Did I get asked out?

[Christopher2012]

Lol no drinks, no xanax....hmmm must be some other drug of choice you've been getting today.

Nope, just been chugging water. Because Manny Pacquiao is fighting tonight. I'm getting SLAMMED around midnight. Bahahahahah!

But after tonight, no more alcohol for 30 days. And I have to eat protein every 3 hours. And I have to exercise at least 10 minutes a day. What the hell does this woman think I am, Superman? Jeez... haha

What's kind of funny is that the PA told me that I could drink only under 1 circumstance. She said that I could have 1-2 drinks for football games. Since there are 16 NFL games per week, that must mean that I can have 32 drinks per week. Sounds good to me! haha

 

[southern_gal]

Nope, just been chugging water. Because Manny Pacquiao is fighting tonight. I'm getting SLAMMED around midnight. Bahahahahah!

But after tonight, no more alcohol for 30 days. And I have to eat protein every 3 hours. And I have to exercise at least 10 minutes a day. What the hell does this woman think I am, Superman? Jeez... haha

What's kind of funny is that the PA told me that I could drink only under 1 circumstance. She said that I could have 1-2 drinks for football games. Since there are 16 NFL games per week, that must mean that I can have 32 drinks per week. Sounds good to me! haha

You are cheating and I am gonna tell!!

 

[Christopher2012]

You are cheating and I am gonna tell!!

No no no, cheating and exposing loopholes are two very different things. You just ask any politician or lawyer about that.

 

[southern_gal]

No no no, cheating and exposing loopholes are two very different things. You just ask any politician or lawyer about that.

Like I could believe anything either of them said anyway. Professional fibbers they are.

 

[Christopher2012]

Like I could believe anything either of them said anyway. Professional fibbers they are.

See and if I had been drinking tonight, I wouldn't be getting on everybody's nerves posting so much because I'd be too drunk....

Or actually.... yeah I would. haha

 

[southern_gal]

See and if I had been drinking tonight, I wouldn't be getting on everybody's nerves posting so much because I'd be too drunk....

Or actually.... yeah I would. haha

How would posting so much get on anyone's nerves? That is the wonderful thing about a zillion threads, one turns sideways to a direction you do not like and you simple move along to another one. Soooooo post away.

 

[imemkay]

Nope, just been chugging water. Because Manny Pacquiao is fighting tonight. I'm getting SLAMMED around midnight. Bahahahahah!

But after tonight, no more alcohol for 30 days. And I have to eat protein every 3 hours. And I have to exercise at least 10 minutes a day. What the hell does this woman think I am, Superman? Jeez... haha

What's kind of funny is that the PA told me that I could drink only under 1 circumstance. She said that I could have 1-2 drinks for football games. Since there are 16 NFL games per week, that must mean that I can have 32 drinks per week. Sounds good to me! haha

Lol. Go back and look at some if the drunken PMs you've sent!

 

[Christopher2012]

Lol. Go back and look at some if the drunken PMs you've sent!

The only PMs I ever send are to you. Well 99.99999999% of them. So if I haven't pissed you off enough to stop talking to me, then they must not be that good.

But hey... Em.... Have we had sex while I was drunk? If so, you know that's rape, right?

 

[GrrlFriday]

No no no... I have never gone into a social situation with more than 2 drinks in me. Never. Waaaay too scared to drink and drive. And I've never had a drink in the morning.

Good. I look forward to seeing your abs after your month of exercise.

 

[imemkay]

The only PMs I ever send are to you. Well 99.99999999% of them. So if I haven't pissed you off enough to stop talking to me, then they must not be that good.

But hey... Em.... Have we had sex while I was drunk? If so, you know that's rape, right?

Hahaha....nah, that's not my thing! If that's what you're looking for, go look for Angie!

 

[Christopher2012]

Good. I look forward to seeing your abs after your month of exercise.

You show me yours first.

 

[Corwith]

As for the comment from a woman who can't understand men, its usually pretty easy. Take what they say at face value and don't try to find any hidden meaning behind it. If there is some ambiguity, ask simple questions. We get so used to talking around everything that we forget that things can be meant in a simple and straight-forward way sometimes

The #1 mis-translation is probably if you ask a guy what he is thinking, and expect him to tell you how he feels. He'll tell you what he is thinking (which is often inappropriate for the tone of the conversation), and that can make you feel patronized or make you think he is shutting you out, when all he did was answer the question the best way he knew how.

