How TO properly Approach a Lady.

[Cicca_Jai]

You started here http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=70808104#post70808104
If not click the link and go back. One must learn to crawl before they can learn to run with the big boys.


*Things you should know* We get a lot of mail. I myself, probably the least noticeable/enticing person on the site get about 50 mails a day. Minimum.

I answer the ones that really stand out as being something special first before moving on to the less than stellar. Finally IF I get around to it, I will reply politely, if at all possible, to the seriously messed up.

Lesson One.

Chose Your Target with Care:

Subsection- Thread stalking-
Thread stalking is fine before making the initial contact.
This allows you to get to know us a little better. Our likes and dislikes, sometimes, we even post deeply personal information that will help you avoid blowing things up in a spectacular fashion. Take Notes! while thread stalking.

1) Profiles- READ THEM!

If I get one more email from someone wishing to RP a MMF with me being one of the M's I'm going to steal the launch codes AND USE THEM!
Again Take Notes!


2) Now you feel you are ready to craft the missive of her lifetime.
STOP-
You are a random dude, do not get your hopes up. You may well, craft the best email, in the history of emails, and still not hear back.
This is called: Rejection It is not the end of your little world. Just take a beat and chill.

3) Form Letters: No. Never. Ever. Just. No. Please see the "how not to" thread for more details.


4) ******The right way to approach any lady is with respect.******
You know that thing you have around your mom and the nuns at your's kids' school.

5) Honesty is key.
If you are 67, married, slightly pudgy and have no hair... Say that. In a fun clever way of course. Some chicks dig that. it might be your lucky day, if you have stalked her properly you should have a decent idea as to if you have half a chance.

6) Look at your notes: What do you know about the person to whom you are reaching out through various cables, satellites and other gizmos and doodads?

6.2) What caught your eye? Was it her Smile, her sense of humor?
Pick 1 or max 3 things to point out to show us you put a lot of effort into this.


7) Spell check- It is your friend please do use it.


In summary-
We are fairly easy to get to know around here. If you take a little time and effort.
Do this right and watch them melt into your little RPing arms

You may now applaud.


~C~

 

[SmileyGirl]

50 pm's a day!!! Lol I'm reallllllly good at keeping under the radar me thinks

 

[Cicca_Jai]

50 pm's a day!!! Lol I'm reallllllly good at keeping under the radar me thinks

I have 142 emails in my inbox at this time. half are unopened. I dump it out 2 sometimes 3 times a week. Of the remaining mail- half those are from people I actually WANT to hear from. so it's ok.

 

[sks43]

I have 142 emails in my inbox at this time. half are unopened. I dump it out 2 sometimes 3 times a week. Of the remaining mail- half those are from people I actually WANT to hear from. so it's ok.

Is that 50 from 50 different people or are some from the same person?

 

[Lasslorn]

That's a lot of reading.

Can I just throw my dick at people?

 

[SmileyGirl]

That's a lot of reading.

Can I just throw my dick at people?

Bwahaha love it!!

 

[SmileyGirl]

I have 142 emails in my inbox at this time. half are unopened. I dump it out 2 sometimes 3 times a week. Of the remaining mail- half those are from people I actually WANT to hear from. so it's ok.

Popular laydee indeed

 

[Cicca_Jai]

Doing it right!

A good example of some fantastic litster who is doing it right.


"Your posts
Hello,

I noticed your user name yesterday, I went through your older posts. I was planning to message you but I couldn't find a witty message.

After reading your recent posts at the "xxxx" thread, I can positively say that I like you already

I hope you'd PM me back and we can chat sometime.

All the best,
X."


I replied, we had a fantastic conversation, we are still friends who speak often.
He get's a gold star!

 

[TheSilverLining]

Well. I'm going to go against the grain (shocker, eh?), and suggest that it doesn't need to be as complicated as all that.
I don't see why there's a need to have all these rules to be followed. Why complicate something so simple?
What's wrong with a "hi, nice to meet you, how are you?" Etc.

So long as you're not being an utter cockwomble then no problems!
(I will admit to being guilty of ignoring some PMs. If you've been a member for a decade and have zero posts then your PM probably screams virtual-booty-call. Judgemental, I know.)

This is why I'm forever single.
I'm not willing to play games.
<shrug>

 

[SmileyGirl]

Well. I'm going to go against the grain (shocker, eh?), and suggest that it doesn't need to be as complicated as all that.
I don't see why there's a need to have all these rules to be followed. Why complicate something so simple?
What's wrong with a "hi, nice to meet you, how are you?" Etc.

So long as you're not being an utter cockwomble then no problems!
(I will admit to being guilty of ignoring some PMs. If you've been a member for a decade and have zero posts then your PM probably screams virtual-booty-call. Judgemental, I know.)

This is why I'm forever single.
I'm not willing to play games.
<shrug>

*like*
I agree it doesn't have to be complicated.
Just don't be a nob

 

[TheSilverLining]

Oh, and I'm with smiley girl on the PM thing.
I don't get 'em.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Oh, and I'm with smiley girl on the PM thing.
I don't get 'em.

Maybe we just don't get the cockwombles
Quality not quantity hehe

 

[TheSilverLining]

Just don't be a nob

Don't get your knob out either.
At least say hello first.
It's just polite.

