Exploring with women

[Mysticcal]

Re: Nods

Mysti...that sounds like what I was TRYING to say!! It just wasn't coming out right. I too have been betrayed...badly...and although I prefer men, the safe softness of a woman has made me do some serious thinking!!!

Thanks for finding my words...*hugs*

Hugs back for you hun....and thank you for sharing above, it is what helped me to put my feelings in words.

Mysti

 

[Mysticcal]

dizzy, thank you so much for sharing your experience.

 

[dizzylia]

Re: Re: The Details...

First - I love your av

*grins* Thanks.

What differences do you see?

And again, thank you. It's not so much that I think the answers themselves are difficult, but it's more the question of, "How do I fit that into my life?" I want to be totally open and honest with people about it, but in the past it's always managed to complicate things. Now that I know for certain what my sexuality is, I want even more to be able to share that knowledge with those I know. I guess I'm just not sure yet how open I can be, and with whom... If that makes sense.

 

[dizzylia]

dizzy, thank you so much for sharing your experience.

You bet.

 

[plesmone]

Re: Re: Re: The Details...

*grins* Thanks.


And again, thank you. It's not so much that I think the answers themselves are difficult, but it's more the question of, "How do I fit that into my life?" I want to be totally open and honest with people about it, but in the past it's always managed to complicate things. Now that I know for certain what my sexuality is, I want even more to be able to share that knowledge with those I know. I guess I'm just not sure yet how open I can be, and with whom... If that makes sense.

Can't help you there.
My world does not mirror midwest living. I seem to be surrounded by straights, gays and bi's. Some are good and some are bad, but their sexual prefernce is not a topic of converstaion.

I don't go home, so explainations don't come up.
Good luck

 

[snneze]

Dizzy...I am not sure how young you are but it sounds to me like you are still a spring chicken...i really beleive that with time the question of how you fit your sexuality into your life will become easier. you have just now realized it and it will take time to adjust to it. The more confident you become in yourself, the kind of confidence that anly comes with age and experience, the easier it will be to allow your true self to shine. That authentic self (Dr. Phil) is the part of you that will lead you in the right direction every time. Just listen to yourself and don't worry so much about how others see you. Then all the rest of the stuff will fall into place. Of course some times you have to move things around to make all the pieces fit but eventually you will get the hang of that to. For now just try to enjoy yourself and life...you only live once and there is no pause button on life.

Lisa

 

[dizzylia]

*smooches to plesmone and snneze*

First to plesmone: I'll admit, the hardest part would be my parents. They've very... conservative. The type who claim to be open-minded but are nothing of the sort. My mother already thinks I'm doomed because I don't go to her church every Sunday. And then there's my homophobic father... But we'll see how that goes.

To snneze: Yeah, I'm still pretty young. All of 25 as of last month. I'm sure things will work out with time. They usually do. It'll just be a bumpy ride.

 

[plesmone]

Re: *smooches to plesmone and snneze*

First to plesmone: I'll admit, the hardest part would be my parents. They've very... conservative. The type who claim to be open-minded but are nothing of the sort. My mother already thinks I'm doomed because I don't go to her church every Sunday. And then there's my homophobic father... But we'll see how that goes.

To snneze: Yeah, I'm still pretty young. All of 25 as of last month. I'm sure things will work out with time. They usually do. It'll just be a bumpy ride.

I have an idea - why don't you take me home for dinner. I'm sure after they see how warm I can be toward you, there would be nothing to be troubled about - lol
Guess you understand why I don't go home. Hang in there.. perhaps if you keep both a man and a woman ?
Ples...

 

[buggawugga]

i'm openly bi and have had a few brief encounters with women but have tended to end up with men. It's so hard to meet other women. I mean, how do you hit on a girl if you're not sure if she's bi/lez?

 

[dizzylia]

Re: Re: *smooches to plesmone and snneze*

I have an idea - why don't you take me home for dinner. I'm sure after they see how warm I can be toward you, there would be nothing to be troubled about - lol
Guess you understand why I don't go home. Hang in there.. perhaps if you keep both a man and a woman ?
Ples...

