Change in vagina due to menopause?

[midwestmomlvr]

I have a question for the women on this forum, but men should feel free to chime in also if they’ve experienced the same thing.

My wife is in her mid-50’s and for the last year or so her (normally amazing) vaginal secretions are a deterrent to me wanting to go down on her. If I’m being honest, her smell is downright repulsive and smells like green onions. She recently brought this up to her OB/GYN and was told the change was likely due to menopause. Other than that, the doctor didn’t provide any recommendations for how she might try and change her “body chemistry.” For me this is a HUGE downer because I am very oral and love giving oral sex. Due to her unpleasant smell and taste though, I haven’t even attempted to go down on her.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, what did you do (if anything) to remedy the situation?

 

[TemptationTango]

Nope, my wife's pie dried up with menopause. It's now posted, "NO ENTRY".

Trade you one Bonneville Salt Flat, for the Ganges River in India?

 

[Bisexguy70]

My wife dried up after menopause. It also started to hurt with penetration. Shes not into hormone stuff because of the cancer risk. Yes she did have localized appendix cancer but not due to that. She didnt want to risk it.
So what did i do;
Well, i found comfort in sexual activity with other men. Im not attracted to guys where i want a relationship, just the shared sexual release. I can tell you a mans ass is incredible to fuck. I loved eating my wife out too but shes not into that anymore. So i find comfort with giving and receiving oral with men. I must admit i love pleasing another person sexually and find great erotic fun. Just a thought. If your straight, thats understandable but dont dismiss it until youve tried it.

 

[Codoc24]

I never noticed an unusual or different smell when my wife went through menopause. Unfortunately, it became too painful for her to have intercourse, so we had to stop.

 

[BCJ111]

My partner has had no change in smell - but we do have to treat each penetration as "virginal" and use a lot of lube to get past the gates. Once slowly warmed up - all is well.

 

[hulmule]

Guys! Get your wives on vaginal estrogen cream. Stays local, keeps the pussy young without cancer risk!

Thought any of those things are cancer causing. Mine is like the other. Wont let me go dont on her(thinks its dirty now) Yes very dry and painful and she wont let me near her. Even to rub the head of my cock on the entrance makes her jump. So miss being inside her. But i did see something in the news on something new and not canacer causing... I respect my wife and her body, but what are we supposed to do with our sexual energy? Hand and cock not playing well...

 

[KatieDoes]

Guys! Get your wives on vaginal estrogen cream. Stays local, keeps the pussy young without cancer risk!

Guys! Your wives can make their own medical decisions about their own bodies!

 

[KatieDoes]

Of course. Do you think most of you would choose painful, dried up vaginas though?

We’re good. We have doctors and we can speak directly with them.

 

[luckyseven]

Guys! Get your wives on vaginal estrogen cream. Stays local, keeps the pussy young without cancer risk!

My wife dried up after menopause. It also started to hurt with penetration.

Vaginal oestrogen does not have the same risks as other types of HRT because the dose is low, and little of the medicine gets into the rest of your body. It can take up to 3 months to work fully, so no PIV sex whilst it takes effect.

 

[Katch123]

My wife dried up after menopause. It also started to hurt with penetration.

Vaginal oestrogen does not have the same risks as other types of HRT because the dose is low, and little of the medicine gets into the rest of your body. It can take up to 3 months to work fully, so no PIV sex whilst it takes effect.

The preferred delivery method? I'd slip on a condom and slather it up, here you go honey, I've got your med right here.

 

[Dnthmn_19]

My wife is long past menopause and the rare time I manage to get down there she smells and tastes just fine. The problem for us at age 66 is it's just more difficult to reach orgasm. So, we keep toys and lube handy and enjoy each other as best we can.

 

[PMarky2]

Menopause made her a little dry, but lube fixed that problem. The other noticeable effect was a decline in spontaneity, but sex on Wednesday afternoon is still regular sex and she would still get a little adventurous/kinky. So in that regard menopause was kind to us, and my wife was relieved not to have to deal with periods anymore. We might not have been at it like randy twenty-somethings, but we were still at it.

Autoimmune problems, on the other hand are the devil's way of destroying a happy marriage.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Guys! Your wives can make their own medical decisions about their own bodies!

This thread is terribly insulting & minimizes the very real, other issues that accompany menopause, such as depression and self esteem issues. Being "dried up," as it's so callously coined here is quite literally just 1 of a slew of problems associated with menopause.
A 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 OBGYN is definitely needed but also maybe a therapist. I mean, I'd certainly want a therapist if, bare minimum, my husband only cared about not getting a good suck & fuck in. Yes, men have needs, but I'd argue that a woman suffering through menopause has even greater needs, the chief of those being the need for support, patience, & consideration.

