How many dirty fantasies have you revealed in your relationship(s)?

[MamaBitte]

Had very normal fantasies as compare to Lit community so shared .

What do you mean by "normal"? Or "not normal"?

 

[spawnofdavey]

Almost none… theyre too fucked up and would hurt my hubby’s feelings

That sounds remarkably relatable to be honest.

I've been married close to 20 years and it became clear that we were both going in different directions as we got older. I'm worried that I'd freak her out these days of I told her of my fantasies.

 

[subdudeme13]

All of them! With my Domme!

 

[Glassnslate]

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[Will527]

I found out that if I talk about it, ask for it, I'll get it.

 

[naughty_shygirl]

Quite a few but not all of them, like some of my shared fantasies since they're influenced by porn. I don't really want to do them but they're exciting since they're taboo and forbidden.

I can definitely relate to this. All my dirtiest fantasies are influenced by porn such as dp and gangbang but I really have no desire to do them irl except for living out the fantasy using toys. I'm a very loyal, one man at a time type person but something about watching a woman being fucked like a dirty slut in porn turns me on big time .

 

[skitzoid]

I been very guarded when talking about anything off the wall concerning sex. My wife is VERY vanilla. One position in sex .. careful mouth to genital contact. We did have a strange conversation years ago that amounted to absolutly nothing. Sure, I have fantasies and some are off-the-wall. Why should I say anything, it just falls on deaf ears. My sex life sucks, and not in a good way.

 

[lowcollar]

I have revealed many of my fantasies. I have kept to myself being the submissive for 5 angry women at the same time. I have also kept to myself my trans fantasies.

 

[Wonderer67]

Ie shared most with my wife.

She is a good sport about some of the tamer ones. For the more “out there” ones, she gives me “the look.”

But I can really tell her most of them. She’s receptive to some.

 

[desertman45]

Do you think that, if you meet someone through Lit, it is easier to share your fantasies and desires?

yes

 

[ChuckWolf]

Pretty much all of them; none of my fantasies are scary or illegal, so that made it easier, but a few can sometimes be hard to articulate, like CFNM.

 

[chrisatb5]

Stopped doing this

 

[9to5]

I have told about bondage and chastity. but the look I got so its hard to bring up with her any others. so its only those 2. and no more

 

[alwayshorny2020]

I have told my wife I want to have a straight mfm threesome with her, said yes but hasn't happened yet
I have asked her to peg me. Not interested

 

[Ggnlee]

I've spoke to my wife about all my fantasies, whether they are for her or not. We both have naughty minds and get off on all sorts of stuff. Fantasy is where a lot of it stays as some of it is taboo. But talking about them whilst masturbating each other or during sex leads to amazing orgasms.

She is more held back than me but get her in the right mood and we are a couple of pervs. Who cares

 

[PMarky2]

I shared my fantasies with my wife when we were first together. Her reaction to my anal fantasy was a hard no, but after we had been together for a few years she started enjoying a finger up her butt when I licked her out, or thumb in the butt and two fingers in the pussy. My liking for light bondage did not get very far, which was a pity as my previous girlfriend had been fond of rope, and she got me into it. Until her health packed up about 7 years ago, she was up for most positions for PIV sex, though her favourite, as I am on the large side, was a straight variation on scissoring as she said that did not stretch her quite so much. I enjoyed it because it tended to delay ejaculation.

The more marginal activities that creep into my sub-conscious include some mild piss play, and being pegged on a 'if you want my ass, you'll have to give me yours' basis. Neither of these has been discussed with the wife, mainly because they were person specific, and the person was not my wife.

 

[bisissyhusband1]

My wife discovered my kink of watching pegging porn while ramming a dildo up my ass. Not really a revelation, more of a discovery!

 

[human_male]

This is a question for anyone, have you ever met someone who you could open up to about anything and knew they'd never judge you?

Or if not, how important, how much of an attraction would that be?

 

[alwayshorny2020]

I've shared a couple of fantasies with my wife, one was that she peg me. I got a hard no.
The second was that we have a mfm threesome, She said yes to my surprise. We are in the final stages of organising it. She even added she wanted to be dp’Ed.

 

[Icekiller56]

This is a question for anyone, have you ever met someone who you could open up to about anything and knew they'd never judge you?

Or if not, how important, how much of an attraction would that be?

I've opened up about my fantasies to my girlfriend, and she has never judged me. We share some of the same kinks which makes it easier. She never judged me for them and has embraced the ones we don't share. She has never shot down any idea and has been completely open to me. Knowing I'll never be judged for my interests is a major attraction. I have fallen more in love with her because of it. She truly is amazing and I can't wait to spend my life with her. Sorry for the ramble, but I'm madly in love with her.

 

[PaxNurgle]

This is a question for anyone, have you ever met someone who you could open up to about anything and knew they'd never judge you?

Or if not, how important, how much of an attraction would that be?

It would be a huge attraction, but the only person I've met who was like this was a professional domme. Not the life partner that I am seeking.

 

[Oliverleo]

Interesting, I can't keep count lol!

 

[HordHolm]

My wife knows most things, and I know things about her fantasies. Though, of course, I don't know what I don't know - or, I only know what she has chosen to tell me. We have even enacted some things (swinger clubs are such fun places ).

Where things get more difficult is the person I haven't revealed anything to, who is very close but is also a colleague in her own long term relationship. I suspect she might be in something open, or at least, I get the vibe she would be happy if something happened between us, but I can't be certain telling her that my marriage is open and she's welcome to join my wife and I in bed wouldn't fuck up a very good working relationship. It doesn't help that she is as cute as a button.

 

[SwitchSubKali]

I’m have admitted them to temporary play partners. In a relationship I have never admitted the dark thoughts that plague my brain. I think it’s shame. I don’t think I should like the things I like. Watch the porn I watch. Fantasize about what I do that gets me off. I want it all. The domination, choking, pain, losing control. But I’ve never dated anyone I thought was worthy of that kind of control.

 

[jim28]

None, I once revealed one to my wife and nearly got divorced
Not a great idea

That's why, when I started with my ex, I started early. On our second date, I told her that I wanted to be feminized and tied up. I ended up tied to the motel bed wearing her bra and panties. That was the start of 16 years of a life that many guys only fantasize about.