Did I get asked out?

[Kikoro]

All of this would have been very good info to provide when introducing the scenario to us. In this case, I would think dating Girl B would be a recipe for an unfaithful pairing, where you would provide her shelter and care, while another guy would be providing for her sexual needs. That is the impression I get from an engaged woman trying to hook up with a virgin with a stable, decent-paying job. Add the kid into the picture, and she may want a free babysitter for when she goes out to have "fun" too.

I'm not just being cynical here...I've seen something like this happen. A woman marries a military guy who is deployed all the time, but can provide her a safe place to live away from her abusive family. Since he's never home, and not particularly attractive to begin with, she fucks other guys regularly enough to earn a reputation for it. On the outside, her husband acts like he doesn't care, but he's actually a sensitive guy and gets pretty torn-up over it.

EDIT: I don't really agree with your callous attitude towards all of this though. I think you are focusing on the wrong red flags here and making an ass of yourself in the process.

 

[Christopher2012]

Girl A flirts because she likes the attention. No more, no less. She knows you have a crush, and she's working it to her needs. That's it.

Oh I know.... I hate women. Just thinking about it makes me want to jump off of a very tall building. I swear, I'm cursed. I wish there were a safe and healthy way to becone asexual. Then I wouldnt give a shit about females.

 

[Kikoro]

Have you considered chemical castration? The risks are minimal compared to other options and it is reversible.

 

[imemkay]

Well that certainly answers my post on your thread - and I now believe she is truly lucky that you didn't consider even a friendship.

MUMS ARE NOT LEPERS - for fuck sake - grow up

No, we are not lepers. However, if Christopher knows he doesn't like kids, he is doing the right thing for everybody concerned by not getting involved with a single mom.

On the other hand, given half a chance he'd be all over me like white on rice...he's been trying for months!!

 

[NightL]

I seriously don't understand your logic. Either you ARE a single mother, or you're dating one.

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=42703578&postcount=25

shaking head in wonderment

 

[Christopher2012]

No, we are not lepers. However, if Christopher knows he doesn't like kids, he is doing the right thing for everybody concerned by not getting involved with a single mom.

On the other hand, given half a chance he'd be all over me like white on rice...he's been trying for months!!

Bahahahahahahahahaha!!! So true.... so true.

 

[Christopher2012]

The only curse on you, Christopher, is the one you put on yourself.

I hate women.
I'm cursed.
I wish I could become asexual.
Then I wouldn't give a shit.


You know what the tone of this reminds me of? The tantrums of my three year old daughter. Only worse.

This reminds me of the older lady pharmacy techs who work with me. They always get an attitude with me when I tell them to do something or tell them something is wrong. They are being bossed around by a guy who is as old as their children. So they talk shit about how they've been in pharmacy since I was in sixth grade. My response is that they need to stfu and do what I say.

 

[imemkay]

Bahahahahahahahahaha!!! So true.... so true.

Ah, Christopher, I luv ya, quirks and all!

 

[Christopher2012]

And yet..... you still can't even decide whether to eat lunch with a colleague or not without getting your big frilly knickers all in a twist.

I never ever said anything about whether I was going to go to lunch with the girl. I just asked you guys if that was a date. I'll hang out with her.

It gets more complicated... I'm going on a weekend trip with Girl B, Girl C, and Girl D (wbo I haven't even brought up yet haha).

 

[Christopher2012]

BUT GIRL A IS THE ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS. That's the biggest problem...

 

[imemkay]

I never ever said anything about whether I was going to go to lunch with the girl. I just asked you guys if that was a date. I'll hang out with her.

It gets more complicated... I'm going on a weekend trip with Girl B, Girl C, and Girl D (wbo I haven't even brought up yet haha).

Girl D??? LOL. You've been withholding some interesting info it seems. I expect details!!

 

[Christopher2012]

Ah, Christopher, I luv ya, quirks and all!

I love you, too.

 

[Christopher2012]

Girl D??? LOL. You've been withholding some interesting info it seems. I expect details!!

Girl D is actually nothing. She's attached and happy in her relationship

 

[Christopher2012]

Alright I have to go. I have an MD appointment. I need some more Cymbalta so I don't lose my mind.

 

[imemkay]

Christopher, I thought we'd already dealt with Girl A.

We have, but people with crushes rarely act logically.
Lol take me for instance...how many alphabetical reminders did I need?

 

[imemkay]

Good point. Speaking of.. have you heard anything?

Not a word! And I'm ok with that. I hope thing are going well for him, but yeah, I'm ok with that.

 

[Christopher2012]

BTW if I EVER get married, all of you are invited to the wedding!

 

[imemkay]

BTW if I EVER get married, all of you are invited to the wedding!

Oooh, I'm a notary. Get married up here and I can perform the ceremony!!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Will you fly me over from Australia? Can I go via Florida?!

Savannah is only about two hours from me. And you'd have to fly to my city to get there, probably. I can give you a ride to the wedding.

Christopher, Rainshine and I might miss the wedding.

 

[amofiga]

Christopher

There's way way too much drama here and this "work place" sounds more like high school. She said that he said that she did but didn't do and I won't but she might if he does. OK, being single and dealing with others may be so far in my past that I can't remember, but it doesn't seem like it was like it was this much of a merry go round. I think the continuing use of the term "girl" lends a clue as to the environment. When you can start dealing with "women" in a more open and mature way, maybe it will all work out better. Meanwhile, just be yourself, go out with whomever you want to, but don't be pressured to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Be civil, nice, and respectful to everyone, but watch your back because there are indeed immature women/girls who enjoy being cruel for whatever reason and think it's fun to mess with guys' heads. This could be especially true if they think you're a virgin and don't know how to handle yourself. The right girl/woman will come along and you'll know it when it does. Good luck.

 

[Christopher2012]

Will you fly me over from Australia? Can I go via Florida?!

I'll fly you out here if and only if you bring me a baby kangaroo. haha

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'll fly you out here if and only if you bring me a baby kangaroo. haha

She'll have a joey in tow.

 

[AlisonMarch]

No, I don't like her.

Oddly, this is what strikes me as the critical point.

 

[Christopher2012]

Oddly, this is what strikes me as the critical point.

Why? The girl is not my type... She's really tall and thin. I'm shorter (5'10") and bigger.

 

[southern_gal]

Oh I know.... I hate women. Just thinking about it makes me want to jump off of a very tall building. I swear, I'm cursed. I wish there were a safe and healthy way to becone asexual. Then I wouldnt give a shit about females.

We are not spiders that will bite off your head. Trust me I have had an equally frustrating time trying to figure out your species, I mean sex. You are making far more out of what could be a good time, than need be. Lighten up about women, life in general and have fun. Believe me time goes by before you know it. Be selective in your mate but by all means, lose that ever present I hate women attitude. That, or enjoy your hand.