What's so wrong with gay sex? (Hint: Nothing)
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There is absolutely nothing wrong being gay. Nothing. I am now 63, I have struggled my whole life with my sexuality. I think I knew around age 12 or 13 I liked boys but I wasn’t sure. I did fool around with girls a little but I never felt comfortable.
By age 16 on a camping trip, I sucked a cock for the first time. I knew instantly cock was for me.
Over the years, I hid my sexuality….i had girlfriends and I got married. Don’t get me wrong I certainly enjoyed women but I knew something was missing! Cock!!!!
Like a lot closeted gay men, I cheated on my GF’s and wife seeking men. It wasn’t until I was in my early 50’s did I say that’s enough. I’m gay.
Being with a man is way more natural to me. I never fantasize being with a woman and I can’t watch porn with a woman and man. Only gay porn turns me…..
So, for me, there is nothing wrong with loving another man, it’s natural.
By age 16 on a camping trip, I sucked a cock for the first time. I knew instantly cock was for me.
Over the years, I hid my sexuality….i had girlfriends and I got married. Don’t get me wrong I certainly enjoyed women but I knew something was missing! Cock!!!!
Like a lot closeted gay men, I cheated on my GF’s and wife seeking men. It wasn’t until I was in my early 50’s did I say that’s enough. I’m gay.
Being with a man is way more natural to me. I never fantasize being with a woman and I can’t watch porn with a woman and man. Only gay porn turns me…..
So, for me, there is nothing wrong with loving another man, it’s natural.
This needs to happen.
Too many guys who aren't getting sex from women, could get it from other men, but choose not to for...dumb reasons.
Guys wanting to dress like women (and guys not dressing up) just aching to suck or get fucked expecting no reciprocation except friendliness in return!
And yet male machismo says, "no, would rather just be frustrated and sexless. And I want other guys frustrated and sexless like me and I'll shame them if I sense they'd fuck another guy or let one suck his dick!"
I've come to the conclusion 80% of men are useless and stupid. And don't get me wrong, 20% of women are, too. Yea, I'm a misanthrope.
There is a small place for the tough, macho, good guys. Mainly to deal with bad, tough, macho guys. Other than that, we need more gay sex, sissies, / cross-dressers, etc. and to normalize guys fucking guys more than they are. This can only help reduce stress, reduce male frustration / anger, and take some pressure off women, who are busy getting more educated and replacing men in all of the less physically-demanding jobs. (and many of those, too!)
If I wasn't married and was passable, I'd be doing my part.
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I so hate labels when it cums to sex, hetero, bi, or gay, It's just SEX and we all want and need SEX! these labels are really about who we are sexually attracted too! so you can have sex with who ever, It don't mean you want a lasting relationship with them, just long enough to both be satisfied, or am I wrong?
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While I tend to agree with labels not being necessary, I think it's somewhat helpful to define oneself when looking for potential partners. In the context of searching for sexual partners on line for example, a gay guy and lesbian may not really be looking for each other. It at least helps narrow your search field.
It is frustrating that these younger generations today feel the need to define themselves ad infinitum with exacting labels. Reality is, we're much more flexible and dynamic than the labels indicate. Which I think is the point of this thread anyway.
I prefer less labels and more openness to experiencing things, without worrying about defining EXACTLY what it is that you're experiencing!
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What I think is funny is if a guy or girl were to see me in my bra and knickers, he or she will think and ask if I'm gay! I'm not but for sure the guy might want to have sex with me but does not see it as a gay act. I'm a male transgender dress gender-neutral wearing bras panties and stockings under my clothes.
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So that's your label, then?
Hypothetically, if you are transgender and the guy had sex with you by definition, that's not 'gay sex', correct? (Don't worry, I'm just messing with you!
)All kidding aside, I understand what you are saying. But wouldn't the label help define what you are, and possibly what you may or may not be into for him? (or any suitor?)
