What do Women Want....to roleplay?

[JackHemingway]

A non-controlling non-jackass.

I think that is an excellent start. The positives are what matter, and I certainly understand when one's idea of storytelling doesn't connect with someone else's.

 

[JackHemingway]

I think the answer is probably pretty variable since women, like men, are variable. I mean, I'm a woman, but also I'm rather atypical because I'm asexual and have never really partaken in things that are traditionally considered feminine (such as clothes shopping - I'm still wearing clothes I've had for years already and wearing make-up and things like that).

For me, whether I'm RPing smut or something else, I prefer good spelling and grammar. I will try to overlook mistakes and give the benefit of the doubt if someone seems friendly enough, but if it persists, it's not uncommon for me to lose interest. It just tends to take me out of the story.

Speaking of story, I love story! But also, sometimes, I just want to write straight-up smut as soon as possible. Though, there has to be something there to keep my interest. Creativity, interesting characters, an interesting scenario, highly detailed descriptions, a willingness to actually help move things forward, and communication (which goes hand in hand with feedback). I don't necessarily need all of these, but I like a few, at least.

I do not actually know what the experience of sex is actually like (and I prefer to keep it that way - I think I've gathered enough data from reading and article research), but I strongly suspect that it is very frustrating when one partner has to do all the work and the other partner just lays there expecting things to happen with very little input. It is the same when it comes to roleplaying anything (smut or otherwise). I think this is especially egregious with some guys who write RP - especially if they're looking for something like femdom. I don't mind writing femdom on occasion, but it's hard to get into if the guy character is basically "I'm not going to make a move to do anything or give much encouragement; I just want to see what happens."

I also don't like it when I'm clearly looking for a more dominant-type of character, and the character in question seems to be encouraging a femdom situation. Like no, that's not what I was expecting out of this. Sometimes, I'll try to work with it, but other times, I just give up. That's usually when I ghost because unfortunately some people get very pushy for replies (another thing that zaps my energy for RP - I don't think this is limited to men, but I've seen men do it often enough - and it can get way too entitled and demanding).

I also don't like it when people godmod (take control of my character and write their actions and feelings and reactions down for me) or metagame (where your character knows out-of-character information in-characterly - such as reading a character's mind without mind reading powers and knowing that they're thinking about sex even though there isn't any outward sign in the RP that this is what they're thinking about).

Also, if I have something listed as a limit or I express discomfort in something, I prefer that to be respected and not pushed against.

I think some of that is fairly standard.

Now, then, I can't quite remember but I thought I saw your ad in the other thread about scenarios you were looking to RP. In this thread what you've written sounds more general, but in the other thread it sounds more specific. I think some people if they're not familiar with a fandom like Grand Theft Auto, The Karate Kid, or what was it? The Last Stand? They're going to turn it down because they're not sure how to write for those specific fandoms.

This probably doesn't apply to everyone, but while I think zombie survival stories can be interesting to RP in a general, non-smutty sense - the setting (people dying and coming back to life as brain-eating monsters, shambling corpses, worried about infection, struggling with food and water) doesn't exactly scream "oh yeah, that's sexy" to me. Again, lots of story potential. An interesting idea. But not really sexy material - again, at least, to me. Other women might think differently. I do not know. I am only myself - not other women.

I think perhaps the most interesting idea you've posted is the erotic Alice in Wonderland idea - though, I think introducing other storybook worlds into the mix would just complicate things and encourage far more story than smut. I think exploring a strange, unique erotic world with Alice in Wonderland vibes (not actually Alice in Wonderland) would be neat. Though, sometimes, I think people are just looking for a 1 character with 1 other character, maybe a shipping kind of situation, rather than a world-exploring situation. Still. A very cool idea!

Sometimes, some people are just looking for specific things. Kind of have that going on myself right now; though I'm thinking of branching out into a few other things since I've got bit with a couple of ideas.

Thank you for taking the time to reply, and I will take your advice on how to approach people with an idea. I understand and support what you're saying, and it's essential to communicate thoroughly through your role-playing writing experience. From the beginning, understand what each person wants and do not make decisions for them. I often read good ideas for a story, but the person desires things I'm just not interested in or I haven't enjoyed in the past. Not a judgment call, but if it's not fun to write, why pretend? Bondage and non-consent are no fun for me, and some like it, and I hope they enjoy it. Bad writing isn't something anyone should accept. It only gets more frustrating and removes the joy from the content. The Vice City thread has been a pet project for a while, especially after I lost contact with a fantastic writing partner who took forever to reply.
Eventually, when we rebooted it, it was more like a story where I didn't give her enough space. I think there is plenty of information about the location and characters for someone to draw from, but if they don't know, it doesn't matter much. The Karate Kid idea is mainly about writing fanfiction in an established and fascinating universe, although it explores some elements. Primarily a tribute rather than a close copy. I do hope to do something with Alice in Wonderland or someone's adventures there. I didn't want to limit myself, but the more you include, the more unwieldy it can become. I do hope to connect with some like-minded women and write good smutty stories, or at least some terrific fun roleplays. I like having a fleshed-out world more than just an apartment where a couple has a tryst. Like in relationships, if you don't find someone fulfilling or who finds you sexy, it's only a matter of time until you meet your freak who loves what you have to offer.

I'm open to all kinds of more adult and erotic versions of good stories.

 

[JackHemingway]

I like roleplay for real sex not at all.

I like only sometimes writing together a story with certain roles.

No wrong way to be creative or enjoy what you like. A willing partner can make an excellent connection.

 

[JackHemingway]

FLK,

Anything can be roleplayed, keeping in mind the rules set forth by our moderators. It just takes some communication between the co-writers. You adjust as you have to because of the rules but other than that, I don't see where something can not be roleplayed.

I think I've learned that from tabletop roleplaying games like D&D, oddly enough. It is what fits in the framework of the game or story and what people want to enjoy. You might have many excellent ideas, but they might not fit the setting and story someone else has created. Here at Lit, we come together and share ideas, so as you said, communication is key.

I talked to a woman not long ago about her kinks and fetishes. You loved the idea of breeding and other fantasy aspects, but had no idea for a story or setting, even for a pretty smutty story that's limited.

 

[Saltybabe06]

Not fucking ghost roleplay lol

 

[JonathanBair]

I wish some wouldn't disappear. I wish Lit would remove inactive accounts and delete threads. Just my thoughts.

I partly agree.. Tho I do not know about deleting old threads. There is a few SRP's I like to go back to read that was done year ago. Maybe moving them to a "Inactive area" rather then the main list of active threads.... After all I was gone for a few years and glad that my account never got removed.