 

[Excitabletom]

I don't think we are trying to be disrespectful to our wives / women, we are sharing our expereinces of life. Yes, maybe we use crude langague, but that's how men sometimes talk. This subject, like many, many subjects on this site allow us to find out we are "not the only ones" with this. From bisexuality to other interests, we now know we are not alone and wondering if we have somethig unique going on. I apprciate the honesty shared on this thread and most others.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

This thread is terribly insulting & minimizes the very real, other issues that accompany menopause, such as depression and self esteem issues. Being "dried up," as it's so callously coined here is quite literally just 1 of a slew of problems associated with menopause.
A 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 OBGYN is definitely needed but also maybe a therapist. I mean, I'd certainly want a therapist if, bare minimum, my husband only cared about not getting a good suck & fuck in. Yes, men have needs, but I'd argue that a woman suffering through menopause has even greater needs, the chief of those being the need for support, patience, & consideration

All good points and ones us males should heed…

Having said that, I think there is some jocular humor and though crude, it’s coming from a place of caring and love. I agree with an above poster, lots of times this is the only place we men can come and find like minded folks who have/are walking the same path and can feel free to ask questions…hopefully judgment free.

Here is a copy and paste from a PM I have with some things that may be of interest to the OP…the suppositories she uses are a chocolate smell, so it may help with his olfactory issues…

Everything is organic but if she’s interested just do some due diligence and research everything.

The creme she uses is called Silky Peachy Crème…the web site was Parlorgames.com or org (I think). Should be able to just put it in the search.

It won’t let me upload a pic but the name of the other creme is Organic excellence Balance Plus Therapy
organicexcellece.com

The oil is a CBD based sort of thing used for arousal. I can attest that it works as she puts it on me also! I’ll get you the name later.

PS here is the crème web: https://www.parlor-games.com/shop/SPCMASTER.html

The CBD oil is called BHRT naturals…

DEAH oil. I think what she uses is the progesterone crème out of this…

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

Here is another tidbit that may help some couples…

Responsive desire
Never in the mood
Both of these are basically the same, but it explains what my wife was feeling. After reading those she was like, YES! This is what’s happening…

 

[Crios]

I have a question for the women on this forum, but men should feel free to chime in also if they’ve experienced the same thing.

My wife is in her mid-50’s and for the last year or so her (normally amazing) vaginal secretions are a deterrent to me wanting to go down on her. If I’m being honest, her smell is downright repulsive and smells like green onions. She recently brought this up to her OB/GYN and was told the change was likely due to menopause. Other than that, the doctor didn’t provide any recommendations for how she might try and change her “body chemistry.” For me this is a HUGE downer because I am very oral and love giving oral sex. Due to her unpleasant smell and taste though, I haven’t even attempted to go down on her.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, what did you do (if anything) to remedy the situation?

Yes. In addition to losing a lot of her natural lubrication, the odor from her vagina has become very strong. After she goes to the bathroom, for example, I have a hard time using the toilet because of the smell. She doesn’t shower every day but she has started wiping her vagina with a warm wet washcloth daily as well as before we play. The Premarin cream she was prescribed for the dryness was supposed to help with the odor too but she never uses it anymore.

She actually never noticed the smell (nose deaf?) until I said something.

 

[Liquor_Starfish]

My SO uses Hyaluronic acid, I forget the brand name. It works amazingly well, as sex used to be painful for her, but not since she started using it.

 

[Stromer]

I have a question for the women on this forum, but men should feel free to chime in also if they’ve experienced the same thing.

My wife is in her mid-50’s and for the last year or so her (normally amazing) vaginal secretions are a deterrent to me wanting to go down on her. If I’m being honest, her smell is downright repulsive and smells like green onions. She recently brought this up to her OB/GYN and was told the change was likely due to menopause. Other than that, the doctor didn’t provide any recommendations for how she might try and change her “body chemistry.” For me this is a HUGE downer because I am very oral and love giving oral sex. Due to her unpleasant smell and taste though, I haven’t even attempted to go down on her.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, what did you do (if anything) to remedy the situation?

Yes. When my wife started going the change, her smell and taste changed for the worse as well. The wife of one the couples we played with also went through the same thing, but not nearly as bad as my wife. Luckily it only lasted a few months and pretty much returned to her normal smell and taste, maybe a little stronger than before, but not nearly as bad as it was.
Menopause really didn't change her sex drive or natural lubrication until a few years ago, and I still think the trauma of breaking her hip and having a full replacement really helped accelerate some of the effects of menopause. Now she has no natural lubrication and even with lube, vaginal sex is a no go. But she still enjoys the occasional fingering and clit play to orgasm and doesn't hesitate to deep throat me whenever I ask. Which isn't that often anymore. Dam, I'm getting old.

 

[PSO77]

I am sorry to hear about your wife and how menopause as affected your sex life. Ganja helps with that. I know it's legal where I live. Both medicine only and recreationally. I don't know if it's legal or you are but they have edibles for libido and they work. Also there are lubricants your wife can use to help with the lubrication. I have to use that sometimes myself. It works as well.

