Does Authenticity Matter Here?

[rick_j21]

Hate to be a Dinosaur but another factor here is years ago there were no HaHa or Like buttons so if you came across anything that piqued your interest you would be more likely to respond which would encourage communication, as convenient as they are, like buttons are not the best thing.

I fully agree with this. Engagement is more than clicking a button.

 

[Neanderthal247]

For you it might not matter.

If people genuinely don’t care about authenticity and are just here for a quick ‘outcome’, then… why has anyone replied here?

This isn’t just a scrolling site with images and videos out in the open, everything is hidden behind links. There are threads, conversations, stories, personalities, inside jokes… people follow each other, reply to each other, build familiarity over time spent engaging with each other. Even this conversation right now… I doubt anyone is getting anything out of it in that sense, yet people are still engaging. Because it’s interesting, and people here aren’t just looking to bust a nut.

So clearly, there’s more going on here than just that.

And that’s where my point comes in because for some people, it really DOES matter that there’s a real person behind an account sharing pictures, experiences and stories. Not in a “marriage” sense, or even in the “dating” sense…. but in a very basic, human interaction sense??

It’s important to some that what you’re responding to is actually ‘someone’ not Jerry stealing images from behind paywalled sites like OF and sharing them here.

And as you will read here there have been people who have met up with other litsters irl and had a great fucking time).

Us women that share ourselves here aren’t just content my dude. We’re real people… 20% of the time and I’d like to point out that you can have really fun online relationships with us if you treat us like women, and not just content!

Was speaking generally, I don't believe it matters to most. I actually prefer authenticity, but I don't expect it.



You're entitled to feel how you want about it, not going to argue you down.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Was speaking generally, I don't believe it matters to most. I actually prefer authenticity, but I don't expect it.



You're entitled to feel how you want about it, not going to argue you down.

Authenticity and morals matter, when you're for someone to share your life with, not when you're just looking to bust a nut.

This thread isn’t about arguing Sir, it’s a debate and open conversation! I was merely continuing the conversation, I don’t actually feel neither this way nor that way and tend to agree (for the most part) that authenticity doesn’t matter to most, however… this space is for having this exact debate (not argument ).

I did disagree with your comment about morals not mattering when you’re looking to bust a nut… and authenticity only being important when looking for marriage.

But thankyou for contributing!

 

[Japansurfer]

I wish I was on here more to actively participate in these threads - but work and life get in the way.

Not sure there is much for me to debate - I personally don’t see how it doesn’t matter - knowing if the person you are talking to is authentic or not is important, really struggle with getting off to something if I don’t trust or believe who I’m talking too.

Just in the same way when I masturbate, the subject material (video or story), for me needs to be believable….. the ‘oh look step-mom just busted me jerking’ whilst I have multiple camera ready and able to take close up shots just doesn’t fly and is more of a turn off.

 

[Dribble]

This thread isn’t about arguing Sir, it’s a debate and open conversation! I was merely continuing the conversation, I don’t actually feel neither this way nor that way and tend to agree (for the most part) that authenticity doesn’t matter to most, however… this space is for having this exact debate (not argument ).

I did disagree with your comment about morals not mattering when you’re looking to bust a nut… and authenticity only being important when looking for marriage.

But thankyou for contributing!

No....it isn't a debate. Far from it. It is a place to state one's opinion. Nothing more.

 

[mickyp123]

This thread isn’t about arguing Sir, it’s a debate and open conversation! I was merely continuing the conversation, I don’t actually feel neither this way nor that way and tend to agree (for the most part) that authenticity doesn’t matter to most, however… this space is for having this exact debate (not argument ).

I did disagree with your comment about morals not mattering when you’re looking to bust a nut… and authenticity only being important when looking for marriage.

But thankyou for contributing!

Most eloquently put.

 

[SpicyBean99]

No....it isn't a debate. Far from it. It is a place to state one's opinion. Nothing more.

Actually… a debate is simply an exchange of differing viewpoints on a certain topic, where people respond to each other’s ideas… which is essentially what happens in a thread like this.

 

[alba_sun]

Actually… a debate is simply an exchange of differing viewpoints on a certain topic, where people respond to each other’s ideas… which is essentially what happens in a thread like this.

I completely agree… oh hang on, I’m doing it wrong...

 

[SpicyBean99]

I completely agree… oh hang on, I’m doing it wrong...

I shall let you off… just this once

 

[deft]

I completely agree… oh hang on, I’m doing it wrong...

No you’re not!

 

[Dribble]

Actually… a debate is simply an exchange of differing viewpoints on a certain topic, where people respond to each other’s ideas… which is essentially what happens in a thread like this.

