A complex question around Prostitution, forced sex, and subspace.

[Will527]

Over several years, I have been with several prostitutes/escorts and I think that most men visit them to get some sort of sexual satisfaction that they cannot get elsewhere, whether it is kinky sex or not.
Personally, I respect and admire the escorts who are smart enough to take great care to check out a client for her own safety. There are those idiots out there who just want to slap a girl around and abuse her to feel macho. Screw that; they're trying to make a living for their own reason, why be abusive?
Unless a girl is working for a pimp or someone else, she has the right to refuse to service anybody she chooses.
I also think that some girls are able to treat the sex almost as clinical - except for some verbal role playing, she can just let her body be used and pretend it is someone she would want it to be, or like doing it to herself. It's just fucking, or whatever.
Some escorts won't give a blowjob to just anybody; it depends on how she feels about the client. She can always decline certain acts stating they are not on her "menu". (This is what some have told me.)
I don't think escorts or and service workers are "asking for it"; that's just an abusive viewpoint. It's all about the money.

 

[subbyclarajane]

Two of my best friends are survivors.

One became demisexual, very selective about sex, and as a result has had only the one experience. The other, extremely promiscuous and if not for her paranoia, has talked about doing sex work as an option many many times (with me, a few times, thinks we could make a lot as a package deal). My second friend, her promiscuity led to repeat occurrences where she convinced herself she did it on purpose and was in control. But her assaults have been extensive. She’s very small, very curvy, very beautiful, carries weapons all over her body, and it still has happened.

This is such a rough psychology.