Exploring with women

[dizzylia]

A bit of a thrill? Just a bit?

Your stories are great!

*laughs* And now you're just buttering me up.

Time for me to head out for a while. I'm so glad this thread is alive again! Ciao for now!

 

[Guest]

Ah, but will flattery get me anywhere?

Have a great afternoon!

 

[sweetnlovely]

It did take me a while to realize what it was I was feeling. I wasn't exactly sheltered as a kid... but I guess I just never felt the need to examine my feelings. Once I hit college, though, the realization hit with a bang. And I guess I just never looked back. It was a bit of a thrill, to be honest.

I guess I'm lucky, the realization for me was easy, and I never felt ashamed or weird about it...just kind of felt, well, this is who I am. Maybe it helps that I've always been a very sexual person, and being bi doesn't feel like who I am, but more like what I enjoy (like bubble baths and massages, in a strange way). lol

 

[Guest]

We're both romantics at heart. And it's that tenderness--the pace, the caring, the soft touch, that sets women apart.

 

[dizzylia]

There's no doubt the feelings are different between men and women, both emotionally and physically.

But my question for you is, what is it exactly that attracts you to women?

 

[Guest]

Partly the attraction is physical, not so much in a hormonal way though I absolutely feel that, too, but more aesthetically. I just find women absolutely beautiful in all of our various shapes and sizes and with all of our complexity. All our folds and secret sensitive places and such.

But the emotional piece is huge, too. Just the intuitive understanding of each other's needs and desires and feelings, the openness and communication, respect...


Does that make sense?

 

[dizzylia]

Absolutely. It's a combination for me as well. I just love the way a woman looks. I love the curves and the skin that is so much softer than a man's could be. I love the way women think and feel and touch...

So how did you first start to realize you were attracted to women?

 

[Guest]

I think I probably felt it full force when I was 15 or 16. I recall having had a huge crush on a redheaded girl with freckles who wore Oshkosh bib overalls alot. At the time I rationalized it by thinking that she seemed tomboyish and wasn't very girlish in appearance.

But she had the most beautiful long hair and I just wanted to entangle my fingers in it. Nothing ever happened between us, at least not that she knew about, but I fantasized about her for weeks. Not so much about sex with her because I wasn't even sure at that point what girls did together, but being close to her, touching her.

 

[Guest]

When did you become aware of it? I have friends who experimented in college like it didn't count, and blamed it on beer. For me it was more than just rebellion and the thrill of the forbidden.

 

[dizzylia]

Have I mentioned you ask really good questions?

When did I first become aware... Sometimes I think I always knew, I just wasn't aware. If that makes any sense. I used to become infatuated with the most unlikely people. (Well, 'infatuated' in the way of a teenager. You know what I mean. ) It's just that the interest never translated into physical attraction. For one thing, I just wasn't interested in sex at all, or even dating, so until college hit, it was something of a non-issue. I found certain people fascinating, but that's all there was to it.

My freshman year in college, I decided to take a break from studying (yes, I actually did that!) and went to the little theatre a couple blocks away from the dorm. They were playing Foxfire with Angelina Jolie. The story itself absolutely captivated me, especially since it was about a group of girls around my age, and the struggles that girls have to deal with sometimes.

At one point, there's a scene with Angie and Hedy Burress (She's been in "Gideon's Crossing" and "Boston Public"). The sexual tension in the scene was subtle, but nearly tangible, and I found myself hoping they would kiss. That feeling surprised the hell out of this little Midwestern girl. I ended up seeing that movie twice more that weekend alone.

I still wish they'd kiss whenever I watch the movie. But that's not the point. I had become aware of a... sentiment I hadn't really been aware of before that. I had become completely attracted to Angelina Jolie for one thing (of course, who isn't?), but that just opened all the doors.

 

[Guest]

Now I have to run out and rent the movie!

I have to say that early on for me, there were obsessive, almost fetishistic aspects in my attraction to other girls. I would study my friends, anyone I found attractive, and focus on the smallest details. Even a glimpse could set me off. Maybe by concentrating on the trees I was avoiding a look at the forest, in the sense of coming to terms with my own nature and sexuality.

 

[dizzylia]

What sorts of details?

 

[Guest]

Now who's asking good questions? I'm gonna think about that one. Anything and everything.

 

[Guest]

I had a serious thing for necks for awhile. Especially the backs. If you gathered your hair up into a ponytail, I'd be infatuated. Freckles anywhere, but especially on someone's chest. Peach fuzz on people's tummies just above their bikini bottoms. And underwear. I have to admit my college roommate's panties weren't safe from me. Am I weird or what?

What got me going I think was the accidental quality of some of this. Girls would be revealing themselves to me unknowingly in ways they wouldn't understand.

 

[dizzylia]

Personally, I have quite the thing for a ready laugh, an unabashed smile, unregretful tears and nice hands.

 

[dizzylia]

And randomly, what do you have planned for an Avatar, now that you have 50 posts racked up?

 

[Guest]

Am I up to 50 already? Sheesh! I think I'm going to put up a real picture of me. I'm not ashamed to be here and I have been feeling brave.

Hands are important, and humor, too. Critical in fact.

 

[dizzylia]

Am I up to 50 already? Sheesh! I think I'm going to put up a real picture of me. I'm not ashamed to be here and I have been feeling brave.

Hands are important, and humor, too. Critical in fact.

Most critical.

And I'm not ashamed to be here... but the 'net can be a scary place. Besides, I like to look at Angie.

 

[Guest]

I like looking at her, too, but I'd rather be talking to you. And were it not for the net, we'd never have met

 

[dizzylia]

True. It's like this bittersweet kind of monster. The internet brings so many interests and ideas and people together. And yet, you have all these whacked out psychos lurking around. It's damn near tedious slogging through it all, sometimes.

If I can find a recent picture of myself, though, I'll send it.

 

[Guest]

I'd like that very much! And I will, too

 

[Guest]

Bumping softly...

 

[dizzylia]

Bumping softly... is that like some sort of Forum Foreplay?

 

[dizzylia]

Speaking of foreplay, how important is it to you? And what turns you on?

 

[Guest]

I will admit to times that I am just, well, rarin' to go, but in general foreplay is really important to me, sometimes almost to the point that the act itself is anticlimactic. As if....LOL

But I love foreplay for two reasons. First, the anticipation and stimulation are delicious. And second, when it's long and unhurried and joyful, it's proof of commitment to each other's pleasure, because we've made time for each other. In the modern world that's a rare gift.

My neck's very sensitive, I like to be teased behind my knees and along my inner thighs with fingertips, tongue and teeth, and sometimes I can almost cum from nipple play, when it's a little rough but just right...And oh yeah, a little whispering never hurts, either.

What works for you?