Older Gay Men

[dscott1947]

I don't know if it is my imagination but it seems the amount of gay activity among and between 50-60-70 year old men is hige. As a 60+ guy who played when I was young, went strictly straight for 10 years, went back to play with men again, left and now came back in a more active way, I am curious what other older men think. When we grew up in the 50's gay was looked down on - but most of us got a little tingle looking at other dicks. Now it's more acceptable. Care to comment?

 

[kingkhan1]

Man, it must have been tough to grow up when being gay wasn't accepted as it is today even though its not fully accepted now at least its better.

 

[dscott1947]

It was more than that - no one spoke about it. No one spoke much about masturbating. When you were 13-15 you teased people about it but you never were up front about it. For years I wondered if something was wrong with me because I loved to masturbate and did it at least once or twice a day.

There was no internet, not even pictures of cocks. The only way you saw cocks was in the gym locker and shower room. There you had to sneak a look. Everyone, even if you know you were totally gay were very deep in the closet.

I play with someone that turned me on when I was 14 and continued on and off for 10 years. Whenever we played, I was conflicted and looked for a pussy to play with. IT wasn't until the late 90's that I realized that looking, liking and playing with my cock and someone else's is perfectly normal and I enjoy someone else's cock whenever I can

 

[jvillcouple]

I agree with you that guys in their 50s, 60s, and 70s are more into playing with each other than they were 10 years ago. I don't think its gay or bi. . . I think its just bringing back fun into life. Why? I think the Internet has played a major part. First, you can look at the pictures and get turned on, and then you can chat and meet up with others easier and safer than going to a dirty bookstore or a gay park.

 

[limplizzard]

I denied my attraction to men for 50 years, I sucked my first cock at 64, I truly regrete those wasted years. After the first time I realized how much pleasure there is in sucking a cock to orgasm and tasting another mans cum.

 

[gaymm]

I agree that the internet has much to do with it. It is much easier to find other gay men to socialize with. All sorts of activities and events, gay oriented, or gay only vacations. This allows men to be "out" without necessarily "coming out" This is a big deal for some older men. (I include myself here and I am only 45.) While I make no secret that I am gay, some long time acquaintences are sometimes shocked when they find out.

Dont forget too, that older gay men who have longtime repressed feelings are sometimes like kids in a candy store when they first come out. I have several friends who were formerly married with grown kids who have come out in their 50s and 60s. All of them to a person admit to having a huge weight off their shoulders, and it being the most exillerating and liberating thing they had ever done (first admitting that they were gay) Of course it is not always without pain (family breakups).

But yes, lately (last 5 years or so) it does seem than many more older gay men are coming to terms with their sexual orientation!

 

[JHarrison01]

Speaking for myself, I am looking for something sexually different. I can't say I have always been fascinated by a man's cock and I am not attracted to men, but the idea of making a guy hard and having him cum is definately different and definately exciting.

Although I am 50-something, I am way more sexually active than my wife. I imagine there are other guys like me that have that drive and need a release from the touch of someone else.
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[Bicuriousone]

I think that with the coming of the internet is the reason that a lot of men are coming to terms with their desires to try sex with another man. I had my experiences when I was younger but it was mostly just mutual masturbation with another guy. I did suck on him once but not to climax. After that I admit that I always have had the desire to experience everything that M/M sex could
offer but I have never gone any farther with it. I do love being with a woman, so I guess you could say that I am a closet bisexual. If the opportunity ever arises I will jump atthe chance to taste the pleasures of it. Back when I was younger if everyone found out that you had any type of relation no matter how little you were really looked down upon and in some areas it could get quite violent. People now are much more opened minded and except it more easily I think. I have always gotten a little tingle from looking at others dicks, evaen to this day, and I probably always will.

I don't know if it is my imagination but it seems the amount of gay activity among and between 50-60-70 year old men is hige. As a 60+ guy who played when I was young, went strictly straight for 10 years, went back to play with men again, left and now came back in a more active way, I am curious what other older men think. When we grew up in the 50's gay was looked down on - but most of us got a little tingle looking at other dicks. Now it's more acceptable. Care to comment?

 

[searching-one]

I was born in 1930 in a Western Queensland town in Australia and agree with the sentiments expressed here.Although I was an 8 year old when I first started to take an interest in my prick, I quickly became aware that gay sex mas a tabu subject. Jacking off as I got older left me with a serious guilt complex for many many years. Although I grew up wanting to fuck girls I soon realised that they did not satisfy the depth of feelings within my body. For many years I put off my feelings by drinking to excess so as to "get rid of the dirty water".

In my early twenties I realised that my make up was not what it appeared? I was watching a friend doing a sommersault on the parralell bars and as he rolled over the sight of his buttocks in his gym shorts caused me to have an unexpected involunetry erection which took a very considerable time to subside.
In those days these feelings scared hell out of me _ I could not afford to be seen as a poof.

