I have read a lot about the sexless marriage

[muycurioso]

with mine it was the beginning of the end. My Q is for the sexless men ---- Is your wife stll affectionate to you. kissing, hugs, lay together in bed, ect

 

[towigl]

My wife tries, it’s all on me. I married her because that was expected even though I new I was gay. I can’t tell her that I can’t stand the site of what’s between her legs so I just make up excuses and blame it on the meds that I take. It used to be easier when I was younger, all I had to do was think about men and that would get me through the act but it doesn’t work anymore.

 

[Savanasexi]

My wife tries, it’s all on me. I married her because that was expected even though I new I was gay. I can’t tell her that I can’t stand the site of what’s between her legs so I just make up excuses and blame it on the meds that I take. It used to be easier when I was younger, all I had to do was think about men and that would get me through the act but it doesn’t work anymore.

I've left my husband because he lost interest in me.
I dress sexy for him with nice lace knickers, black stockings and suspenders. But he still wasn't interested and I'm sure he wasn't gay.
But I've left him now and I'm Iiving with my lesbian friend

 

[Rob_Royale]

My wife tries, it’s all on me. I married her because that was expected even though I new I was gay. I can’t tell her that I can’t stand the site of what’s between her legs so I just make up excuses and blame it on the meds that I take. It used to be easier when I was younger, all I had to do was think about men and that would get me through the act but it doesn’t work anymore.

My sympathies, but I have to ask, why keep up the lie? It's not fair for either of you.

 

[bi_cpl_with_crossdresser]

The rest of my wife and my relationship stays as strong as ever. Yes, we hold hands, kiss, and cuddle at times, but there is no sex.

The lack of intimacy is hard because you want to share that with your wife. I know at least with us there is a tone of extenuating factors that have caused her to lose her sex drive. We are not sure if there is a medical reason at this point but if it keeps up I am hoping she will relent and let me play.

 

[hulmule]

My wife is in menopause, plus a couple meds that affect her. No she is not affectionate towards me, really never was.Not a kisser ( which i love deep long kissing) She's a good person, does other things to try and please me. Things have changed. She has know interest at ALL in sex. Had this discussion many many times. She tried once in a while. Just one the other day, Honey would really love to go down on you- NO that is nasty... Used to enjoy years ago. But everyones bodies and minds change as we mature. She doesnt understand my sexual drive, doesnt like seeing my jerking off. So i come to lit , chat with friends, video chat, Flirt at the store (no luck yet) .But problem is, my hand and cock just arent always on the same page.He wants the real thing, as so do i !! Its a battle

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

My wife tries, it’s all on me. I married her because that was expected even though I new I was gay. I can’t tell her that I can’t stand the site of what’s between her legs so I just make up excuses and blame it on the meds that I take. It used to be easier when I was younger, all I had to do was think about men and that would get me through the act but it doesn’t work anymore.

My wife tries, it’s all on me. I married her because that was expected even though I new I was gay. I can’t tell her that I can’t stand the site of what’s between her legs so I just make up excuses and blame it on the meds that I take. It used to be easier when I was younger, all I had to do was think about men and that would get me through the act but it doesn’t work anymore.

It seems reasonable that prior to subjecting you both to such misery and pain, you have considered honoring your nature and setting her free... What is it that is literally worth two lives? (Yours and hers) How have you made the pain that you knowingly cause her, as well as your own internal abandonment of yourself, something that doesn't crush you?

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

The rest of my wife and my relationship stays as strong as ever. Yes, we hold hands, kiss, and cuddle at times, but there is no sex.

The lack of intimacy is hard because you want to share that with your wife. I know at least with us there is a tone of extenuating factors that have caused her to lose her sex drive. We are not sure if there is a medical reason at this point but if it keeps up I am hoping she will relent and let me play.

That you are having the hard conversations and being honest with one another is paramount. It might help to know that intimacy in the wholeness of our nature and expression, only has a few components that are physically expressed- it is the other ways in the relationship that tether/bind/connect us to one another. If you are constantly staying in that conscious awareness and being there for one another in the ways that you are genuinely able, and seeking the necessary data to determine the shifts and changes that she is experiencing, you are still likely to come through it even stronger together. While we may want to be everything to one another in our relationships, that in no way indicates that the threat to that "everything" exists in changes in the ways that we go about certain things. Women tend to have a focus and need on the non-physical as a doorway TO the physical, so the very possible potential future for you both, even should your physical opportunities change or remain more limited than you would like, you will be no less happy OR committed to one another as you weather the changes and find your solution. Being there for her is everything, even if/when you are not getting what you would like or think you need in this moment. It is quite likely that she feels terrible and misses the physicality that you once had as well... and is blaming herself for what is something she cannot even control, aging and her body. If you stay focused on one another and maintain your loving tether, you will find a way. Be sure to let her know that her value and worth to you far exceeds the sexual aspects of your loving relationship. Keep showing up for one another (seeking to give, rather than get) and know that you can find your way- together!!

 

[bi_cpl_with_crossdresser]

It is quite likely that she feels terrible and misses the physicality that you once had as well... and is blaming herself for what is something she cannot even control, aging and her body. If you stay focused on one another and maintain your loving tether, you will find a way. Be sure to let her know that her value and worth to you far exceeds the sexual aspects of your loving relationship. Keep showing up for one another (seeking to give, rather than get) and know that you can find your way- together!!