I have noticed that at first menopause seemed to take away my libido but really that was anxiety. Lately though menopause has heightened it to the point where I am so horny everyday that I have to masturbate often. And the orgasms are so strong. I have multiples every time. It just keeps coming (pun intended). I use vibrators ory finger. My husband makes me cum so hard when he is eating me out, But then I get too sensitive down there. My clit becomes so sensitive that I can't have his tongue on it for a little bit. Then I need the vibrator as it's different texture which I ask him to join in with. But so far these days at the age of 47, I have been a horn dog. Like I have been masturbating for the last 2 weeks. I think I'm more perimenopausal because even though I've had a hysterectomy I still only just have my ovaries as my fallopian tubes uterus and cervix were taken. All by choice! But, since I've become perimenopausal I'm starting to experience these heightened feelings of arousal. I can be doing some boring s*** or something like I don't know cleaning the cat litter box and the next thing you know I become totally aroused thinking about either my husband or a story I read on Literotica or hypnosis or audio I listened to (J256, I am waiting for another audio! You are brilliant!. Today I re-listened to session 6 and came so hard!).

I hope that things change for you and your wife.

 

[Britva415]

Here is another tidbit that may help some couples…

Responsive desire
Never in the mood
Both of these are basically the same, but it explains what my wife was feeling. After reading those she was like, YES! This is what’s happening…

How did that help?

Did it just help to normalize the sexless relationship? Or did it somehow help it not stay sexless?

 

[PSO77]

Yes. In addition to losing a lot of her natural lubrication, the odor from her vagina has become very strong. After she goes to the bathroom, for example, I have a hard time using the toilet because of the smell. She doesn’t shower every day but she has started wiping her vagina with a warm wet washcloth daily as well as before we play. The Premarin cream she was prescribed for the dryness was supposed to help with the odor too but she never uses it anymore.

She actually never noticed the smell (nose deaf?) until I said something.

Yeah pH balance does change. I know that for me it's changed in the way my breast smell when I sweat. I do shower everyday though which helps. I can't see myself going without a shower everyday. If your wife is interested maybe she should visit A GYN who is compassionate and empathetic and can help her through this. There's a lot of other things that are in this like somebody else stated going through menopause is not easy. It does affect self-esteem big time and it messes with chemical imbalances in the brain
The depression I have experienced alone along with the hot flashes have been awful. However what works for me is marijuana. And also I take equelle. Maybe sit with your wife and remember why you married her. Remember how she does turn you on and tell her that. Ask her how she's been feeling. Sometimes that helps too.

 

[Lucien_Al]

We have not encountered any change to odour or taste but on the dryness we have found that using the V Sculpt device that was recommended by a doctor has made the world of a difference. It is an expensive toy but she raves about the benefits and can immediately tell the difference if she forgets to use it for a few days.

For us the most important benefit has been that it seems to have delayed surgery for a prolapsed uterus for a few years at least.

 

[LMWM321]

Here's our story about Menopause - which came quite early for my wife. ..My wife helped me write it. It wasn't easy, but we're back to having sex 2-3 times per week.

My wife's experience with Menopause

As an added comment. The first doc my wife saw (an OBGYN!) didn't offer any help whatsoever. Indeed, she basically said, "Yeah, you're getting to that age where sex is more trouble than it's worth. Oh well....it's best to just get used to it." My wife and I were devastated but attributed it to her docs own unhappiness and broken marriage. When she brought it up with her primary care doc months later, she said basically, "Well, sex is important! Let's see what we can do about it. There's lots we can try!" She prescribed buspirone (a well tolerated, generally safe anxiety med that seems to help some women with low libido), estradiol cream for dryness, then suggested seeing a sex therapist who could help us find new ways of having sex that are enjoyable given the physical changes. Read my link and you'll know the rest.

The point is that your wife may need to find a doctor who values sex as an essential part of a happy, healthy life, regardless of age. Not all do.

 

[PSO77]

If a GYN told me that I was getting to that age where sex is more trouble than it was worth the GYN would be fired. I would never come back to them. Sex is important and it doesn't have to end no matter what age you are. My great grandparents f***** till they were dead I mean for real. There were ways to become lubricated. They have lubrications you can use. I mean I know that I have to lubricate a little more now that I'm perimenopausal. But I still figure out ways to enjoy my sex life with my husband. That's never going away. I don't think I can live without a sex life honestly because I happen to enjoy sex that much! So, they have other types of devices that can be used to exercise the kegels which help the pelvic floor as well as to lubricate. And you are absolutely correct. A doctor/GYN who understands the importance and gratification of sex should be the doctor a woman should go to because too many people out there think sex is not worth it and they have no idea what they're f****** talking about.