What's something you've always wanted to ask the opposite gender?

[SoulAssasin247]

Absolutely. I know they say if you want to get asked out, don't go out in huge numbers because men find that off-putting or intimidating. However, if you are not intimidated go for it. Most women go out as a group because they want to have a fun night, but many are single and so it makes for a good (and safe) time to mingle.

Not true one of her friends will cockblock, leave women alone, when they're with more than 7 other women

 

[Apisto42]

How is she socially awkward?

My guess is she’s a high functioning autistic. Great at her work. A bit child like in some respects. Interjects random things into a group conversation.

 

[AlwaysFara]

My guess is she’s a high functioning autistic. Great at her work. A bit child like in some respects. Interjects random things into a group conversation.

I thought it was something Mean Girl worthy, like not wearing pink on Wednesday.

Her behavior? That can be annoying, but no need to be outright mean.

Workplace hazing definitely exists. Mean girls exist. Mean dudes, do, too. (Head to any Fire Dept. and watch the insults fly.)

My only thought is they are sizing her up. My guess is that, if she is good at her job, it will settle down.
Unless they are truly mean.
Have you said anything, like, WTF?

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

My guess is she’s a high functioning autistic. Great at her work. A bit child like in some respects. Interjects random things into a group conversation.

She may be trying to find her place. I can be socially awkward in person at times but it is moreso for me trying to find my way in where I wasn't included. I usually keep quiet most times.

 

[thefishfryer]

Not true one of her friends will cockblock, leave women alone, when they're with more than 7 other women

What's the significance of seven?

 

[AlwaysFara]

What's the significance of seven?

Inches and up?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

My guess is she’s a high functioning autistic. Great at her work. A bit child like in some respects. Interjects random things into a group conversation.

I know girls that do this and I'm just not one of them. I hate the purposeful exclusion of anyone just because they may be awkward. Hell, we are all awkward at first and it takes time to find our place.
There are definitely people, girls and guys alike, that can get under my skin but I try my best to be polite especially at work. There are very few behaviors that I just can't ignore
Now, girls, like all people, like to feel safe and secure in the social order. Some do this by protecting their pack by pushing out outsiders and some do this by uniting.
All that being said, if she is socially awkward that's one thing. Everyone should be treated with respect but if she doing something that puts everyone on edge that cant be disregarded.
People have the right to be friends with whoever they want but being respectful is key. This is why I'm weird about making friends at work. Ain't nobody got time for this.

 

[thefishfryer]

Inches and up?

Lol I fed you that one.

 

[AlwaysFara]

daughter's dealing with this in high school now, and a friend's daughter's dealing with it in middle school. it starts early. i surmise that this is some sort of evolutionary competition/sorting thing that guys do in a different manner and we just never realize it.

The worst is jr. high.
It’s a pecking order.
I remember being miserable. I had boobs at an early age, and I was the butt of a lot of the girl jokes until they all filled out.

 

[Interested_Girl]

Not true one of her friends will cockblock, leave women alone, when they're with more than 7 other women

Nah. Not when your girlfriends care about you. I have never had a girl friend get in my way and vice versa. We promote it actually. But if she says no, don't keep trying. That can end up with another woman getting involved

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

She may be trying to find her place. I can be socially awkward in person at times but it is moreso for me trying to find my way in where I wasn't included. I usually keep quiet most times.

Glad you're sticking around, BCC. I think this thread is very open and honest. I'd like it to stay that way!

I'm enjoying the ride!

So my next question. I work in an office building. There are lots of women, age range early twenties to early sixties. I have observed that in the work environment the trend is to dress based on cues they give each other. This summer it was mini-skirts and flat sandals. (I like a short skirt as much as the next guy, but some people were verging on club wear.).The fall has been dominated by leggings and heels. Do you think that in a situation like this, women dress for each other? Lol

 

[SoulAssasin247]

What's the significance of seven?

It's not about the number 7, but trying to describe the sixs of the grouo of women.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Nah. Not when your girlfriends care about you. I have never had a girl friend get in my way and vice versa. We promote it actually. But if she says no, don't keep trying. That can end up with another woman getting involved

Sometimes women literally want to hang with her girls. I have tried many times to dance and talk to women in big groups and it's a waste of time. I go with 2 or 3 women, buy them all a drink while I am talking that smooth and funny bs

 

[AlwaysFara]

Glad you're sticking around, BCC. I think this thread is very open and honest. I'd like it to stay that way!

I'm enjoying the ride!

So my next question. I work in an office building. There are lots of women, age range early twenties to early sixties. I have observed that in the work environment the trend is to dress based on cues they give each other. This summer it was mini-skirts and flat sandals. (I like a short skirt as much as the next guy, but some people were verging on club wear.).The fall has been dominated by leggings and heels. Do you think that in a situation like this, women dress for each other? Lol

Yes.
I do. I always dress up more when I go out with my GFs than I do with my BF, unless we are going somewhere specific. I tend to pay special attention to my bag and my shoes.

 

[Polranny]

Back in the daly, the bag was just to be danced around, shoes didn't matter so much

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Do you think that in a situation like this, women dress for each other? Lol

I have never dressed for the people i work with.

I dress for the position, the environment, and my own sense of style.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I have never dressed for the people i work with.

I dress for the position, the environment, and my own sense of style.

Oh. Not at work.

I meant for my GFs in general. I get more dressed up to go to dinner with them.

 

[JustAnotherMD]

Oh. Not at work.

I meant for my GFs in general. I get more dressed up to go to dinner with them.

How come?

Just curious...

 

[AlwaysFara]

How come?

Just curious...

I don’t know. Insecurity? Fitting in?
We don’t go out and try to pick up guys. We’re all about being silly, catching up and the food.

 

[JustAnotherMD]

I don’t know. Insecurity? Fitting in?
We don’t go out and try to pick up guys. We’re all about being silly, catching up and the food.

I hope you didn't take offense to my question. If so, I apologize.
I was mostly curious why you don't dress up for your boyfriend.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I hope you didn't take offense to my question. If so, I apologize.
I was mostly curious why you don't dress up for your boyfriend.

Well, I’m mostly naked.

If we go out I do.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I hope you didn't take offense to my question. If so, I apologize.
I was mostly curious why you don't dress up for your boyfriend.

No, your question was not offensive at all.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Well, I’m mostly naked.

If we go out I do.

 

[JustAnotherMD]

Well, I’m mostly naked.

If we go out I do.

Being mostly naked makes you the best girlfriend ever.

 

[JustAnotherMD]

No, your question was not offensive at all.

I'll try harder next time.