Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Scareltt]

Gay male friends can be an eye opener.
I’m mainly saying don’t assume nsa will be as clean as it seems, there are no zipless fuck outside of pros and then they get paid.

I don’t see enough Erica Jong references.. nice!

 

[Noor]

I don’t see enough Erica Jong references.. nice!

Thanks!

 

[yowser]

I don’t see enough Erica Jong references.. nice!

From Bombshell in the Berkshires:

I told her about how nice it was, for both me and Roger. How much I enjoyed a pulsing, squirting cock going off in my mouth. And how sweet it was when he reciprocated.

"The 'zipless suck.' Ha!" She shook her head. "No strings attached."

 

[jbird4]

lol! You haven’t met enough men…
Which sex is more likely to stalk and kill former sex partners? Who imagines relationships? And not only female sex partners.
As for drama, men are the ultimate drama llamas.

If we consider some of the men of lit, who writes these long drawn out stuff about sone women who had a sexual interest like cyber or phone sex and they are betrayed? And then on the politics board, it’s men who resort to name calling and drama when they can’t make a well reasoned argument.

You weren’t around for a byron but he was a drama lama if the highest degree, he wouldn’t freak out about someone not wanting to have it continue to have sex with him but heaven help anyone who didn’t want to watch game of thrones or some other show he thought was great, or someone got away breaking posting rules.

I don’t think i am talking about relationships really. I am talking more about encounters, and opportunities for encounters. A sexual encounter and a relationship (of any sort) are very different things.

I am not the worst looking wretched man in the room. For my age I am complemented on my looks fairly often. But if I am horny and want an orgasm, men are quite honestly the easiest option. Most of my MM encounters since I have been an adult involved almost no communication other than a hand or a mouth or watching. I am in a large city right now and if I had a bit of time and the inclination I could walk out of this building and find a male sex partner, using an app or just my knowledge of cruising even.

If I wanted a MF encounter, there would understandably need to be a dialogue and the building of trust that could lead (sometime) to an encounter in the future. Female cruising does not exist.

 

[TryGuy35]

I don’t think i am talking about relationships really. I am talking more about encounters, and opportunities for encounters. A sexual encounter and a relationship (of any sort) are very different things.

I am not the worst looking wretched man in the room. For my age I am complemented on my looks fairly often. But if I am horny and want an orgasm, men are quite honestly the easiest option. Most of my MM encounters since I have been an adult involved almost no communication other than a hand or a mouth or watching. I am in a large city right now and if I had a bit of time and the inclination I could walk out of this building and find a male sex partner, using an app or just my knowledge of cruising even.

If I wanted a MF encounter, there would understandably need to be a dialogue and the building of trust that could lead (sometime) to an encounter in the future. Female cruising does not exist.

The excitement of cruising makes my heart race

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I had been bi-curious probably my whole life. I would go to arcades I would find the booth playing gay 'porn' and it was so "naughty" to watch men sucking and fucking men.

Lack of sex..... So We start looking for "No Strings Attached" sex. And we know there are other men in the same situation. In short. We become bi-curious for NSA sex

I am 75 mwm that has experienced the same thing. The common link must be that our wives are no longer interested but men still want their cock played with.

Married and having an affair or finding a woman for NSA sex is way too complicated and dangerous. Man to man interaction, no emotions, no baggage. Just recreational sex.

So many good answers, but I think these I've quoted sum it up in a nut-sack.

I too have been bi-curious, (OK, bi-experienced) for a good part of my life. I love my wife, but because she's not really interested in sex anymore, I still want my cock played with. I don't want to have "an affair" (heterosexual) which is rife with complications, but M2M recreational sex is, by definition, "No Strings Attached".

 

[vandelayatx]

Fear of missing out

 

[badonkadoku]

One signficant difference between us and other mostly-straight curious men is, we no longer require the alcohol to get us there.

 

[Unusedhard]

So many good answers, but I think these I've quoted sum it up in a nut-sack.

I too have been bi-curious, (OK, bi-experienced) for a good part of my life. I love my wife, but because she's not really interested in sex anymore, I still want my cock played with. I don't want to have "an affair" (heterosexual) which is rife with complications, but M2M recreational sex is, by definition, "No Strings Attached".

This. Exactly this for me. I need to be touched, and anonymous men at my local ABS are the only people who have been interested in doing the touching recently

 

[Jeph77]

So many good answers, but I think these I've quoted sum it up in a nut-sack.

