Honesty on the Lit boards

[koalabear]

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[sirgary]

..Just a thought...

..**** thread...

I have tried it both ways.....honest and open.....to everything being hidden...

Niether way works though keeping it in the open does go further.
I kept one secret and it recently cost me in spades. It was a life lesson that continues to be one of my all time failures.


Because I have several women in which I divide my attentions, I have let them set the ground rules and respected those rules until they broke them. Then I set the rules. Plain and simple, there is always to be a door where if you wish to exit the relationship with me, it can be used without explination...

Poly relationships almost never work....but they exist on lit a lot
mono relationships work half the time...and lit is the wrong place to shop for one.

..and sexual relationships with someone like me should be avoided at all cost. If you never taste ice cream, you will never crave it.

Honesty.......I try hard every day to be nothing but...regardless of who it hurts...

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

..**** thread...

I have tried it both ways.....honest and open.....to everything being hidden...

Niether way works though keeping it in the open does go further.
I kept one secret and it recently cost me in spades. It was a life lesson that continues to be one of my all time failures.


Because I have several women in which I divide my attentions, I have let them set the ground rules and respected those rules until they broke them. Then I set the rules. Plain and simple, there is always to be a door where if you wish to exit the relationship with me, it can be used without explination...

Poly relationships almost never work....but they exist on lit a lot
mono relationships work half the time...and lit is the wrong place to shop for one.

..and sexual relationships with someone like me should be avoided at all cost. If you never taste ice cream, you will never crave it.

Honesty.......I try hard every day to be nothing but...regardless of who it hurts...

This man speaks with much sense...good morning Sirgary...Happy Easter x

 

[sirgary]

This man speaks with much sense...good morning Sirgary...Happy Easter x

..g/morn back at you....and I hope you have a wonderful Easter (watch out for those chocolate bunnies...mmmmmm)

...I am glad one person (you) sort of understood me...thank you...

 

[lonelyinsnowlan]

..**** thread...

I have tried it both ways.....honest and open.....to everything being hidden...

Niether way works though keeping it in the open does go further.
I kept one secret and it recently cost me in spades. It was a life lesson that continues to be one of my all time failures.


Because I have several women in which I divide my attentions, I have let them set the ground rules and respected those rules until they broke them. Then I set the rules. Plain and simple, there is always to be a door where if you wish to exit the relationship with me, it can be used without explination...

Poly relationships almost never work....but they exist on lit a lot
mono relationships work half the time...and lit is the wrong place to shop for one.

..and sexual relationships with someone like me should be avoided at all cost. If you never taste ice cream, you will never crave it.

Honesty.......I try hard every day to be nothing but...regardless of who it hurts...

Well-spoken. Even if the truth hurts, I respect it.

 

[toys_em_us]

Since much of what I expect out of Lit is meeting those who I chat with, Honesty is the only way I can be.. I want that first meeting of friends to be like that of knowing each other for years and not meeting a stranger.
What you see (read) is what you get. No fluff, no added by-products.

Hope everyone has a great day!

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

My personal attitude towards it these days is...expect nothing...then you wont be disappointed! treat as you wish to be treated...take what you need from it..dont believe the hype....and dont take yourself too seriously x

 

[keiffers]

Here's honesty online gone totally OUT the window....

http://www.kgw.com/news-local/stories/kgw_032408_news_craigslist_hoax.1ffb2c9c.html


Oregon man's property ransacked after Craigslist hoax

JACKSONVILLE, Ore. -- A pair of hoax ads on Craigslist cost an Oregon man much of what he owned.

The ads popped up Saturday afternoon, saying the owner of a Jacksonville home was forced to leave the area suddenly and his belongings, including a horse, were free for the taking, said Jackson County Sheriff's Detective Sgt. Colin Fagan.

But Robert Salisbury had no plans to leave. The independent contractor was at Emigrant Lake when he got a call from a woman who had stopped by his house to claim his horse.

On his way home he stopped a truck loaded down with his work ladders, lawn mower and weed eater.

"I informed them I was the owner, but they refused to give the stuff back," Salisbury said. "They showed me the Craigslist printout and told me they had the right to do what they did."

The driver sped away after rebuking Salisbury. On his way home he spotted other cars filled with his belongings.

Once home he was greeted by close to 30 people rummaging through his barn and front porch.

The trespassers, armed with printouts of the ad, tried to brush him off. "They honestly thought that because it appeared on the Internet it was true," Salisbury said. "It boggles the mind."

Jacksonville police and Jackson County sheriff's deputies arrived but by then several cars packed with Salisbury's property had fled.

He turned some license plate numbers over to police.

Michelle Easley had seen the ad that claimed Salisbury's horse had been declared abandoned by the sheriff's department and was free to a good home.

"I can't stand to see a horse suffer so I drove out there and got her," Easley said. "The horse didn't look abandoned. She is in good shape for being 32 years old."

But it looked odd, so she left a note on Salisbury's door explaining the ad. She then decided to call to make sure the ad was legitimate when the second similar ad appeared.

"I feel bad because I was a part of it," Easley said. "It felt right to call the police."

Fagan praised Easley's honestly but said prosecution was likely for anybody caught with Salisbury's property.

Some people have responded to calls to return items taken from the home. Authorities weren't able to say how much or what had been returned, but did say that by late Monday afternoon, items were "starting to piling up" in Salisbury's driveway.

Officers were still contacting people who were seen leaving Salisbury's house with his stuff. If they return the taken items, no charges will be filed. But people who don’t return what they took may face charges.

Items can be returned with no questions asked, Fagan said.

Detectives have contacted Craigslist's legal team to try to trace the ad.

Meanwhile, Salisbury could not even relax on his porch swing -- someone took it.