I don't think that I'll ever understand the obsession that some women have with hints and allusions. It's basically nothing but lies and manipulation and the fact of the matter is that most women are horrible at it. It's usually pretty obvious what they are after (which kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?) and I would honestly respect them a lot more if they could just come out and speak openly and honestly about it.

 

[Kikoro]

This is my sociological perspective on what happened with the evolution of communication of women in Western cultures. I don't know how to say it easily without it sounding like feminist crap...so do me a favor and read until the end before flaming.

We evolved from a tradition of women being treated as inferior beings, and attempts to grasp some control over our lives required subtle manipulation, because heaven forbid men actually listened to our opinions! It also happens that it is more socially acceptable for women to spread vicious rumors that are difficult to trace back to their source, than it is for us to go around slapping or punching each other. Men don't get called "crazy bitch" when they hit someone.

So, this goes on for many generations, and then the changes start. Well, society evolved, but we still have our mothers to learn from, who learned from their mothers etc... The point is, present day women are still learning a time-worn tradition of Victorian women...even without being taught anymore (read the conversations between "Nurse" and "Juliette" in "Romeo and Juliette" for some perspective of how women were raised in those days). It becomes more meaningless with each generation, but it will take some time before those traditions are lost entirely.

The biggest burden becomes, of course, that layer of communication between men and women. Women aren't usually taught to manipulate men anymore (note I said USUALLY), and yet the communication skills they learned from their mothers still have traces of that left within. That leaves a huge potential for mis-communication from even the simplest of conversations. Men, as the traditional "holders of power" never developed this backhanded method, so its nature wholly eludes them.

Those men who are good at understanding it go into politics

 

[monkeyman057]

This is my sociological perspective on what happened with the evolution of communication of women in Western cultures. I don't know how to say it easily without it sounding like feminist crap...so do me a favor and read until the end before flaming.

We evolved from a tradition of women being treated as inferior beings, and attempts to grasp some control over our lives required subtle manipulation, because heaven forbid men actually listened to our opinions! It also happens that it is more socially acceptable for women to spread vicious rumors that are difficult to trace back to their source, than it is for us to go around slapping or punching each other. Men don't get called "crazy bitch" when they hit someone.

So, this goes on for many generations, and then the changes start. Well, society evolved, but we still have our mothers to learn from, who learned from their mothers etc... The point is, present day women are still learning a time-worn tradition of Victorian women...even without being taught anymore (read the conversations between "Nurse" and "Juliette" in "Romeo and Juliette" for some perspective of how women were raised in those days). It becomes more meaningless with each generation, but it will take some time before those traditions are lost entirely.

The biggest burden becomes, of course, that layer of communication between men and women. Women aren't usually taught to manipulate men anymore (note I said USUALLY), and yet the communication skills they learned from their mothers still have traces of that left within. That leaves a huge potential for mis-communication from even the simplest of conversations. Men, as the traditional "holders of power" never developed this backhanded method, so its nature wholly eludes them.

Those men who are good at understanding it go into politics

While I can't disagree with any of this out-right, and I certainly wouldn't mind not needing a stack-o-psychology books to understand a womans thought process, I think it may be a tiny bit naive to completely disregard the impact that hormones have on how the brain works. Surely that has an impact on communication between men and women as it plays such a fundamental role in defining our motivations and desires.

I would even argue that it has more to do with the diferences between how men and women think than victorian era power dynamics. I know that there are still vestiges of that cultural dogma that come in to play and affect us in significant ways today but I think it's too simplistic of a solution for the question of why men and women have so much trouble understanding each other.

I think though, that as it applies to the current conversation - regardless of which direction you want to point the finger - the take away here should be:

Chris, don't bother trying to understand them. Some of the greatest minds in the world are still trying to figure them out. I'm on the mailing list, so when I get the memo I'll PM you.

P.S. Don't wait up.

 

[harry8copeland]

Fuck women. I hate dating.

The point of the latter is to accomplish the former. Hence the conundrum.

