I tried several times to give him one and his response was to tickle me. Its cute to be tickled once in a while but if your girl is on your lap dancing around I would think that would me a lot more interesting than turning her off by tickling her. what do you guys think? any suggestions?
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Next time, maybe you should tie him down. Then while your dancing, it's like your teasing him the whole time, and he can't grab hold of you. You have all the power and control.
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Communication, communication, communication
Perhaps he's uncomfortable with the idea of you doing a lap dance because he associates it with dancers/strippers? Not that I necessarily see that an an issue, but some people might.
Talk to him. Find out what he's thinking. If he's really not into it, then drop the issue for the time being.
Have you tried talking to HIM about this?sexy98115 said:
Perhaps he's uncomfortable with the idea of you doing a lap dance because he associates it with dancers/strippers? Not that I necessarily see that an an issue, but some people might.
Talk to him. Find out what he's thinking. If he's really not into it, then drop the issue for the time being.
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sexy98115 said:
Make me your boyfriend and then your lap dances will be appreciated.
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Sexual adventure
I'd like to know what he's like sexually, is he missionary or any adventure there.
Does he go for show? Sex outdoors, cam corders? What is he like??
I'd like to know what he's like sexually, is he missionary or any adventure there.
Does he go for show? Sex outdoors, cam corders? What is he like??
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sexy98115 said:
Are you actually giving him a lap dance? Or are you sitting in his lap squirming around...? 'Cause that might aid to some confusion.
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I was naked and giving him a lap dance( grinding his cock through his underwear). His fave position when he lets me have sex with him is doggy.
You could be right. When I met him a yr ago he had a lot of problems cumming because he felt it was a dirty, bad(Not in a good way) thing to do. so I guess this could be the same thing.
I have tried talking to him about it. I said repeatedly that I wanted him to knock it off. He didn't. I finally just gave up trying.
I don't understand how he could make the connection that i was invoking tickling or encouraging it when I was grinding his cock through his underwear. yes it was out of the blue... all of our sexual activities are that way because he refuses to be romantic. I'd love to have the foreplay, the massages, all the build up to sex but it has to be out of the blue.
I appreciate all of the feedback. It helps me figure out whats going on here.
I was naked and giving him a lap dance( grinding his cock through his underwear). His fave position when he lets me have sex with him is doggy.
You could be right. When I met him a yr ago he had a lot of problems cumming because he felt it was a dirty, bad(Not in a good way) thing to do. so I guess this could be the same thing.
I have tried talking to him about it. I said repeatedly that I wanted him to knock it off. He didn't. I finally just gave up trying.
I don't understand how he could make the connection that i was invoking tickling or encouraging it when I was grinding his cock through his underwear. yes it was out of the blue... all of our sexual activities are that way because he refuses to be romantic. I'd love to have the foreplay, the massages, all the build up to sex but it has to be out of the blue.
I appreciate all of the feedback. It helps me figure out whats going on here.
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sexy98115 said:
I don't mean to offend you but is he very religious or possibly gay? Straight guys usually don't turn down lap dances.
Gay or religious
I know he's anything but religious but he has religious cousins thats where the blowjob/sex issues came in about a yr ago. I know he isn't gay.. he won't let me near his ass.. I haven't seen him looking at guys but it could be.
I know he's anything but religious but he has religious cousins thats where the blowjob/sex issues came in about a yr ago. I know he isn't gay.. he won't let me near his ass.. I haven't seen him looking at guys but it could be.
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sexy98115 said:
How's your relationship otherwise? Frankly, the highlighted portions are probably indicative of a much larger problem. It sounds like it's all about what he wants and your needs and wants aren't being met...why is that?
As for the lap dance, it sounds like he's unable to express why it makes him uncomfortable, so he communicates in actions instead of words. Perhaps he's hoping you won't do it anymore if he continues to tickle despite your saying it bothers you. You may want to ask yourself why you've kept trying in spite of his actions, or why this is important to you.
And maybe ask why you're with this guy who seemingly doesn't respect you.