 

[Lasslorn]

*knocking*

Hello, ma'am. Can you spare a moment to talk about... my cock?

 

[TheSilverLining]

*knocking*

Hello, ma'am. Can you spare a moment to talk about... my cock?

Ahhh the male preoccupation with size, perhaps?
(Because all Litster menfolks have a 12" beast between their legs, dontcha know)

If you're concerned, can I suggest compensating in the form of a flash car? [/blatant stereotyping]
That would be really original.

 

[Lasslorn]

Ahhh the male preoccupation with size, perhaps?
(Because all Litster menfolks have a 12" beast between their legs, dontcha know)

If you're concerned, can I suggest compensating in the form of a flash car? [/blatant stereotyping]
That would be really original.

I was going to buy a chimp and put it in a top hat.


...the car may be more practical.

 

[cowslinger64]

Well. I'm going to go against the grain (shocker, eh?), and suggest that it doesn't need to be as complicated as all that.
I don't see why there's a need to have all these rules to be followed. Why complicate something so simple?
What's wrong with a "hi, nice to meet you, how are you?" Etc.

So long as you're not being an utter cockwomble then no problems!
(I will admit to being guilty of ignoring some PMs. If you've been a member for a decade and have zero posts then your PM probably screams virtual-booty-call. Judgemental, I know.)

This is why I'm forever single.
I'm not willing to play games.
<shrug>

THIS...


Perfect.


Fuck the rules. I do as I please and if someone chooses not to write me back, it's their loss.....not mine.

Of course I'm not one of those creepy stalker pussy guy ass kissers with some sort of hidden agenda either. Most times when I do write a woman I've never chatted with, its to make them and flirt a little. Or point out something I've noticed interesting about them.

Guys here can be real crass... but you are on a porn message board and should act and react accordingly IMO. It's like the "I'm painfully shy, but here's my vergina in all it's glory!"

Not trashing your thread, just my perspective.

 

[Titts4Tatts]

On a good day I get 2 maybe 3 PM's. Dangitt now I have to go to the " What made me say fuck today " thread and vent. LIT is TOO complicated. Throw in all this manco*k...nope can't do it. Just smile and be nice. That's all I ask. I'm like Cowslinger. Keep it real and keep it simple.

 

[Markyrock9]

thanks...

Thanks ladies, for some insightful tips, and from a few different viewpoints.

Basic rule: Don't be a rude cocksnap.

I've just joined up and this is actually my first post.
Looking forward to some fun times and some good chats.

Cheers

M

 

[neakman]

Ahhh the male preoccupation with size, perhaps?
(Because all Litster menfolks have a 12" beast between their legs, dontcha know)

If you're concerned, can I suggest compensating in the form of a flash car? [/blatant stereotyping]
That would be really original.

I am a cockwomble (love that word) and a nob with an under 3" johnson and I am filling out this form post to whoever will return it to me.......I am so hot for____________ that I think I may get an erection soon. Please reply immediately.

 

[Markyrock9]

50 pm's a day!!! Lol I'm reallllllly good at keeping under the radar me thinks

And SmileyGirl, I'd be happy to bump your radar readings up.

 

[TheSilverLining]

I am a cockwomble (love that word) and a nob with an under 3" johnson and I am filling out this form post to whoever will return it to me.......I am so hot for____________ that I think I may get an erection soon. Please reply immediately.

If a micropenis gets wood and nobody sees it, does it really get erect?

(philosophical thought)








(As an aside, this thread got off track <guilty> and I'm actually curious to see what other people have to add to the OP)

 

[neakman]

If a micropenis gets wood and nobody sees it, does it really get erect?

(philosophical thought)








(As an aside, this thread got off track <guilty> and I'm actually curious to see what other people have to add to the OP)

Okay, to appease TSL...... btw how dare you call me a micropenis, we prefer to be called cockchallenged!!

please put your ear up to the computer or smart device of your choice and hear this: PMing IS NOT THAT HARD.
cowslinger had it pretty much right, someone catches your fancy, PM them with a witty ditty......they like it great, they dont, fuck them.
You can instruct losers all day long about form PMs, random vulgar statements with no context, but if someone doesnt realize that this will not work, they are a LOST CAUSE anyway.
I would say I get a response from 85% of the people I PM. including some ladies on this thread. so I must be doing something right.

 

[Dark_Kent]

Well. I'm going to go against the grain (shocker, eh?), and suggest that it doesn't need to be as complicated as all that.
I don't see why there's a need to have all these rules to be followed. Why complicate something so simple?
What's wrong with a "hi, nice to meet you, how are you?" Etc.

So long as you're not being an utter cockwomble then no problems!
(I will admit to being guilty of ignoring some PMs. If you've been a member for a decade and have zero posts then your PM probably screams virtual-booty-call. Judgemental, I know.)

This is why I'm forever single.
I'm not willing to play games.
<shrug>

Lol @ cockwomble

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

If a micropenis gets wood and nobody sees it, does it really get erect?

(philosophical thought)








(As an aside, this thread got off track <guilty> and I'm actually curious to see what other people have to add to the OP)

You answered your own question. You don't see it.

I very rarely send out a pm to someone I don't know. I just don't bother anymore. I agree with Slinger on many of his points.