I got married when I was 31 and ever the next few years fathered 5 children then as my wife turned of regular sex I again started to drink again although then I read about the gay scene and started to skirt around its edge when ever I got drunk I never really had the courage to go against my religious or social back ground.

Over the next few decades I did manage to visit the odd bath house and was sucked off on such occasions. After each of these episodes I of course suffered from severe guilt feelings Eventually it was the advent of the internet that opened up a huge world to me. To date although I have not dived into the gay scene with gusto I am for the first time in my life accepting of my own sexuality

 

[none2_none2]

I was born in 1930 in a Western Queensland town in Australia and agree with the sentiments expressed here.Although I was an 8 year old when I first started to take an interest in my prick, I quickly became aware that gay sex mas a tabu subject. Jacking off as I got older left me with a serious guilt complex for many many years. Although I grew up wanting to fuck girls I soon realised that they did not satisfy the depth of feelings within my body. For many years I put off my feelings by drinking to excess so as to "get rid of the dirty water".

In my early twenties I realized that my make up was not what it appeared? I was watching a friend doing a sommersault on the parralell bars and as he rolled over the sight of his buttocks in his gym shorts caused me to have an unexpected involunetry erection which took a very considerable time to subside.
In those days these feelings scared hell out of me _ I could not afford to be seen as a poof.

I got married when I was 31 and ever the next few years fathered 5 children then as my wife turned of regular sex I again started to drink again although then I read about the gay scene and started to skirt around its edge when ever I got drunk I never really had the courage to go against my religious or social back ground.

Over the next few decades I did manage to visit the odd bath house and was sucked off on such occasions. After each of these episodes I of course suffered from severe guilt feelings Eventually it was the advent of the internet that opened up a huge world to me. To date although I have not dived into the gay scene with gusto I am for the first time in my life accepting of my own sexuality

Your story is very touching. Whether you decide to act more upon your feelings or not, I hope you always make sure not to go further or faster than you are ready to go.

I remember years ago an older man was in somewhat of a similar situation. I don't remember if his wife divorced him or if she died, but he went hog wild for the gay sex once he was on his own. Because he had felt repressed for so many years he went a bit too far. He was determined to make up for lost time, so he was doing very risky things. I think we all know about condoms and AIDS. Not only was he doing unsafe sex, he was also doing things that I think his body didn't want him to do. I'm a top, so I love to fuck. I just wanted to be this man's friend, but he insisted that we fuck since he knew it was my favorite thing to do. However, I think he had hemorrhoids or something as he started to bleed, so I stopped. He was rather upset that I quit. It is almost like he had something to prove that he could do it all even if he was in his late 60's or 70's. He found other guys who were willing to fuck him. I just couldn't as I felt it wasn't right if it hurt him or was causing bleeding. He would try several times to blow me. I really don't get off on oral, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I didn't get off, but he would constantly ask me if he was giving me pleasure. He seemed to have a big need to feel like he pleased his partners.

Though on the surface he seemed like a kid in the candy store who's mom had left the room, he also seemed like a very bitter man. Note that though he said he was "bi", his activities were 99% gay. On one hand he seemed to also want some deep level of emotional closeness with males, yet on the other hand he felt that you can never truly be close to anybody unless they are a blood relative, or you get them pregnant. I don't know if that was religious upbringing or not, but all I know is that I think he should have gotten some counseling.

 

[duright]

I think the reason for older mens sexual interest in other men is twofold. First, women seem to lose interest in sex as they get older but most men don't, at least not as much. Because of that older men are looking for sex in other ways than the wife and other men are a possible solution. The second reason is that as men get older they realize there are things they have not done yet and time is running out. I think for me it is a little of both. I would like to have sex with a man to see what it is like. I would like to find a man who is willing to be patient and break me into mm sex. Still looking though.

 

[Service4two]

Speaking for myself, I am looking for something sexually different. I can't say I have always been fascinated by a man's cock and I am not attracted to men, but the idea of making a guy hard and having him cum is definately different and definately exciting.

Although I am 50-something, I am way more sexually active than my wife. I imagine there are other guys like me that have that drive and need a release from the touch of someone else.
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Much like the way I feel. Although I now consider myself bi, it was not until retirement and my later years that I came to term with it. The fact that my spouse became less sexually active became a part of it as I have a high need for intimacy. I have always realized that there is true beauty to the male form though.

 

[bi golly]

I'm 53 and had a very repressive child hood. I started to play with my cock and soon found my anus was also sensitive. I was scared to be gay, although I knew that I liked playing with my anus.

I have been married I told the her that I was attracted to men but hadn't acted on it. I really like women. A woman will turn my head in an instant. My marriage was a joke (I discovered after the divorce) as my wife was cheating on me almost the whole time.