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It's a mine field especially for anyone labelled as transgender as their sexual atraction may not follow or match their Preferred gender! sorry have driffed off subject. I'm about ready for sex - of anykind!So that's your label, then?
Hypothetically, if you are transgender and the guy had sex with you by definition, that's not 'gay sex', correct? (Don't worry, I'm just messing with you!
All kidding aside, I understand what you are saying. But wouldn't the label help define what you are, and possibly what you may or may not be into for him? (or any suitor?)
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And that's sort of what the OP was about, I think. And some grumbling about the stigma associated with it, too. LOL. I think we all feel that...I'm about ready for sex - of anykind!
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The labels are very hard to sort out.
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I started not caring about the labels when I realized I was stretching my hamstrings so I can bring my legs back further. Somehow, that got me past the labels, that I very much did care about previously.
Suddenly, I realized what I wanted.
Suddenly, I realized what I wanted.
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Amen to that!
Other than that, I completely fail to get why some men feel threatened (in their own masculinity or otherwise) by the knowledge that two other men are enjoying being with each other beyond the friendship or platonic level. Even if they were brought up to consider gay men as inferior beings (not my point of view at all, but...), why should they feel threatened to the point of openly hating or even becoming violent? If machismo truly their point of view, they should "feel safer". Their gay brethren will not be competing for their women, after all...
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It is a lack of knowledge and understanding that some guys fee the way they do. On the other hand I must put out a gay vibe. I have had several encounters where a guys thought I was gay. One guy got mad at me. I was a taxi driver in NYC and picked up a fare who just knew I was gay and couldn't believe I wouldn't go up to his apartment. Then there was the TG that was so hot and a great kisser! Knowing what I know today I might have changed my mind!
I can't wait to experience this !!!!
It feels so good. Not going to lie the first few times there is some pain but after that you'll feel like you're in heaven.
I have been playing with my toys for awhile. I have plugs and dildos of various sizes and they all feel so good. But I can imagine that the real thing is so much better !!!!
It does!!!
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Stick that in my sissy arse!
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Ultimately, that’s all it is. It’s just sex. It’s just pleasure. Pleasure is pleasure no matter who your partner is.
You sound like myself. I am older, 62 I am verse and live a life of wonderingI'm horny and need to vent:
Like so many other men here, I have always been straight, but began realizing and accepting I have strong homosexual desires. Perhaps not to the point of deciding I am gay, but I know I am not totally as straight as I publicly act and claim. From confusion, guilt, embarrassment, and shame evolved a man that can admit I am submissive, a bottom, I have a femme side that I wish to explore, I prefer older gay men, especially tops, I am more comfortable around older gay men, I want to suck cock more than I want to be sucked, and I want to get my ass fucked by an older gay top. Never did I ever think I would say those words, but they are the truth. So what is wrong with having perfectly natural sexual interests and desires? Because I desire them with another man? If sucking cock feels so good, why should I deny myself that experience? If women enjoy the feeling of having a nice hard cock inside of them, why shouldn't I enjoy the same feeling? Why does the prostate provide intense sexual pleasure to a man, but is located in a place that requires anal penetration?
I am married to a woman, our sex life and marriage are dead, and while divorce is coming, that doesn't mean I will immediately turn to men. I still have a strong preference for women, but I am also seeking the one kind of relationship that is forbidden, but necessary as men age. I would like to find one man with whom I can be sensitive around, vulnerable, but still be masculine. A close public friendship that can become, but not required to become, a much closer intimate and affectionate relationship. Truth is, I am open to the idea that my next partner may be another man, He may be a crossdresser or she may be a transgender woman, also. But, I am open to the possibility that my next intimate relationship may be with a non-traditional partner. Really, it all comes down to the person, not to the orientation, preferences, sexual practices only.
I have been unsuccessful in finding someone just to play with much less anything else. As usual, them men that I am the most interested in are too far away, or maybe they are married. While I am in no hurry, it can be pretty frustrating to have these desires, needs, and fantasies with nobody to share them with and perhaps explore them.
So I feel better now. Thanks for listening
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