 

[dreamysub]

I find out I am into BDSM right here on Lit 16 years ago. Had a looong break from all this ignoring my needs. These days I finaly live it and must say I never been happier than when I am with my Dominant and we do all those things we usualy do together. Can't believe I wasted so many years denying myself from something I need and crave so badly.

 

[drobert44]

I find out I am into BDSM right here on Lit 16 years ago. Had a looong break from all this ignoring my needs. These days I finaly live it and must say I never been happier than when I am with my Dominant and we do all those things we usualy do together. Can't believe I wasted so many years denying myself from something I need and crave so badly.

My wife died suddenly, and I discovered Lit, and then other sites.

 

[dreamysub]

My wife died suddenly, and I discovered Lit, and then other sites.

I am truly sorry about your wife.

HUGGS

 

[Cuckwannabe111]

Two ways I discovered my foot fetish. One was watching From Dusk Til Dawn when he drinks (vodka? whiskey? beer? Idk) from her foot as she pours it down her leg. The other was, when my wife and I were dating, she would lay on the couch with her feet in my lap. The people she lived with never said anything about it, and her foot would "accidentally" graze my hard cock

 

[2tallpaul]

I had a friend, a therapist, after the second visit we had to stop as we hit it off right away. She opened my eyes on my sexuality.

 

[Kristal_1976]

Went from very very prude to hanging out with a group of people that made sex a lot more "normal" I guess that I had viewed it, a lot more natural maybe. From there explored my sexuality a lot with them and with others, and from there got on the internet and just started looking EVERYTHING up haha. All this way way later in life than I think most do.

 

[lowcollar]

I had told the woman that I was dating that I would try anything once at least. I had given it to her up the ass a few times. After the last time, she told me she wanted to strap it on and fuck me. I reluctantly agreed. She filmed us while she banged my asshole with a strapon roughly the size of me...7 inches. It hurt a lot and she went at me for a good twenty minutes or more. I found out then that I liked both pain and getting it in the ass.

 

[Deleted member 6789170]

Pornhub turned me out

 

[ilovetobefartedon]

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[OdysseusMan]

Well actually, my ex kind of forced my kink on to me, when she wanted my permission to let her cuckold me.

 

[Meduus]

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[Sgts19]

Watched my very recent GF in college getting fucked by someone else..a pleasure and pain thing for me. Yes I jerked so I guess the pleasure won out

 

[OdysseusMan]

Watched my very recent GF in college getting fucked by someone else..a pleasure and pain thing for me. Yes I jerked so I guess the pleasure won out

I'd love to chat with you about your experience with your GF getting fucked by someone else.

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

I was a late bloomer, like I was 20 before I came from anything other than a wet dream LOL. My wife at the time, who was my first everything used sex as a weapon, so not having any experiences previous to her and having that, it took a bit to warm up to finding out what I liked.

I was lucky enough to have had several women after my divorce help me find out just how kinky I could be, which I am sure they influenced me into liking too as they loved being used, degraded and humiliated. The first time one of them asked me to slap them, I felt like I had an innie wiener haha I was so flustered. Now though, I know what I like and I love giving others what they like too, in that dynamic.

Great question and answers

 

[Goldenfinger]

Being with a assertive woman and having great communication.

 

[KaitlynW1993]

Thanks to a Dom pushing my limits or boundaries.

 

[AprilTwenties]

As a teen, adopted, and living in a very religious family, boo. I'd been pestered for sex by this boy until I finally gave in. We had sex and then he kind of ignored me. Felt that everyone know what I had done, that I was 'soiled', for want of a better term.

Very confused. Found this peer help website/community called 'The Experience Project' to help make sense of everything. It was not only a self-help group but also attracted all sorts of people - sex addicts, cuckolds, hotwives, shemales, drug users...all sorts of shit. Blew my mind.

One woman on there, Martika, had this crazy life. She hooked, had a husband, had kids born of her punters, smoked, drank, did drugs. Very hedonistic shit, boo.

She wrote about her experiences and shit. My god, it shocked me..then excited me...then I found myself wanting that kind of lifestyle too.

I found she lived the next city from me so I actively found her. Met her. Talked to her and told her all this.

And the rest is history, boo.

She's my owner. Has been now for 14 years or so. I sell myself on street corners and hook for her, doing all the drinking, drugging and smoking that she did.

A x

 

[apantyhoselovr]

my best friend asked to jo me. it surprised me he did but admit it was fun. after a few times i found it made me want dick and him to watch. then i found that made me want to wear pantyhose as ii did it.

 

[skriegs]

Which kink do I start with? It's probably boots. I can remember being in middle school and my 5th grade teacher wore boots. Typical 80s look, brown leather, knee high and chunky heel. Ever since then I'm powerless to boots.

 

[Easypeter]

Panties my aunt wore when I was young . They looked good on her and I figured I’d wear hers

 

[EdgySubMic]

Through a path of very gradual evolution and self-experimentation.

I had a very openminded upbringing, knowing about the birds and the bees from very early on, seeing my parents naked beyond just accidently (never sexually, though). However, there was no hidden stash of porn to be found in the house – at least I never found one, but I’m quite sure there never was one either. Internet didn’t exist as such – I first got access in 1988/1989, when I was already 23/24, and I didn’t get internet at home until 1994/1995, over a horribly slow modem that wasn’t suitable for porn surfing. Besides, being an IT guy, I understood that my ISP would log and could watch much of what I did online (esp. in those years: little to no encryption; a mom-and-pop style ISP with a small customer base; having done some browser log spying at work myself (shame on me!)) and I did not want them to know about any kinks. Of course, there were printed sex magazines long before that, but I never looked at such filth, preferring to spend my limited money supply on less ephemeral hobbies. And I guess the kinkier ones were harder to get anyway, being not as openly on display as the already limited mainline material was in my provincial home town. I also didn’t have friends that would share such stuff with me, as I was bullied for many, many, years, and as those few I’d call friends tended to come from uptight or even religious backgrounds.

So yes, it took many years of self-experimentation and reflection on things that had happened, which eventually lead to actually looking things up on the by then popularizing internet.

Once I’d discovered my BDSM kinks in that way, it took a few more years plus a hint from a very good friend for me to discover that I’m gay, which in turn lead to several more specific kinks being discovered.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

I met an adventurous girl.

 

[KinkStevens]

I have so many kinks, its hard to recollect where they all originated, but the cuck thing came from a cheating gf experience. The drive to be dominant seems to have always been and the submissive side developed with my infatuation with TS women and wanting to be punished for something.