I too have been bi-curious, (OK, bi-experienced) for a good part of my life. I love my wife, but because she's not really interested in sex anymore, I still want my cock played with. I don't want to have "an affair" (heterosexual) which is rife with complications, but M2M recreational sex is, by definition, "No Strings Attached".

It's almost like starting dating all over again, making a buddy get hard, and vice versa.

 

[Bathtubbill]

Maybe it's because a hard cock is fucking sexy

 

[Jeph77]

Maybe it's because a hard cock is fucking sexy

It's like you sent up a flare.

 

[Jeph77]

It's like you sent up a flare.

That pearly eye, looking at you.

 

[Bathtubbill]

That pearly eye, looking at you.

With all the pent up pleasure it has to release

 

[Jeph77]

With all the pent up pleasure it has to release

You feel obliged. No, compelled.

 

[Bathtubbill]

You feel obliged. No, compelled.

It would be rude not to

 

[Jeph77]

It would be rude not to

Let's get you taken care of.

 

[LeeKee]

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Maybe a drop in sex as our women become less interested. My wife and I haven't had sex in over 10 years but if she caught me stepping out it would be my fault.

It's sad how true that is. My friend hasn't had sex with wife in 14 yrs.
I can't feel guilty about giving him affection, contact, pleasure, and a feeling of self-worth.
I have been in his car when she called. On speaker, she was a total bitch the way she spoke to him.
When the call was over, I hugged him and held him tight. Nothing sexual in that moment. My sole intention was to let him know his worthy.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I don’t think i am talking about relationships really. I am talking more about encounters, and opportunities for encounters. A sexual encounter and a relationship (of any sort) are very different things.

I am not the worst looking wretched man in the room. For my age I am complemented on my looks fairly often. But if I am horny and want an orgasm, men are quite honestly the easiest option. Most of my MM encounters since I have been an adult involved almost no communication other than a hand or a mouth or watching. I am in a large city right now and if I had a bit of time and the inclination I could walk out of this building and find a male sex partner, using an app or just my knowledge of cruising even.

If I wanted a MF encounter, there would understandably need to be a dialogue and the building of trust that could lead (sometime) to an encounter in the future. Female cruising does not exist.

I can confirm.
It has been a very rare time i have had sex or sucked a cock of a guy with less than several days chatting and a g-rated public meeting.

 

[badonkadoku]

sum it up in a nut-sack.

Such an apt phrase! Love it!

 

[Easyvirtue]

My experience is stemmed from my only experience with a man in my early 30’s. After meeting my wife and being married for only 22 years the separation and decline in our sexual situation has driven me to desire my past transgressions. I can only fantasize about my past with him as I grow resentful of the arrangement we have now.

 

[Justynewhitney]

I enjoy the thought of being gay more than actually acting it out. I masturbate to cock exclusively now and have been for about three years. I'm 67 have a belly and a 4 inch cock. When I was in my 30s I spent about a year sucking trans prostitute dick. Been fucked and like it. I really want to suck cock again, but can't find the right person and circumstances.

 

[TryGuy35]

I enjoy the thought of being gay more than actually acting it out. I masturbate to cock exclusively now and have been for about three years. I'm 67 have a belly and a 4 inch cock. When I was in my 30s I spent about a year sucking trans prostitute dick. Been fucked and like it. I really want to suck cock again, but can't find the right person and circumstances.

Interesting how things change like that and what gets you horny now versus younger and how it evolves. The spice of life and lust is an interesting journey for sure

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I enjoy the thought of being gay more than actually acting it out. I masturbate to cock exclusively now and have been for about three years. I'm 67 have a belly and a 4 inch cock. When I was in my 30s I spent about a year sucking trans prostitute dick. Been fucked and like it. I really want to suck cock again, but can't find the right person and circumstances.

Interesting how things change like that and what gets you horny now versus younger and how it evolves. The spice of life and lust is an interesting journey for sure

While 'tastes' do change with age, I am absolutely sure that becoming bi-curious is not just evolution.
#1) As sex wanes in hetero marriages - mostly in the female partner - the need to continue to experience sex doesn't just die in the male partner
#2) Because of #1 (and still while loving his wife), the male begins looking
#3) Finding a female partner is rife with issues since most women are not just looking for "No Strings Attached" sex
#4) Contrary to #3 (most women are not just looking for "NSA" sex), and because of #2 (still while loving his wife), most men ARE looking for NSA sex.
#5) Because most men ARE looking for NSA sex, they can find it with other men in similar situations
#6) A lot of men, if not most, have either previously masturbated to porn that focuses on cock or have had M2M sexual 'encounters'.