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[YourCaptor]

How do you keep from getting jaded?

 

[IrisAlthea]

How do you keep from getting jaded?

To me, the jaded feeling seems cyclical. It comes and stays for a while and then leaves again in it's own time.
Since I can't seem to find anything that makes it leave faster, I mostly just wait it out.

 

[YourCaptor]

To me, the jaded feeling seems cyclical. It comes and stays for a while and then leaves again in it's own time.
Since I can't seem to find anything that makes it leave faster, I mostly just wait it out.

Mine doesn't cycle. Everything feels like its on repeat, the same boring shit over and over and over again. Nothing is new under the sun.

 

[Loverskitten]

Get away from the sex sites (including Fet.) get into a hiking club or some other of your interests. Meet people who don't have sex as their only objective.

HEY! I remember someone giving me the same advice (except put "animal rescue" where "hiking" is) yep, that was you. Good advice.
BTW, you're too young to be jaded anyway.

 

[Wentented]

I liked what kitten said and like totally agree with her

 

[KoPilot]

Get obsessed with something else for a while. And if it turns out that you want to come back to the thing afterward, there's nothing wrong with having a love-hate with it. In fact, I'm pretty suspicious of people who unquestionably love anything.

 

[Ahlam]

Create some chaos. It helps! Well, sort of...

 

[IrisAlthea]

Mine doesn't cycle. Everything feels like its on repeat, the same boring shit over and over and over again. Nothing is new under the sun.

Ugh, reading that reminded me of my thirties crisis.
Sorry, I know that's no help but you have my sympathy.

 

[Dyslexicea]

Get away from the sex sites (including Fet.) get into a hiking club or some other of your interests. Meet people who don't have sex as their only objective.

HEY! I remember someone giving me the same advice (except put "animal rescue" where "hiking" is) yep, that was you. Good advice.
BTW, you're too young to be jaded anyway.

Wonderful advice.

I might also add you could do volunteer work, maybe at a hospital or food bank, it can be very rewarding. Maybe visit some older folks at a nursing home, you'd be amazed at how much you can learn about life from the aged and they really are thankful for your company.

 

[YourCaptor]

Well, I have been away from kink for what, a year now. But I haven't gotten laid either so how much good does that really do me.

Judging by fetlife approximations and the local population, within 10-20 miles of my home there is probably 1 kinky girl in 40,000. And that's why I've only met 2 or 3 without the internet, ever.

I also have my other interests. Kink is probably number 4 or 5 on the priority list.

Maybe I'm not jaded, maybe I'm just bored with all this spankies and candle play bullshit.

 

[MeekMe]

Whenever I crochet, I tend to go nuts and crochet A LOT. I lose interest and put it all away for awhile. I pick up other interests and busy myself with life.

I pick up the yarn and needle when I see something I want to make. A stylish new scarf or hat? I've never done that stitch before! Usually, to get back into it I need a project that requires me to learn something new and give me a stylish reward to add to my wardrobe.

Perhaps you have to step back. Find something that requires you to learn, possibly master.

 

[YourCaptor]

I liked what kitten said and like totally agree with her

Who are you and why was this your first post?

Stalker?

 

[YourCaptor]

Get away from the sex sites (including Fet.) get into a hiking club or some other of your interests. Meet people who don't have sex as their only objective.

HEY! I remember someone giving me the same advice (except put "animal rescue" where "hiking" is) yep, that was you. Good advice.
BTW, you're too young to be jaded anyway.

Get obsessed with something else for a while. And if it turns out that you want to come back to the thing afterward, there's nothing wrong with having a love-hate with it. In fact, I'm pretty suspicious of people who unquestionably love anything.

Whenever I crochet, I tend to go nuts and crochet A LOT. I lose interest and put it all away for awhile. I pick up other interests and busy myself with life.

I pick up the yarn and needle when I see something I want to make. A stylish new scarf or hat? I've never done that stitch before! Usually, to get back into it I need a project that requires me to learn something new and give me a stylish reward to add to my wardrobe.

Perhaps you have to step back. Find something that requires you to learn, possibly master.

What about when that does not work. I come back, and right away its like this shit again...

 

[YourCaptor]

Wonderful advice.

I might also add you could do volunteer work, maybe at a hospital or food bank, it can be very rewarding. Maybe visit some older folks at a nursing home, you'd be amazed at how much you can learn about life from the aged and they really are thankful for your company.

I can't do that, I'm a guy.

 

[KoPilot]

What about when that does not work. I come back, and right away its like this shit again...

Don't come back?

Can't reverse entropy.

Pretend BDSM/the scene/whatever it is that you're throwing an emotional fit over right now and just pretend it's an ex. You have to get over it and move on someday if it wasn't meant to be. I get that people around here love to throw about "I was born this way!!1" as an excuse, but either way... you're kind of allowed to stop doing something permanently.

 

[YourCaptor]

Don't come back?

Can't reverse entropy.

Pretend BDSM/the scene/whatever it is that you're throwing an emotional fit over right now and just pretend it's an ex. You have to get over it and move on someday if it wasn't meant to be. I get that people around here love to throw about "I was born this way!!1" as an excuse, but either way... you're kind of allowed to stop doing something permanently.

But I need it. But I hate people.

 

[Loverskitten]

What about when that does not work. I come back, and right away its like this shit again...

"Does not work" but you'd be doing something you ENJOY. You can't lose, right?

Another suggestion, there are a ton of fake profiles on Fet. Stop the online chat with the young girls and get to a munch. Meet people your age.

(Says the girl who's frustrated with online crap herself)

 

[Dyslexicea]

I can't do that, I'm a guy.

and you think with your, oh never mind.

 

[YourCaptor]

"Does not work" but you'd be doing something you ENJOY. You can't lose, right?

Another suggestion, there are a ton of fake profiles on Fet. Stop the online chat with the young girls and get to a munch. Meet people your age.

(Says the girl who's frustrated with online crap herself)

Hey I don't seek out the young ones, I just look for younger then me, and some age groups are poorly represented.

I'm working on going to some kink events. Problem is I want friends to go with, and to get those I need online. Oh the vicious cycle.

and you think with your, oh never mind.

Sometimes... but let me rephrase.

I'm not a friendly looking guy.