Actually it isn't...and why this is an opinion thread. Same reason no one wants to define "authenticity" or "authentic". A debate actually infers people care. This isn't important enough for me to invest more than 30 seconds as I am waiting for my kid to get ready for school

 

[Statius]

I usually assume most here are authentic; there are definitely posts that make me skeptical of some users but I simply will not engage if that's the case. With that being said I spend my time in the AH, and frankly I don't care if another writer is who they say they are, it's about the writing there and jokes. I am married and personal, private connections that do not involve writing or general conversation is already off the table, though.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Actually it isn't...and why this is an opinion thread. Same reason no one wants to define "authenticity" or "authentic". A debate actually infers people care. This isn't important enough for me to invest more than 30 seconds as I am waiting for my kid to get ready for school

Not everything is for everyone

A topic not mattering to you doesn’t mean it isn’t worth discussing!

 

[snexxer]

Wow. This is the problem with this world today.
People thinking their opinion is more important than someone else.

@SpicyBean99 you started this as a debate, and thats what it is, a debate. People giving opinions and then explaining where that opinion comes from. Good on you and its a good thread.

@Dribble youve argued that this isn't a debate, however youre argument is the foundation of debate. A differing opinion that youre giving evidence on. The fact you then turned it into "not important enough to spend more than 30 seconds on". Indicates you more than likely were just looking to shit-stir, while waiting. IMO.


Re: the thread.
The way I see it, if you arent going to be authentic and be yourself, even if this isn't the face you show the world, tell people youre here for a quick dirty talk, pic swap and wank.

There are lots on here that are looking for an online relationship due very many reasons.

Authenticity is about not being fake to people, being yourself even with anonymity, and most of all not trying to be something you arent. All this does is cause anger, upset and even force people off here.

I speak from experience. Back in 2017 i went through a mental breakdown, I became an asshole and was someone completely out of character. I lost some good friends on here who I believe I have hurt or angered too much. Some have accepted my apologies since. Some I believe still have me blocked.

It took a wonderful few women on here to sort me out. One gave me loving support, helping me heal, one became a sister and I know has my back, and one is my best friend and tells me things straight.

So yes, Authenticity should be used, if youre looking to just have a wank, tell them so they arent hurt. There are males, females, and small furry creatures from alpha-centauri on here all looking for something and plenty that will match what individuals want.

 

[alba_sun]

I shall let you off… just this once

Admirably restrained… but enough about your kinks, etc

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

My hope when joining (way back when) was to have erotic chats with women who shared my way of thinking about seduction. So, since that was what I wanted, I just let out the way I did things. In the early days, it seemed to find some traction. Being myself felt like it was working a little bit.

Recently, being myself has gotten me nowhere. Unless I play the game the way OTHER's do, I rarely get a simple message, let alone anyone one wanting to have an erotic chat. So, for now I'll say authenticity is not very important for the site...though I'm sure it still has merit.

 

[PotNoodle79]

My hope when joining (way back when) was to have erotic chats with women who shared my way of thinking about seduction. So, since that was what I wanted, I just let out the way I did things. In the early days, it seemed to find some traction. Being myself felt like it was working a little bit.

Recently, being myself has gotten me nowhere. Unless I play the game the way OTHER's do, I rarely get a simple message, let alone anyone one wanting to have an erotic chat. So, for now I'll say authenticity is not very important for the site...though I'm sure it still has merit.

If that works for you then ok.

I rarely get PMs. But, and this is just me, I'd rather be me and do things my way and not get them than have to change to get them.

 

[ScarletDaisy]

I'd rather be me and do things my way and not get them than have to change to get them.

My philosophy as well.

Besides, I can barely keep up with my one personality. I can't imagine having to keep others in line, too.

 

[EvaLane]

The Top Unsolvable Questions

WHO are the “top men of Lit”?
WHAT is this so called “game”?
WHEN will @Lord Pmann share his vaccum video with me?

 

[ScarletDaisy]

The Top Unsolvable Questions

WHO are the “top men of Lit”?

They are bots

WHAT is this so called “game”?

I see a lot about "wordle"

WHEN will @Lord Pmann share his vaccum video with me?

You are a braver woman than I

 

[LostHorizon]

The Top Unsolvable Questions

WHO are the “top men of Lit”?
WHAT is this so called “game”?
WHEN will @Lord Pmann share his vaccum video with me?

All I have to do is make a vacuum video?

 

[rick_j21]

My philosophy as well.

Besides, I can barely keep up with my one personality. I can't imagine having to keep others in line, too.

Having multiple personalities on this site might lead to mental breakdowns

 

[Hornymwtxn]

The Top Unsolvable Questions

WHO are the “top men of Lit”?
WHAT is this so called “game”?
WHEN will @Lord Pmann share his vaccum video with me?

Top men of Lit? Or Lit men who are tops?

What game? The game of life? Love? Sex?

Vacuum vid? I bet that sucked

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

The Top Unsolvable Questions

WHO are the “top men of Lit”?
WHAT is this so called “game”?
WHEN will @Lord Pmann share his vaccum video with me?

 

[Baztrachian]

I think people define authenticity very differently.

There are no "authentic" online relationships. All of us are different people in person compared to who we are online.