 

[Acktion]

... I have come to the realization that I just don't understand women and I never will. ...

Dude, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if you have a Y chromosome, you never EVER will. It's in their handbook. "Rule number 1; If you let a male figure you out, you loose all girl priviledges."

On the up side, most of them haven't figured out that, yes, in fact, we really are just that simple. Give us titties and beer and the remote and we are content.

Stop trying to "figure them out". Follow the K.I.S.S. principle.

She said lunch. You pick the time and place. Depending on whom you ask, she might be "supposed" to pick up the check since she asked, but I would say no. Don't let her pay. Then again, I am an old fashioned "male chauvenist pig". Just ask my "feminazi" wife.

Other than that, enjoy it for what it is. A friendly young lady wants to have lunch with you with food and friendly conversation implied. If you enjoy it, ask her if she will have dinner with you sometime.

As for the rest, she may be "virgin hunting" to mark that stamp in her bedpost scrapbook and have been afraid she was coming on too strong by making a move. But, even IF that was her plan, I doubt it's going to happen in the restaurant, diner, or cafe.

Unless she is related to this one girl I knew....

But, seriously dude. Don't think so hard. Just grove with the move. Have some lunch with a pretty lady and some laughs.

 

[Que]

dude no offense but you wear me the fuck out....go get laid already or join a fundamentalist sect that eschews sex before marriage....choose.

dealing with women can i admit bring out latent misogyny in the best of us to be sure....but ffs!!!!

there isnt a rosetta stone for "understanding women"...each and every one of them is fucked up in their own uniquely special way..(as are we.)

you think baby momma thinks you are fuckable but wants to "use you?" use her back.

she is LITERALLY asking for it. You can do it quite ethically, you simply tell her you are much too young and immature (this ia a fact) to be a dad, and that while you think she is very attractive..(im assuming she engorges your dick?)...you feel weird about coming on to her (this is also a fact you are weird about everything...don't worry chicks dig weird, trust me)

..that you can't see yourself getting serious so its discomfiting working around such a hot chick (use the word chick by the way that particular chick will dig it, im not being a smartass here). To avoid HR issues add that you find her to be such a good worker that you are glad shes there, and imply that you go home at night on occasion and pleasure yourself thinking about her.

once you have told her you dont want to be a dad it doesnt matter if SHE thinks you will come around or whether she just likes fucking virgins you get laid either way. Then you can decide whether sheathing your manhood in vagina is your thing or whether you want to go back to celibate or try gay or whatever.

if for your own obtuse reasons you reject my sage advice.....

go hire a hooker! seriously....

if you rent by the hour you dont have to worry about them wanting you for your money...(all women to a certain extent are socialized that way and we are socialized to give it to them so your choice by the hour or buy the car and the house and the picket fence.)

 

[imemkay]

Christopher, as your drug of choice, I can not endorse the above poster's advice.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

As far as the titular question of this thread goes: yes, you did get asked out.

For her sake, I'd advise you not to accept the offer.

I mean, everyone has their bitter moments, but geeeeeez...

 

[Christopher2012]

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[Christopher2012]

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[SassySheDevil]

Yeah. My dick is bigger then your dick contest.

 

[Christopher2012]

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[Lord Pmann]

Fuck you then, too.

I don't even give a shit. I'm done with this forum. I'm sick of know-it-alls. I'm sick of people who think they have their shit in order but really end up dead beats with children and no baby daddies. I'm sick of getting advise from people who really aren't shit in the first place.

I'm done here. Fuck Lit. Either you're a man trying to find a woman or a woman trying to get attention. That's it.

Dumbest shit ever. I'm never posting here again.

And in before "You won't be missed," I don't give a shit. Lit is pathetic. Everybody who comes here is looking for something to fill that void. EVERYBODY. Everybody has problems. Everybody has needs. If you get your needs fulfilled from a forum, then you're just a bad as me.

So fuck all of you.

No more Lit for me. I'm sure that makes you all happy. And you can kiss my ass in the process.

How many drinks have you had tonight?

I'm particularly interested in this group of women who have children but no baby daddies... Is there a lot of immaculate conception going on at Lit? Is that a subforum?

 

[Christopher2012]

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