For those of you who don't believe in the validity of on-line friendships...

[Guest]

This thread prompted me to think...

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=104996&perpage=20&pagenumber=1

For those of you who don't believe in the friendships you can make on-line, who think this is all lies and untruths, who think you can't get to know somebody at all (NOT for those who merely think RL knowledge is required to further a friendship), WHY do you bother posting or coming on-line at all?

I won't have any responses, since I am not in your positions. I genuinely am curious why you bother or waste your time here.

 

[Guest]

27 views, no responses.

I guess that means the vast majority of Litsters DO believe in each other.

This is a good sign.

 

[intrigued]

Storm, I just read the entire thread, and replied. What strikes me aside from this topic, is the thread you recently started "just in case you didn't know", I think is the name of it, well, I didn't know. And what I didn't know is just how beautiful your mind and heart are. I am impressed, so thanks for starting this thread...more food for thought, and a few smiles caused by you, too.

 

[Guest]

How's your head storm?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Storm I don't know about the rest, but I believe online only friends are possible. I know I'll get flamed for that, but its my opinion and feeling for myself.

Otherwise, as you stated, it would be a big waste of my time to be here.


dixi

 

[Guest]

Storm, I just read the entire thread, and replied. What strikes me aside from this topic, is the thread you recently started "just in case you didn't know", I think is the name of it, well, I didn't know. And what I didn't know is just how beautiful your mind and heart are. I am impressed, so thanks for starting this thread...more food for thought, and a few smiles caused by you, too.

Thanks, but your agreeing with me will throw off my statistical analysis of just how far in the minority the people are who think I'm a trained monkey typing with my toes. Who lies, no less...

CV, it's been a rough week. I'm sick as hell, I don't think my meds agree with me. But that's for another thread. But thanks for asking

 

[Arc da Rat]

Stormy ~

I think on-line friends are possible. I think of a lot of he people here at LIT as my friends & aquantents. I have also done the on-line gaming thing, so I have more friends there too.

It's just harder to make those great on-line yer RL friends. The commutes are killer.

 

[sexy-girl]

i dont think anyone actually says that there is nothing valid at all about online relationships


just that perhaps there is a limit on how far it can go ... that seems obvious to me i mean you wouldnt get married to someone with only knowing them online

so the question is how much of a limit is there ... i dont really know for sure

 

[Guest]

sexy girl, read page 1, post 1 of the other thread I linked to above. It reads something like "Nobody knows anybody on-line." I'll go get the quote.

 

[Guest]

This is from DCL.

quote:For the billionth time, nobody knows anybody on line.

Nobody knows anybody on line. Nobody knows anybody on line. Nobody knows anybody on line. Don't let this stir you to the depths of your epidermis, much less your soul.






Arc, you just gotta move closer. What did you get yourself into...

 

[Guest]

100 looks, nobody agreeing with the pessimistic point of view. There's hope for us all yet...

 

[HeavyStick]

several of my lady friends have been burned by online relationships..... it's up to the individual to give that trust, and someone else to break it.


Proceed with caution.

 

[sexy-girl]

sexy girl, read page 1, post 1 of the other thread I linked to above. It reads something like "Nobody knows anybody on-line." I'll go get the quote.

yeah but DCL said that so he could of meant anything by it

my point is still valid though its not a black and white issue ... not everyone is for or against online relationships/friendships on here

most people are either saying they are exactly like real relationships or that they are good but you need real to take the next step

 

[Guest]

All of my RL friends have been burned by RL relationships. Especially me.

Proceed with caution.

 

[cybergirly]

All of my RL friends have been burned by RL relationships. Especially me.

Proceed with caution.

Exactly! There's really not much difference.

 

[Guest]

yeah but DCL said that so he could of meant anything by it

I disagree. DCL is this way. He meant what he said. Texan seems to agree as well. Read that whole thread.

Your last line is right on the money BTW.

I just want to know why people like DCL or Texan bother with Lit PERIOD.

