Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[SassyPixiedust]

And lots of bear hugs!

I do love being hugged

 

[Azuldrgon]

I do love being hugged

She does. lol

 

[SassyPixiedust]

She does. lol

And coffee

 

[SnowIris]

@barefootgirl69 thanks for posting that question earlier, a lot of great conversation in the thread because of it

 

[Deadbed1968]

DPR and I were discussing my idea for a separate personals thread for Daddies and Littles to meet. Several of y’all were concerned about safety, and how to maintain some semblance of protection against the bad actors on Lit. This is an entirely valid concern. DPR came up with the idea of someone (me) maintaining a list of the Daddies and Littles who are looking for a connection. Members could PM the maintainer if they want to be on the list, along with their alignment. Once we vet the requestor by examining their post history (or for those who have proved themselves through their interactions on the thread) we add them to the list, and send them a copy.

I thought this was a good way to provide some protection and filter out the bad actors. What do you all think about this?? Would you be interested?

 

[SassyPixiedust]

DPR and I were discussing my idea for a separate personals thread for Daddies and Littles to meet. Several of y’all were concerned about safety, and how to maintain some semblance of protection against the bad actors on Lit. This is an entirely valid concern. DPR came up with the idea of someone (me) maintaining a list of the Daddies and Littles who are looking for a connection. Members could PM the maintainer if they want to be on the list, along with their alignment. Once we vet the requestor by examining their post history (or for those who have proved themselves through their interactions on the thread) we add them to the list, and send them a copy.

I thought this was a good way to provide some protection and filter out the bad actors. What do you all think about this?? Would you be interested?

I actually like this idea!

 

[Sexy_Singer]

DPR and I were discussing my idea for a separate personals thread for Daddies and Littles to meet. Several of y’all were concerned about safety, and how to maintain some semblance of protection against the bad actors on Lit. This is an entirely valid concern. DPR came up with the idea of someone (me) maintaining a list of the Daddies and Littles who are looking for a connection. Members could PM the maintainer if they want to be on the list, along with their alignment. Once we vet the requestor by examining their post history (or for those who have proved themselves through their interactions on the thread) we add them to the list, and send them a copy.

I thought this was a good way to provide some protection and filter out the bad actors. What do you all think about this?? Would you be interested?

Lol. So the maintainer is a "matchmaker"?

I think the idea of finding a way to interact is a good idea. I also think that decision on how to do it should rest on the the ones whose safety is most at stake.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It could work but, as an adult, I prefer to do my own vetting.

 

[Deadbed1968]

It could work but, as an adult, I prefer to do my own vetting.

Once you get the list, you would always be able to re-review anyone on the list.

 

[Deadbed1968]

I will pass on joining the list. But happily support anyone who decides to join it. Like BFG I prefer to do my own vetting too. It's served me well in the past.

Please don’t say in the open whether you want to be on the list. We’re just discussing it now. If we start, all correspondence should be PMs to maintain some privacy.

 

[SnowIris]

I can appreciate wanting to make things easier/eliminate some risk, but the idea of a list makes me a bit uncomfortable. Can’t really explain why, other than just a gut feeling for me. But of course, everyone is different.

 

[barefootgirl69]

If we're discussing it, then I think it should be in the open, both pro and con.



The biggest con would be allowing someone other than myself to be a "protector".

 

[cascadiabound]

If we're discussing it, then I think it should be in the open, both pro and con.



The biggest con would be allowing someone other than myself to be a "protector".

I don't know how I feel about this idea, but I'm also coupled up so I don't currently need a Dlg personals forum

bfg - would you consider collaborating with Deadbed on such a project?

 

[SnowIris]

Couldn’t agree more, BFG.

I think the very nature of who we are as people means that we all are going to have differing views on what is or isn’t right for us or what we want from a potential partner. Trusting someone else to verify a person’s worthiness is a slippery slope when you are the only one who can truly know what you want/need.

 

[Deadbed1968]

If we're discussing it, then I think it should be in the open, both pro and con

Absolutely. I just don’t want anyone announcing publicly if they want to be added to the list. Discussions on the idea itself, both pro and con are absolutely welcome!!

 

[barefootgirl69]

No, @cascadiabound - I have too much going on in my home life to be able to spend time doing a good job at vetting an entire group of people.

 

[Deadbed1968]

Couldn’t agree more, BFG.

I think the very nature of who we are as people means that we all are going to have differing views on what is or isn’t right for us or what we want from a potential partner. Trusting someone else to verify a person’s worthiness is a slippery slope when you are the only one who can truly know what you want/need.

The idea was to filter out the bad actors who have either demonstrated themselves to be untrustworthy, or people who are brand new and who have not yet proven themselves. No method will be perfect, we just want to provide a first pass before we allow someone to be added. You can always re-examine anyone prior to reaching out.

 

[Deadbed1968]

NP all! It’s just an idea. Sounds like the majority disagree. I can absolutely accept that.

 

[SnowIris]

The idea was to filter out the bad actors who have either demonstrated themselves to be untrustworthy, or people who are brand new and who have not yet proven themselves. No method will be perfect, we just want to provide a first pass before we allow someone to be added. You can always re-examine anyone prior to reaching out.

I understand the concept of what you’re trying to accomplish, I just think there’s a lot of ways it could go wrong.

 

[Deadbed1968]

I understand the concept of what you’re trying to accomplish, I just think there’s a lot of ways it could go wrong.

Yes, it certainly could. I was just trying to figure out a way where we limit exposure. NP. I think the majority has spoken.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

@Deadbed1968

Kudos for the attempt to try to do a good thing. I can say that it is not system that I would be comfortable with.

 

[Deadbed1968]

Good night all!!

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

“Funishment”! I love this!!

You've never heard of funishment?!?

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

DPR and I were discussing my idea for a separate personals thread for Daddies and Littles to meet. Several of y’all were concerned about safety, and how to maintain some semblance of protection against the bad actors on Lit. This is an entirely valid concern. DPR came up with the idea of someone (me) maintaining a list of the Daddies and Littles who are looking for a connection. Members could PM the maintainer if they want to be on the list, along with their alignment. Once we vet the requestor by examining their post history (or for those who have proved themselves through their interactions on the thread) we add them to the list, and send them a copy.

I thought this was a good way to provide some protection and filter out the bad actors. What do you all think about this?? Would you be interested?

It sounds like a lot of extra work for you... Plus, if someone was deemed good in January, would you check them again in April before giving out their name, just in case? Plus, what you think is good may not be what someone else thinks is.

 

[cascadiabound]

You've never heard of funishment?!?

Clearly he hasn't been doing a deep dive into the bdsm resources of lit. Lol