another guestion about online lovers

[sexysandy]

Hi All

New question regarding online lovers

If each is stuck in an sexless marriage, For an example say it's a guy. Could he have as much real love and feelings for his online lover as for his wife ?????? And the feelings be as real as real love....What do ya think ???? Yes or no

 

[Calamity Jane]

Sex and love are not the same thing.

Is this man seeking sex only? Looking for the one thing that's missing from his relationship? Is the marriage otherwise healthy?

I think the man can love both women... but I don't think the love would be the same. Neither would be superior to the other, just different in what they offer, what part of him they fulfill.

I also think that man should evaluate his relationship with his wife... why is there no sex? If it's emotional reasons that are causing it, then he owes it to her to explore those reasons and help her through them... not seek the sex elsewhere.

If it's a physical limitation, he should be trying to find a way around it... not seeking sex elsewhere.

If all else fails and he's looking for sex... wouldn't it make more sense to seek the sensation... the contact... the SEX somewhere other than the net?

 

[sexysandy]

wife is not interested

She is not interested and doesn't want sex. He says what he finhas for his online lover is the real thing and not just for sex

 

[Calamity Jane]

Then why is he still in the relationship with his wife?

If the online relationship isn't just about sex, but emotional needs as well, but his reasoning is that his marriage is sexless, then he's not being honest with someone. Either the online partner, or himself.

BUT... in answer to your original question, I do believe that it's possible to love more than one person.

But I don't believe it's possible to love someone who isn't meeting either physical or emotional needs. If one of those needs is met by one person, and the other by another, ok. But if he's claiming to love someone who isn't meeting any of his needs, he's kidding himself.

 

[on_the_verge]

Sex and love are not the same thing, but they can share both attributes of each other. It's like being sexual or sensual as in that jarred thread, but some are able to have sex and love as well. Before I start another grand debate. Everyone views and approaches their opinions and experiences differently…So, don't be flaming my ass over individual ideals or a sense of morality, thank you!

There are people who are involved in relationships where one cannot satisfy them physically and that person meets it with a lover, but that person also "loves" their other dearly and could not leave that person. Yet, there are so many dualities and perplexities in it all. It's like being online and having a lover you care and love, but find that the online persona and interaction fills things in your life and allows you to focus and not become unhappy or feel a void. People seek love and embrace it many levels and forms. No one approach is better than the other, but it's up to the individuals and how they handle it all. One cannot surmise or dictate it all, but give constructive criticism without bias or the fear of not fitting in.

Sex does not mean love and love does not mean sex, but there may be a chance to have a little of both while dipping in sin and comfort of another.

 

[no1special]

I would settle for even an online lover at this point

 

[redblooded]

Sex & Love, Online and Inlife

SexySandy
From expereince, even in a sexless marrige having the same feelings for an online lover as you once did for your wife, wont happen. Well not in the long run. If both parties are married or in a relationship they dont want to destroy, then feelings may well develop and quite possibly love. But I honestly feel that neither party want love they want contact - emotional & physical. One is possible the other isn't.
However, cybersex and phone sex are great alternatives.

Good question

 

[juicylips]

If each is stuck in an sexless marriage, For an example say it's a guy. Could he have as much real love and feelings for his online lover as for his wife ?????? And the feelings be as real as real love....What do ya think ???? Yes or no

Wife vs online lover. Husband vs online lover.

Love, real feelings....hmmmmmm.

The spouse will win. Sexless marriage or not. That is where you LIVE. That is real life. You deal with it. Work at it.

I am sure you can have "real" feelings for someone online. But do you want to go that route? How can you say you LOVE that person, when you are committed to someone in r/l? Lust, sure. Been there, done that. But Love? That takes time, committment, trust and a whole lot of other things.

Cassidy