❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Wild_Honey_66]

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[hotwords229_A]

10.22.19 (suggested)

Is there a song that reminds you of an ex? How does that change the song? How do you feel when you hear it?

Kryptonite by Three Doors Down. I never liked that song, but I had an amazing day with a friend that turned intimate. We spent an entire day together and it was incredible and unexpected. We went to Subway to get something for dinner (we were young, give me a break) and that song was playing just as I looked at her. She was reading the menu on the wall and I remember looking at her and thinking, "I can't believe she's with me".
Anytime I hear that song (which isn't often, thankfully) I remember that crazy awesome unexpected day of young love.

 

[AveryElle]

Enough said there.

For me, it was a lot of gothic music from the 80s and early 90s that I couldn't listen to without thinking about my first real love. I guess it was actually more like a whole sub-genre of music that I couldn't listen to. We're friends now, so it's all good, but I still don't really listen to that music.

c'mon. Joy division forever.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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[AlwaysFara]

I don’t have any Lit ex...

 

[Apisto42]

I don’t have any Lit ex...

Allow me to introduce myself, I’m the future ex-Mr. AF...

This can be our song (well, your song for me): https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ONcCGOabyyg

 

[AlwaysFara]

Allow me to introduce myself, I’m the future ex-Mr. AF...

This can be our song (well, your song for me): https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ONcCGOabyyg

I dig it.

Here’s our song, yours for me.

*sticks up my middle finger*

https://youtu.be/0uLI6BnVh6w

 

[Apisto42]

I dig it.

Here’s our song, yours for me.

*sticks up my middle finger*

https://youtu.be/0uLI6BnVh6w

Luckily for me, I recover quickly cause: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wyx6JDQCslE

 

[AlwaysFara]

Luckily for me, I recover quickly cause: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wyx6JDQCslE

https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM

 

[Apisto42]

https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM

Scrubs? Lame.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kGfNE1aTrrk

 

[AlwaysFara]

Scrubs? Lame.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kGfNE1aTrrk

*sits down and pays attention*

 

[Apisto42]

*sits down and pays attention*

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3vacjuW460c

 

[Dribble]

https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM

Lol....are you the kind that gets pissed when you dont get a new pair of nikes so you throw all your lovers shoes in the tub and burn them? And then the house catches on fire...burning it all down?

 

[Paul_Chance]

10.22.19 (suggested)

Is there a song that reminds you of an ex? How does that change the song? How do you feel when you hear it?

Weirdly enough, I don't have a song tied to an ex. I've got the exes. I've got the songs. They're just not tied together. Songs tend to remind me more of points in time or events, and they'll remind me of the people who were there, but the single-song-to-single-ex connection isn't there. And that is my realization for the night.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Lol....are you the kind that gets pissed when you dont get a new pair of nikes so you throw all your lovers shoes in the tub and burn them? And then the house catches on fire...burning it all down?

Yes. Because... you know me and that’s JUST how I am.

You know I’m a softie.

 

[Miles Long]

10.22.19 (suggested)

Is there a song that reminds you of an ex? How does that change the song? How do you feel when you hear it?

This version of "Dream a Little Dream of Me" always reminds me of an ex whenever I hear it. We dated many many years ago, and this was our song. It was my first real relationship as an adult - she was older, and, while things eventually ran their course, I look back on it as a very positive experience overall. She was good to me, even when she broke up with me. I learned a lot both from the relationship and the ending of it. We managed to remain friends for a while, but eventually lost contact. Whenever I hear this song I think of her for a moment, and wherever she is I hope she's doing well.

 

[AlwaysFara]

This version of "Dream a Little Dream of Me" always reminds me of an ex whenever I hear it. We dated many many years ago, and this was our song. It was my first real relationship as an adult - she was older, and, while things eventually ran their course, I look back on it as a very positive experience overall. She was good to me, even when she broke up with me. I learned a lot both from the relationship and the ending of it. We managed to remain friends for a while, but eventually lost contact. Whenever I hear this song I think of her for a moment, and wherever she is I hope she's doing well.

 

[haventdonethat]

10.22.19 (suggested)

Is there a song that reminds you of an ex? How does that change the song? How do you feel when you hear it?

She was older than me. Neither of us were much into birthdays so I am guessing seven to ten years older.
She was a psychiatrist and university professor, out of my league by miles. But we loved each other with an unbelievable passion.

Shane MacGowan, The Song With No Name.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WkEhgmeDX4

When I hear it, which happens only rarely, I feel sad and glad.
Sad that I was a man who was like that. And glad that I am no longer that man.
After all these years, it still brings tears to my eyes.

 

[Apisto42]

Sometimes I hear new songs that make me think of people, places, events in my past. I wish this song had been around about 20 years ago - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lcg6wekmCRA

It would have been an excellent song to be high as fuck to while dancing in the club with a sexy little thing I knew back then. She was a tiny dancer, flexible, fun, and always up for a party. Just made you smile to watch her move with you because she enjoyed life so much.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I remember when I was a teen, there was this girl I liked, named Katy. I remember when she broke it off with me, I was devastated. Little 15 year old pmann wrote her a bunch of songs. Those songs, to this day, are the best thing I've ever written.

But I remember the night of a heartbreak, I was so down. My mate James and I were coming home from a party and he decided to be an asshole and play the world's saddest music. I'm not a fan of country music too much, but Vince Gill writes hauntingly beautiful breakup music. So, to torture my beaten heart, he played this song:

Never Knew Lonely by Vince Gill

https://youtu.be/uOpVmrvGSao

This song has been with me through the years during various heartaches. But damn, what a gorgeous song.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.25.19

Inspired by a recent conversation -

Do you think there is something more attractive about someone already in a relationship? If you're in a relationship, do you find that you get flirted with more once someone knows?
What makes some people more attracted to someone who has a partner? Is it the idea of conquest or just feeling less like at threat? Is it there something primal in us that notes when someone is a good mate or parent?