*giggles quietly* I think that's a splendid idea. Or maybe I'll just wait until I move back east, then tell them via long-distance. Yeah, much easier!

And I think while I'm at it, I'll ask my best friend if I can move in with her family and be their live-in sex toy.

.... Actually, they might go for that. Ooh, cheap rent.

 

[dizzylia]

i'm openly bi and have had a few brief encounters with women but have tended to end up with men. It's so hard to meet other women. I mean, how do you hit on a girl if you're not sure if she's bi/lez?

Hello, buggawugga!

I would suggest looking for gay/lesbian bars/coffee houses/organizations nearby. And there's tons of other good advice already on this thread, too. Good luck!

 

[dizzylia]

Confusion

Is there a good way to tell if someone is just flirting with you or leading you on? As in, are they serious or not?

... Well, I could just ask, of course. Woo, problem solved. Never mind.

 

[dizzylia]

Update

Well... I finally told my friend. If some of you have been reading this for a while, you might know of whom I speak. And... it went well, I think. I mean, she didn't run screaming or anything.

I didn't tell her everything, just that I'm bi. And that was hard enough. But she seems okay with that. And she's also quite straight. So... I'm feeling both relieved that it's finally out in the open, and selfishly a little disappointed all at the same time. Which is so stupid. I mean, what else should I have expected, right?

Anyway, that's my news of the day. Just thought I'd share.

 

[sensualpilgrim]

Re: Update

Well... I finally told my friend. If some of you have been reading this for a while, you might know of whom I speak. And... it went well, I think. I mean, she didn't run screaming or anything.

I didn't tell her everything, just that I'm bi. And that was hard enough. But she seems okay with that. And she's also quite straight. So... I'm feeling both relieved that it's finally out in the open, and selfishly a little disappointed all at the same time. Which is so stupid. I mean, what else should I have expected, right?

Anyway, that's my news of the day. Just thought I'd share.

Diz, look this way. It could be a learning experience in seducing a straight woman!

 

[jazey_43]

mmmm

....wonders what it would be like to be seriously seduced by a woman.....

 

[sensualpilgrim]

Re: mmmm

....wonders what it would be like to be seriously seduced by a woman.....

OK the word is given. Who will be the fine lady to seduce Jaz? Diz?

 

[jazey_43]

*soft smiles*

Okay, this will be interesting...*gets all goosebumpy*

 

[dizzylia]

Re: Re: Update

Diz, look this way. It could be a learning experience in seducing a straight woman!

Oooh... now that is a very interesting thought, pilgrim. Very tempting indeed. *le sigh*

 

[dizzylia]

*leer*

Okay, this will be interesting...*gets all goosebumpy*

*laughs* Just say when....

 

[sensualpilgrim]

Re: Re: Re: Update

Oooh... now that is a very interesting thought, pilgrim. Very tempting indeed. *le sigh*

So why not give it le olden collage try??

 

[wetpants]

Re: mmmm

....wonders what it would be like to be seriously seduced by a woman.....

I'm in Northern Indiana and would love to discuss this further with you....

I, too, wonder where to find the lover that I'm searching. I like the idea of coffee bars, etc. Take a book, look around and see who looks back..

 

[jazey_43]

Re: Re: mmmm

I'm in Northern Indiana and would love to discuss this further with you....

I, too, wonder where to find the lover that I'm searching. I like the idea of coffee bars, etc. Take a book, look around and see who looks back..

Oh Yea!!! A coffee bar sounds like heaven right about now....a good book and a triple hazelnut latte and I'm good to go!!

Where in Northern Indiana are ya?

 

[wetpants]

coffee?

South Bend area. Where are you?

 

[wetpants]

coffee? jazey_43

South Bend area. Where are you?

 

[sensualpilgrim]

Re: Re: Re: mmmm

Oh Yea!!! A coffee bar sounds like heaven right about now....a good book and a triple hazelnut latte and I'm good to go!!

Where in Northern Indiana are ya?

If you don't mind, I'ld rather watch triple women going at each others on top of bar. One black, two white. This is even better than offee!