I like women but don't trust them. I have been to gay bars, but the people that I have met there in my few forays don't seem like the trustworthy type. A lot of gameplayers. Did I mention that I have trust issues?

When my wife slowed our sex to an average of under once a month, I started to jerk off a lot, thinking about sex with men. I still do. I think about sex with men almost exclusively. I have had sexually contact with just one guy and it was pretty blah. I drove home thinking, "I'm never doing that again."

I dream about women a lot, but they are sometimes gender bendish. I was dreaming of a woman and when I put my arm around her, I found out that she was really a guy in a yellow print flowing robe.

If I could have satisfying sex with a man, I would do it. I would like to really get into being naked with a man, taking a shower with him, finding out what anal sex is really like. But most of the guys I have had contact with have turned me off. I don't have sex with women I don't click with, I'm not going to change the rules for men.

 

[gaymm]

I'm 53 and had a very repressive child hood. I started to play with my cock and soon found my anus was also sensitive. I was scared to be gay, although I knew that I liked playing with my anus.

I have been married I told the her that I was attracted to men but hadn't acted on it. I really like women. A woman will turn my head in an instant. My marriage was a joke (I discovered after the divorce) as my wife was cheating on me almost the whole time.

I like women but don't trust them. I have been to gay bars, but the people that I have met there in my few forays don't seem like the trustworthy type. A lot of gameplayers. Did I mention that I have trust issues?

When my wife slowed our sex to an average of under once a month, I started to jerk off a lot, thinking about sex with men. I still do. I think about sex with men almost exclusively. I have had sexually contact with just one guy and it was pretty blah. I drove home thinking, "I'm never doing that again."

I dream about women a lot, but they are sometimes gender bendish. I was dreaming of a woman and when I put my arm around her, I found out that she was really a guy in a yellow print flowing robe.

If I could have satisfying sex with a man, I would do it. I would like to really get into being naked with a man, taking a shower with him, finding out what anal sex is really like. But most of the guys I have had contact with have turned me off. I don't have sex with women I don't click with, I'm not going to change the rules for men.

But see that is the thing. You like women, even despite the trust issues, you seem to prefer them, and your experiences with men left you unsatisfied.

I have no desire to be with a woman. They do not arose me, and more importantly I seek no emotional attachment or involvement with them. Sure I have friends and colleagues who are women, and I appreciate an attractive women just as any other human would. But when it comes to emotional involvement and commitment, arousal, flirting, playfulness, whatever, you better be a man and all man. I have never even felt slighted that I dont know what it feels like to be attracted to a woman. I am gay, I know I am gay, I am happy to be gay, and if I had a choice to do all over again, I would choose to be gay. What can I say, a cute guy with great eyes and dimples when he smiles makes me melt and hope that he is: 1) gay too and 2) a great kisser (I will omit 3 and 4

chris

 

[none2_none2]

Bi_golly, You don't stay why your sex with men has been unsatisfying. However, I can relate to that. In my case I have certain types of men that turn me on (Hairy, masculine, muscular). Likewise, I know what I like sexually -- fucking the kind of guys that turn me on. Unfortunately, many men are not my type, and plenty of men are either fixated on oral sex, j/o, and are not interested in being penetrated. Likewise, once I care for someone, I really don't want the sexual/romantic part to be "open". Luckily, I'm in a relationship (6.5 years), so all that is behind me.

I would dread if my partner wasn't in the picture. Not just because I would emotionally miss him, but because I'd hate to have to be single and eventually looking again. I have big trust issues with most men. Likewise, there just aren't many my type or compatible in the sack.

If I had control of the universe and could change my life, I just wish I was fertile. The gay, bi, str8 thing doesn't interest me. Who I'm sleeping with is whom I'm interest with. I don't feel the need to be a "genetic gay" to desire and sleep with men. I do see reproduction as separate from sexual desire. I've always fantasized getting a guy pregnant and thus being a dad. Obviously, it is out of the question. However, if it WAS possbilte I would go for it.

 

[infinity706]

First, women seem to lose interest in sex as they get older but most men don't, at least not as much. .

I think you're going to piss off a lot of older women with that. I've had tons of women tell me that it it's the other way around, especially in cases when the guy develops erection and/or prostate problems. It does seem to be a bit more common for guys to complain about it, but I have a feeling, that's probably more because it's a bit easier for women to get fucked whenever they want, more than anything. I know I've certainly heard more than enough stories from women that were ecstatic to get rid of their birth control pills when they hit menopause.

I think the reason more older men engage in sex with men is more because they tend to become more openminded to it as they get older. Of course, the fact that it's more acceptable now certainly helps, too.

