Does anyone experience having clitoris too sensitive after orgasm to continue. what can I do

[AsiRua]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

 

[Loyalish1245]

My wife has struggled with clitoral sensitivity, her whole life. We have learned to alternate between nipple, penetrative, and gentle stimulation to hold off on orgasm. Her problem is that she has found if she delays it too long she cannot achieve orgasm. So there’s a delicate balance. I don’t have any real suggestions, but I hope you can find something that will help you be successful.

 

[IARainman]

As was said above , if clit is too sensitive, focus on other areas, especially with an understanding partner, and can they make it wet and horny with nipple play. One of my favorites is fingering her g spot while tonguing her anus, if that doesn't get you there, you can finish with your clit... have fun, don't stress!

 

[WetSubGirl]

I may recommend a great education site- omgyes.com.
I'm not related to that site in any way, it's a paid site (one time purchase), very user friendly, tons of useful practical information.

 

[Rob_Royale]

If my wifes first O which is usually brought on by oral/finger combo or a vibrator, she's not ready for more clitoral stim. She gets over-stimed.
At that point she loves penetrative attention.

It's all about experimentation and trying new things at new times. A finger on my wifes G-spot with the vibe on her clit is a guaranteed squirting orgasm for her, and then I'll slide inside her fast, and really get agressive. The next O is usually a screamer and I don't stop until I cum.

 

[eaee]

Your comments sound entirely normal and within the boundaries of "normal" sexual responses to this old guy who is not expert but has a little, shall we say, history. There are wide variations in the response of all humans, women especially, to sexual arousal. Clitoral sensitivity after climax? Normal for some not for others. Some times lack of sexual desire? Normal--one lady told me if a cock wasn't available, she had no desire for sex--ever.. An inclination toward intimacy with a female? Normal. I'd suggest you try it at least.
Keep on keeping on. And better late than never.
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[Mrs_and_mr]

Very common. You just have to focus on somewhere else and come back to it. Everyone is different, I was with a lady that when her clit got overly sensitive she would want me to press hard on the area.

 

[GentleFlower]

I do experience high sensitivity of my clitoris after i orgasm sometimes. When that happened in past sometimes I asked my bf at the time to go slower or to stop for few moments.

But later I learned to overcome it in a submissive way. I try to just let it happen as I have in my mind the idea of submitting to him and being there for him... so i kind of just let it happen even if it is intense for me because i wish to be there for him when he needs me and i find way to submit to him. I love being submissive so that helps. Hopefully you know what I mean. Usually quiet soon after he proceeds it is not sensitive anymore.