How many dirty fantasies have you revealed in your relationship(s)?

[Iwillgo]

None, zero, nada.... she doesn't appreciate any dirty fantasies. (I hate calling anything erotic, dirty, but that's a different topic!!!!!)

 

[KateAt55]

Not many bust but getting there with this latest hunk

 

[Submissivepat]

I’ve shared every one of them!

 

[Sol41]

4

 

[Crownvic]

Not many bust but getting there with this latest hunk

Love Kate in red high heels..

 

[discjockey74]

Haven’t shared, she wouldn’t be down with it!!!

 

[Erosfan]

My late wife knew all of my naughty secrets. We talked about this a lot. She was very willing and open to discussion. Once everything was out in the open, she just smiled at me and said, "you are going to be so naked all the time."
I gave myself to her so completely, I had to tell her to be careful. I told her she could do anything she wanted, with me or to me and I would never attempt to stop her, no matter when or where she wanted to play. This worked out great for both of us. She kept me grounded in reality when I might have gone to far and she had her way with me when and where she wanted. She was keen to keep us out of trouble.

 

[Tessinwales]

In my marriage, none! Since my divorce with every lover I have had.

 

[newhere2learn]

And how much is exactly left that you keep hidden away? Do you think D/s leads to more openness and honesty, or is that just delusional hubris? Do submissives or dominants worry less about scaring their partner away compared to vanilla couples?

Long term relationships; never relayed any of my fantasies to women I've been long term or married to. Just wasn't the emotional support.

FwB; one knew I was bi, and I had kinks. Not what.

Play partners, I've told way more to

 

[newhere2learn]

Ugh why is it so hard to talk to the vanilla ones

Depends on their mindset. Last long-term GF was an amazing lover physically in bed. She wouldn't discuss anything though, to the point she wouldn't even say the word "cock" or tell me how she liked to be licked.

I bought toys, lingerie for her and made small progress. But in the end. She reverted to no communication re: sex.

 

[Justabaldguy70]

Ugh why is it so hard to talk to the vanilla ones

Cause they don’t understand or have no interest in exploring

 

[magic_rat]

Secrets are nasty. It feels like Lit is full of people (mainly guys) who wish their wives would... whatever... but are afraid to mention it.

I get that it's hard if you've been married for 20 years to suddenly reveal that you'll only be truly happy if she whores herself out to black men. But she may be harbouring the same desire, who knows?

In my current relationships I'm 99.9% honest about all my desires and fantasies, as are they. I'm lucky as we started out this way from day one. I met them both via swinging and fet, so secrets seem silly. If one of us has a particular desire, we can discuss and either work something out or opt out. And due to the openness of our relationships we all feel able to pursue other interests outside the relationhsip too.

 

[SPARTAN047]

The vanilla ones can be a little boring.

 

[MamaBitte]

Revealed most of them but there's no understanding at all. Yes, it's frustrating

 

[SavannaT]

Almost none… theyre too fucked up and would hurt my hubby’s feelings

 

[Surferdude1891]

None, she is locked in land vanilla.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I’ve shared every one of them!

You are fortunate to have found a partner you can feel at ease with enough to confide in.
Others among us have not been so lucky.

 

[Lit_shreya]

Had very normal fantasies as compare to Lit community so shared .

 

[Surferdude1891]

You are fortunate to have found a partner you can feel at ease with enough to confide in.
Others among us have not been so lucky.

But I do the forums and stuff because you can get it out safely

 

[tristantrotsky]

But I do the forums and stuff because you can get it out safely

Which is why these Forums are so valuable, they allow is freedoms that other aspects of our lives do not...

 

[JaysonFromMars]

Any and all of them. We have a policy of 100% openness about sex. Some we have acted on, some we haven’t, but before her I was married a long time and locked away my kinky side, which I think pushed us apart.

 

[EoghanDubhara]

Unfortunately, none. All the guys I've dated have been pretty vanilla. I've been scared to even talk about my kinks and fantasies. None of them seemed comfortable with dominating my needy little pussy.

 

[dz2681]

Almost none… theyre too fucked up and would hurt my hubby’s feelings

Don’t need to worry about my feelings I’d love to hear more about those fantasies, especially if you haven’t mentioned it on the threads

 

[SPARTAN047]

Quite a few but not all of them, like some of my shared fantasies since they're influenced by porn. I don't really want to do them but they're exciting since they're taboo and forbidden.

 

[CuriousRick]

Unfortunately, none. All the guys I've dated have been pretty vanilla. I've been scared to even talk about my kinks and fantasies. None of them seemed comfortable with dominating my needy little pussy.

Poor unlucky bastards.