 

[limplizzard]

I found a web site devoted to getting older guys together for gay sex. There are thousands of guys looking for other guys and they range in age from 50 to 90. SilverDaddies.com

 

[mmmscurious]

I've used this site quite successfully. I highly recommend it. By the way, it also has younger members that are into older guys as well.

I found a web site devoted to getting older guys together for gay sex. There are thousands of guys looking for other guys and they range in age from 50 to 90. SilverDaddies.com

 

[pussy_liquor]

I wonder if diminishing testosterone levels in aging males has anything to do with a craving for cock?

 

[iswallowloads]

I'm on squirt and most guys that want to get together are 45+, which is cool. I agree that a lot of it has to do with the times they grew up in, and they just denied that part of themselves for years. Which is why I love to service them! They didn't 'take their shot' at guys my age when they were my age, they deserve one now!

 

[alaskabibear]

I don't know if it is my imagination but it seems the amount of gay activity among and between 50-60-70 year old men is hige. As a 60+ guy who played when I was young, went strictly straight for 10 years, went back to play with men again, left and now came back in a more active way, I am curious what other older men think. When we grew up in the 50's gay was looked down on - but most of us got a little tingle looking at other dicks. Now it's more acceptable. Care to comment?

I too grew up in the 50's and 60's, but fortunately I was able to begin my homosexual discoveries at a young age. The fact is that homosexual attraction is as old and normal as mankind and has been expressed and practiced in every generation. That said, it's no joke about the oppressive way society viewed such activity at that time. Every once in awhile I look at the local Craig'slist and it is overwhelmingly the young men in their 20's that predominate. I think it is the mere fact of many years of a more open discussion in our society about homosexuality that has made these younger men feel that their urges and interests are in fact normal.

As to the "oldsters"; surely all of the factors mentioned above play a part in the removal of the stigma and a willingness to explore. The internet allows us to realize we are not unique or odd; the acceptance of ourselves that comes with maturity; for many the freedom of no kids under foot; for some the wife realizes she would prefer him find a "safe" outlet for his still active sexuality; and I think too the change in hormones that "calms" some of the false bravado of the machismo of youth (e.g. a kinder and gentler man who is not afraid or ashamed to love another man, etc.) - all of these things factor into the increased numbers of older men "checking it out".

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I like women but don't trust them. I have been to gay bars, but the people that I have met there in my few forays don't seem like the trustworthy type. A lot of gameplayers. Did I mention that I have trust issues?...

...If I could have satisfying sex with a man, I would do it. I would like to really get into being naked with a man, taking a shower with him, finding out what anal sex is really like. But most of the guys I have had contact with have turned me off. I don't have sex with women I don't click with, I'm not going to change the rules for men.

bi-g, If I can put words into your mouth here, it seems that what you're saying is; that for each of us our sexuality is unique to us. And just like some men will bed any woman who is willing and others only want a true loving relationship, so also it is with homosexual relationships.

Some men love casual no-strings-attached sex - a one night stand and good-by, some love the glory hole, some guys will buy a hooker, some guys are hardcore "clubbers".... and then there are also those who desire a meaningful and intimate relationship with another man but settle for less...and there are some who would prefer to forgo any relationship at all if they cannot have one based on mutual love, respect and trust. There is no right or wrong, just individual needs and desires.

 

[texharley]

yes, I think more of us older men are admitting to ourselves we are gay or bi. I am nearly 57 and I just admitted to myself 8 years ago that I am bi. I did suck a few cocks in my younger days befoer getting married the first time at age 20, but I never admitted to it. You just did not do that back then

 

[jvillcouple]

I think older guys are just learning how much fun sex with other guys can be.

I am 60 and married. . . but sex ain't what it used to be.

 

[jvillcouple]

I think older guys are just learning how much fun sex with other guys can be.

I am 60 and married. . . but sex ain't what it used to be.

I "discovered" my bi side about 3-4 years ago. My first couple of times were not that much fun. I went very fast. . . i guess excited about having for the first time a man put my cock in his mouth. Then when I went down on him, he would take forever. . . my mouth and jaw were worn out.

Then, I figured it out. . . I now jack off no less than an hour before I meet him. We get naked on the bed and suck (and fuck) for at least an hour before we cum. Sure, the hardness comes and goes. . . but I like have a fat soft cock in my mouth. My wife would never play like that.

I probably would have never tried a man if not for the Internet. But it has certainly made my sex life a lot more interesting and exciting

 

[timmy65]

times change us

As a teenager I was used by an older boy and did not complain about it, and sometimes masturbated to the memory. At the age of 30 a casual aquaintance while travelling led to my first real experience, I was fucked and received a first class blow job. But it was another 35 years before I started semi seriously looking for guys. I suspect that I was always bisexual, and certainly sopme of the action with my wife would support that. I still want to have both though, so i guess I am not actually gay