Yes, she has mentioned on many occasions how bad she feels that she does not want to have sex anymore. I try to console her over this as it's not a choice she has made but at the same time, I feel this loss in our relationship. We will continue talking about this and see what happens.

 

[luvslingerie200]

Yes, she has mentioned on many occasions how bad she feels that she does not want to have sex anymore. I try to console her over this as it's not a choice she has made but at the same time, I feel this loss in our relationship. We will continue talking about this and see what happens.

this situation is very similar to mine. post menopause she lost all interest in sex. all other aspects of our relationship are excellent.

 

[DeepAchingNeed]

Yes, she has mentioned on many occasions how bad she feels that she does not want to have sex anymore. I try to console her over this as it's not a choice she has made but at the same time, I feel this loss in our relationship. We will continue talking about this and see what happens.

Wonderful, Cyndi! You may find that you could open a doorway to the consideration or introduction to concepts and ideas of things that might be a solution for you both. Most things, especially arising from within the strength and beauty of the tethered relationship you both share and have created, thrive when we remain openminded, truly honest, and entirely willing. There is far more that is available for you (as a couple) to share and become even more intimately connected through than what might initially come to mind or have been your experience to date. All the best to you BOTH!

 

[Tayloroc]

this situation is very similar to mine. post menopause she lost all interest in sex. all other aspects of our relationship are excellent.

Same here. We get along well but there is zero desire on her part. Oh well!

 

[Tayloroc]

Affection helps but it’s not the same as sex!!

 

[Tayloroc]

Still hoping!

 

[Savanasexi]

The rest of my wife and my relationship stays as strong as ever. Yes, we hold hands, kiss, and cuddle at times, but there is no sex.

The lack of intimacy is hard because you want to share that with your wife. I know at least with us there is a tone of extenuating factors that have caused her to lose her sex drive. We are not sure if there is a medical reason at this point but if it keeps up I am hoping she will relent and let me play.

You have our sympathy sweetie. It's a problem that girls go through with the menopause. In a few years we will have to face that problem too.
Men have viagra etc to help them but us girls have nothing.
Good luck and it's nice that you wanted to talk about it. X

 

[bi_cpl_with_crossdresser]

You have our sympathy sweetie. It's a problem that girls go through with the menopause. In a few years we will have to face that problem too.
Men have viagra etc to help them but us girls have nothing.
Good luck and it's nice that you wanted to talk about it. X

I know and I feel bad for women being left out in the cold like that. We will keep talking and hopefully, it will get better. It's not something that can be forced to get better so only time will tell.

Thanks for the sympathy, Dear.

 

[Mtnmike]

with mine it was the beginning of the end. My Q is for the sexless men ---- Is your wife stll affectionate to you. kissing, hugs, lay together in bed, ect

Nothing at all, separate bedrooms past 8 year's, kissing, hugging, touching stopped about 14 year's ago. My situation is the old saying " It's cheaper to keep her "

 

[drobert44]

Nothing at all, separate bedrooms past 8 year's, kissing, hugging, touching stopped about 14 year's ago. My situation is the old saying " It's cheaper to keep her "

Same bed, but she can barely walk, comes to bed with clothes on, rarely will snuggle..arthritis of spine, but brain dying also......

 

[Mtnmike]

My wife is in menopause, plus a couple meds that affect her. No she is not affectionate towards me, really never was.Not a kisser ( which i love deep long kissing) She's a good person, does other things to try and please me. Things have changed. She has know interest at ALL in sex. Had this discussion many many times. She tried once in a while. Just one the other day, Honey would really love to go down on you- NO that is nasty... Used to enjoy years ago. But everyones bodies and minds change as we mature. She doesnt understand my sexual drive, doesnt like seeing my jerking off. So i come to lit , chat with friends, video chat, Flirt at the store (no luck yet) .But problem is, my hand and cock just arent always on the same page.He wants the real thing, as so do i !! Its a battle

Very well said.

 

[Mtnmike]

Same bed, but she can barely walk, comes to bed with clothes on, rarely will snuggle..arthritis of spine, but brain dying also......

Sorry for both of you, it can be rough.

 

[2tallpaul]

Mine lost interest after child birth. Stayed together so I could raise a son. She's a good person without love. Divorced now and love it. Seeing a brilliant, super kinky woman and loving it. Travel, walk, hike, bike etc and the ex stays on a couch.

 

[drobert44]

Mine lost interest after child birth. Stayed together so I could raise a son. She's a good person without love. Divorced now and love it. Seeing a brilliant, super kinky woman and loving it. Travel, walk, hike, bike etc and the ex stays on a couch.

Bravo for you, 2........and got a kinky dame.........

 

[writerzblok92]

with mine it was the beginning of the end. My Q is for the sexless men ---- Is your wife stll affectionate to you. kissing, hugs, lay together in bed, ect

No not at all. I get the feeling that if I touch her I make her skin crawl.

She makes me feel like I disgust her.

 

[Busy54]

I’m with you, I long for holding someone or spooning in bed. No sex necessary, but would be nice.

Yes me too, I want to be the little spoon! Except sex would be good…..

 

[writerzblok92]

I’m with you, I long for holding someone or spooning in bed. No sex necessary, but would be nice.

I've gone for a massage (a legitimate one) just so I could feel someone touch my body.

A sexless marriage is a cold, lonely existence