 

[koalabear]

Great ad Kieffers........*hides my address*

 

[Morrigu]

A ponder.............................

Several people have mentioned men pretending to be women online. Has anyone encountered women pretending to be men online?

 

[keiffers]

A ponder.............................

Several people have mentioned men pretending to be women online. Has anyone encountered women pretending to be men online?

I'm sure it happens.....but I doubt women imitating men is not much of an issue as men imitating women is

 

[toys_em_us]

A ponder.............................

Several people have mentioned men pretending to be women online. Has anyone encountered women pretending to be men online?

Are you trying to tell me something?

 

[koalabear]

A ponder.............................

Several people have mentioned men pretending to be women online. Has anyone encountered women pretending to be men online?

not much benefit in that....if playing a man would get her more women fine, but a lezzie has a better chance of getting women here than a man.

 

[toys_em_us]

Would kind of screw things up on the first meet now wouldnt it.

 

[whspr]

Honesty is the only way. I'm always up front and honest. Unfortunately, I don't always get the same respect back. I know I can wear my heart out on my sleeve but that doesn't give anyone the right to abuse that heart...but they do. I just keep telling myself that all the dents in my heart give it character.< soft smile > Try to keep it real folks...it isn't fair to hurt anyone.

 

[Guest]

A ponder.............................

Several people have mentioned men pretending to be women online. Has anyone encountered women pretending to be men online?

Yep... there's one in the UK thread.

 

[lovemonster]

Yep... there's one in the UK thread.

Oi, I showed ya my boobies, what more proof do you want?????

 

[Guest]

Oi, I showed ya my boobies, what more proof do you want?????

More than that wasn't it?

And you KNOW who I mean you naughty woman!!

 

[Golden_Silence]

Yep... there's one in the UK thread.

You mean the one with the invisible wedding ring and the one who married herself right??

LM .... Its not you

 

[sirgary]

...a woman playing the part of a man on the threads?...to what end I wonder...?!!

 

[Guest]

...a woman playing the part of a man on the threads?...to what end I wonder...?!!

Not the first or the last Gazza. While I concede there are plenty of male players on this board, there are just as many female ones too.

 

[shysassy]

There are dishonest people everywhere, here and in RL.... just a sad fact of life. I myself have always tried to be as honest as I possible can with people I have chatted with. But cant say the same for some of them

 

[Guest]

There are dishonest people everywhere, here and in RL.... just a sad fact of life. I myself have always tried to be as honest as I possible can with people I have chatted with. But cant say the same for some of them

Exactly.... a very good point....though I HATE the term 'RL' with a passion.... To me that in itself is the problem here, and on messageboards the world over. I prefer the phrases online and offline.

This is real life too. Each and every person here is a real person. With feelings and emotions, and lives. What is said and done here has an effect. Too many people here forget that.... or they go on and on about it just being 'fun' and 'light hearted' (strange these people are so often seen in the blurt and cry and what made you say fuck threads, but go figure.... they seem to have one rule for themself and another for others).... but really it's just an excuse for them to act like cretins. They also talk about forgiveness, but that is also a licence for them to carry on with their horrible actions, and plays into their hands.

Too many people on this board think we are all sat there waiting for them to log on. That we just wake up when they appear and we go dormant when they are not. They think the world revolves around them, and they hurt, but their actions against others don't matter... because after all, we are all here to seve them, no? I suspect they are just as insufferable offline.... and maybe their blurts and crys against everyone (and I mean everyone... some seem to have a long list from relatives to lovers, to people they just happen to walk past in the street!) that offend them... well.. maybe it's not everyone else in their lives......maybe... just maybe.. it's them..... and maybe the honesty should start there. With themselves. But I won't hold my breath.

 

[Guest]

Exactly.... a very good point....though I HATE the term 'RL' with a passion.... To me that in itself is the problem here, and on messageboards the world over. I prefer the phrases online and offline.

This is real life too. Each and every person here is a real person. With feelings and emotions, and lives. What is said and done here has an effect. Too many people here forget that.... or they go on and on about it just being 'fun' and 'light hearted' (strange these people are so often seen in the blurt and cry and what made you say fuck threads, but go figure.... they seem to have one rule for themself and another for others).... but really it's just an excuse for them to act like cretins. They also talk about forgiveness, but that is also a licence for them to carry on with their horrible actions, and plays into their hands.

Too many people on this board think we are all sat there waiting for them to log on. That we just wake up when they appear and we go dormant when they are not. They think the world revolves around them, and they hurt, but their actions against others don't matter... because after all, we are all here to seve them, no? I suspect they are just as insufferable offline.... and maybe their blurts and crys against everyone (and I mean everyone... some seem to have a long list from relatives to lovers, to people they just happen to walk past in the street!) that offend them... well.. maybe it's not everyone else in their lives......maybe... just maybe.. it's them..... and maybe the honesty should start there. With themselves. But I won't hold my breath.

Totally and utterly agree hun!!!

I have met so many lit friends in "real life" as well as on this sureal, false, cyberspace message board. Right now I am talking to 4 people by IM. 3 I have already spent time with off line as well as on here and/or by IM. One, well I haven't yet but he is a friend and I would like to think it would happen sooner rather than later. This is/can be real life for many of us. Lit can be a hobby/pastime just as night classes, sports, drinking in the pub. A place to be accepted for our true selves. I make no secret of being bi when on Lit or with Lit friends. Offline, I know less than half a dozen people are aware of the fact.

I connect with friends all over the world via Lit and to me that is real.

 

[lovemonster]

More than that wasn't it?

And you KNOW who I mean you naughty woman!!

Hey, don't tell everyone, they'll all want proof!!!

LOL...I do know... *snerk*