 

[Lasher]

I just want to know why people like DCL or Texan bother with Lit PERIOD.

If it helps I come for the all you can eat Nacho bar.

 

[Guest]

If it helps I come for the all you can eat Nacho bar.

I've been here this long and never found the FREE FOOD??? Ah, that does it!

 

[Lasher]

I've been here this long and never found the FREE FOOD??? Ah, that does it!

You're too busy hanging out and gabbing with all your friends.

Even from the very beginning Lit was ALWAYS about the Nacho bar.

 

[Texan]

I disagree. DCL is this way. He meant what he said. Texan seems to agree as well. Read that whole thread.

Your last line is right on the money BTW.

I just want to know why people like DCL or Texan bother with Lit PERIOD.

That's a fair question, and the fact that you would ask it, speaks volumes about the differences in our perspectives.

I do not come here for friendship, although there are people here that I sincerely enjoy. There are several people here that would make excellent friends in the REAL world. I have no trouble using the term "online friend" to describe several people here. I have met a few people (one time) and allow myself to care about those people a little more, because I have actually met them.

I do not come here to find a partner. I am very content in my marriage, and if I were not, I would look for a partner in the REAL world. I want to see into the soul of my partner, and so far, I have found only the eyes allow that view.

I do not come here to find a lover. Now, I know that a lover can mean countless different things to different people, but I barely even flirt online anymore. I've been online since before there was an internet. I did the direct dial bulletin boards with a 300 baud modem, then usenet, then IRC chat, ICQ, Yahoo chat and messenger, with voice and video. I founded four Yahoo clubs, etc. etc. etc. I haven't done cyber-sex in several years because it became boring.

I think I became paranoid of the people I meet online when a woman I had lightly flirted with, flew to my city and called me from the airport asking that I come pick her up. Hell, I had never even given her my last name or phone number. She figured that out from my email address and called directory assistance. She even knew I was married, but that didn't matter because the woman was a lunatic.

Here is what I DO come to Lit for.

I come to Lit for intelligent conversation with other thinking adults. Admittedly, I have to filter through a bit of "stuff" to find that, but everyone filters to find what they are looking for.

I come to Lit to challenge my own opinions and beliefs. While I might state my positions of advocacy with conviction, I am always weighing my own views against the logic or knowledge of others.

I come to Lit for distraction. At times, real life gets pretty intense. My office is in my house. This is the only room in my house where I am pretty much undisturbed. I can watch TV, read or come online. I do some of each.

I come to Lit when real life becomes boring. Just as life can sometimes be too intense, it can sometimes be boring. Lit can be an excellent diversion.

I hope that explains what I come to Lit for. To each their own.

 

[Guest]

Thank you for your honest reply.

Our viewpoints are hardly different at all, though. The reasons you DON'T come to Lit for, I don't come for either. The reason you DO come for, I come for as well. I guess our difference is that I haven't had the negative experience. Yet.

Your paranoia experience is surely frightening, and I can see why that would make you skeptical of others.

 

[Samuari]

Good Thread, Storm

I totally agree with both you and Tex, with this one exception: Although I had a few negitive experances, I have had so many positive that I just can't be that pestimistic. I never came here looking for anything bejond diversion, but I have found friends.

You know my Dad used to say, "To have friends, you have to be a friend." He may have had something.

 

[Dillinger]

Storm - as you well know, I've made some very true and wonderful friends here. And have friends I made online years and years ago who are still friends. I know people who met online and got married.

It is very VERY real.

And I've written EXTENSIVELY on this subject:

A Friend:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69071&highlight=friend

The Wedding (when this one took place I was known online as Aleister):
http://soiuser.hyperchat.com/aleister/Wedding.htm

 

[DevilBoy79]

i have met alot of people online, very few are still around and talk with me, those are my real online friends, it even gotten me the woman in my life, so yes online frendships be it in the same city or long distance can be real

 

[Cheyenne]

I guess I can't answer since I think friendships created here ARE real.