I know this is one is a little vague but it's interesting to me.
This is NOT a question about cheating or cheaters. Think outside the box.

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm not necessarily attracted to someone who is married or in a serious relationship simply because of that. A wedding ring doesn't dampen my knickers all on its own.

What I have found is more that primal thing you referenced. When I witness a man behaving like a good husband or an involved, caring dad... that definitely increases his level of attractiveness.

I worked with a guy who was nice looking, but nothing spectacular. We were at an outing and he told me about how he met his wife... the sincere affection and happiness in his voice when he spoke of her made him 100x more attractive to me instantly. I later met her at another event and seeing how he looked at her and interacted with her was so frickin' sexy. I would never in a million years act on that attraction, but it definitely made him my office crush.

Similarly with watching a dad interact with his kids and seeing him enjoy it and seeing his affection and protective nature...oh, yeah. I could watch hot dads all day.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Attraction:

I'd have to say "no". Relationship status doesn't really play any role in whether or not I am attracted to someone. It certainly plays a role in how I interact with them, but that is because the devil is a gentlemen who never goes where he isn't invited.

More Flirting: Yes, I have observed that more than a few times over the years.

It seems to be a certain personality and I think it stems largely from one of two things. First, there are people who just enjoy flirting and for them, flirting with someone already in a relationship is "safer" - it that they assume they can then "just flirt". Flirting is an art form and some folks have risen it to a high level. The second bucket is the competitive/challenge bucket. Yes, there are people who see it as a challenge and it stokes their competitive nature - "I can make them desire me" or "I can make them have an affair with me". That's all about the ego. So, it's divided between the two - conquest and safety. There is a third group out there who are just naturally flirtatious and it's just who they are.

The Primal Thing: I agree that, when you see someone being excellent to another human being, whether it's their spouse, their kids, their friends, or just strangers, I personal find that attractive. It's a hard world. Compassion is a beautiful thing, no matter how it is expressed.

*A note on wedding rings: I have a ring that looks like a wedding ring, it's a simple gold band. (It's actually a total geek out ring - it's the ring of power from Lord of the Rings with the elvish inscription.) I will deliberately put it on my ring finger sometimes, generally in two circumstances - both of which are coldly calculating. I will wear it to work meetings with clients and I'll wear it when I am flying. Here is the reason - a wedding ring is a very subtle symbol of a lot of things that impact how people think of you - and they will noticeably treat you differently because it has allowed them to safely categorize you. (There is a lot of psychology that underlies subtle symbols.) To the "conquest/ego motivated" it's catnip. There is a whole lot of psychology under that as well.

On kind of a random and related tip - when you're flying dress UP not down. You will be treated significantly differently by the TSA, gate personnel, and flight attendants. Again, it is that subtle signaling that allows people to categorize you so you're not an unknown, but rather a known quantity that allows them to treat you as they believe that category should be treated. They're signals of a certain social class and status and though we'd like to think people don't notice, they do.

 

[AlwaysFara]

No.

I like good BFs and husbands for my friends. Not them for me. I have a good BF.

If I am attracted to someone taken, it’s despite that, not because of it, and it makes me feel guilty.

I flirt with attached men and women because there is no pressure. Sometimes that gets misconstrued, because, flirting, but I do it generally because I feel SAFE.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Attraction:

I'd have to say "no". Relationship status doesn't really play any role in whether or not I am attracted to someone. It certainly plays a role in how I interact with them, but that is because the devil is a gentlemen who never goes where he isn't invited.

More Flirting: Yes, I have observed that more than a few times over the years.

It seems to be a certain personality and I think it stems largely from one of two things. First, there are people who just enjoy flirting and for them, flirting with someone already in a relationship is "safer" - it that they assume they can then "just flirt". Flirting is an art form and some folks have risen it to a high level. The second bucket is the competitive/challenge bucket. Yes, there are people who see it as a challenge and it stokes their competitive nature - "I can make them desire me" or "I can make them have an affair with me". That's all about the ego. So, it's divided between the two - conquest and safety. There is a third group out there who are just naturally flirtatious and it's just who they are.

The Primal Thing: I agree that, when you see someone being excellent to another human being, whether it's their spouse, their kids, their friends, or just strangers, I personal find that attractive. It's a hard world. Compassion is a beautiful thing, no matter how it is expressed.

*A note on wedding rings: I have a ring that looks like a wedding ring, it's a simple gold band. (It's actually a total geek out ring - it's the ring of power from Lord of the Rings with the elvish inscription.) I will deliberately put it on my ring finger sometimes, generally in two circumstances - both of which are coldly calculating. I will wear it to work meetings with clients and I'll wear it when I am flying. Here is the reason - a wedding ring is a very subtle symbol of a lot of things that impact how people think of you - and they will noticeably treat you differently because it has allowed them to safely categorize you. (There is a lot of psychology that underlies subtle symbols.) To the "conquest/ego motivated" it's catnip. There is a whole lot of psychology under that as well.

On kind of a random and related tip - when you're flying dress UP not down. You will be treated significantly differently by the TSA, gate personnel, and flight attendants. Again, it is that subtle signaling that allows people to categorize you so you're not an unknown, but rather a known quantity that allows them to treat you as they believe that category should be treated. They're signals of a certain social class and status and though we'd like to think people don't notice, they do.

Your Elvish Ring makes you insanely attractive.

Taken? I am. Let’s be safe and unpressured together.