What's something you've always wanted to ask the opposite gender?

[lurkingguy1978]

What value would you place on a female making the first move?

What is something women can do or say to directly show interest without coming on too strong?

I've never had a problem with women making the first move. Frankly, it's been flattering...and a reminder to get my head out of the clouds and focus on things in the tangible world that matter.

I've also never experienced recoiling at a woman coming on too strong. Women that are strong and know what they want are attractive to me. So if they speak their mind...I'm good with that. Say what you feel, and fuck worrying about alienating the other person.

Says the introvert that has struggled at times with that same advice, and ended up inadvertently creating a fun chase!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Women that are strong and know what they want are attractive to me. So if they speak their mind...I'm good with that.

I appreciate a man who is comfortable giving me room to show him who i am. If we're not going to click, it's so much better to know that sooner rather than later, i think.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I've never had a problem with women making the first move. Frankly, it's been flattering...and a reminder to get my head out of the clouds and focus on things in the tangible world that matter.

I've also never experienced recoiling at a woman coming on too strong. Women that are strong and know what they want are attractive to me. So if they speak their mind...I'm good with that. Say what you feel, and fuck worrying about alienating the other person.

Says the introvert that has struggled at times with that same advice, and ended up inadvertently creating a fun chase!

I like This.

 

[AlwaysFara]

See above about being oblivious.

On the other hand, "Hey do you want to have sex" is way too strong. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time, but we almost need an agreed on code word.

So, the answer to that is no, should she ask?

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

So, the answer to that is no, should she ask?

I'm just glad I'm not in the dating pool. One thing I have always taken to mean interest is touching an arm or hand casually. I think it's supposed to be some kind of unconscious thing. I guess that would open my mind to something else.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I'm just glad I'm not in the dating pool. One thing I have always taken to mean interest is touching an arm or hand casually. I think it's supposed to be some kind of unconscious thing. I guess that would open my mind to something else.

Well, yes, I’m not a toucher, so that would count for me.
I would rather use my words.
I’ve never really had a problem, and while I’m outgoing and could have made the first move, I never really thought about it. It seems easy.
If you are both attracted, you just... get there, somehow.
I don’t recall thinking about it much after my teen years, when it’s all DRAMA!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Well, yes, I’m not a toucher, so that would count for me.
I would rather use my words.
I’ve never really had a problem, and while I’m outgoing and could have made the first move, I never really thought about it. It seems easy.
If you are both attracted, you just... get there, somehow.
I don’t recall thinking about it much after my teen years, when it’s all DRAMA!

And I don't know about the rest of you, but I don't need any manufactured drama. I've got enough IRL! (I do live this thread!!!).

 

[lurkingguy1978]

If you are both attracted, you just... get there, somehow.

This.

Organic. Like gravity.

 

[thefishfryer]

Well, yes, I’m not a toucher, so that would count for me.
If you are both attracted, you just... get there, somehow.
I don’t recall thinking about it much after my teen years, when it’s all DRAMA!

This!! Except that in my teen years there was very little drama or anything else.

 

[AlwaysFara]

This!! Except that in my teen years there was very little drama or anything else.

I mean, that’s when I yearned. And waited. And loved from afar. Isn’t it easier now?

 

[thefishfryer]

I mean, that’s when I yearned. And waited. And loved from afar. Isn’t it easier now?

Well yearning was something I did a lot of....................... amongst other things.

I'm not sure it's easier. Just different. and the desperation has passed.

 

[Interested_Girl]

I'm just glad I'm not in the dating pool. One thing I have always taken to mean interest is touching an arm or hand casually. I think it's supposed to be some kind of unconscious thing. I guess that would open my mind to something else.

I agree with this. I definitely put my hand on someone's arm. I also do this when I'm talking to someone to get their attention though and so it is confusing for men...and even women.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Oh my. I'm a very touchy person. I touch arms, shoulders, elbows, hands, etc... to show I care. To show I'm listening. Yes, to show I'm interested - but not like that - moreso that I'm interested in you as a person.

I wonder how many I've given the wrong impression to and how this trait manifests itself on Lit - where I can't touch with hands, but with words.

Words are more intentional than an unconscious touch, though.
And there’s always that moment before hitting SEND... should I?
FUCK!!! I can’t believe I hit send!

 

[Miles Long]

Do you want two shots of tequila, or should we go straight for three?

 

[Interested_Girl]

Do you want two shots of tequila, or should we go straight for three?

Tequila is gross

 

[AlwaysFara]

Do you want two shots of tequila, or should we go straight for three?

Four.

 

[BadAmy]

lick it... slam it... suck it.

...one less bell to answer.....

 

[LostGirlTink]

Do you want two shots of tequila, or should we go straight for three?

Yummy

Tequila is gross

More for the rest of us....

Four.

Five

Yes...

I mean seven

Mmmmmm margaritas

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Margs???

 

[LostGirlTink]

Margs???

Let’s play bar!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Let’s play bar!

Oooh!!! I hear you like little umbrellas

 

[LostGirlTink]

Oooh!!! I hear you like little umbrellas

I can’t read tonight

 

[Dribble]

Tequila is gross

Cuervo is rot gut. Try some good blanco sometime. Tres Generaciones Plata is a decent mid-priced clear tequilla

https://www.tresgeneraciones.com/home

There is better out there...but you pay for it

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

lick it... slam it... suck it.

...one less bell to answer.....

You should be happy...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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