Honesty on the Lit boards

[Spenser41]

I would just like to say that I think this point about players on Lit has been made clear. I think that since this jerk decided to hijack the thread to whine about how sad his life is has been made.
Personally I think we just need to say, that a lot of people, men and women, are here to play. Many are married and some are not, but this is a place for fantasy, for hook ups and someone to fulfill a need. To seriously take a person just because of their posts or phone or pms is not a wise move.
Especially in a Long Distance situation. There are many men and women that have many "lovers" that they play with and it is best to just say, I am not exclusive. I guess what I am trying to say is we all know that women and men have gotten lied to on here and have gotten hurt. I also have had that happened to me and if you are in a relationship that is not meeting your needs and someone says the things you want to hear, it can get to you.
My suggestion, althought I doubt some will do it, is respect each person as a person and just be open and honest and just say, I am here to flirt, to play and to have fun.
If you get into a serious relationship it should not be done on here, but should be done in real life and to take it slow and really get to know someone before letting yourself get to catch up on the words they type or say.

But these are just my thoughts and I am sorry the women have gotten burned and the men as well and we just need to learn a lesson and move on.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

A friend of mine got her heart ripped apart by someone on here.
He doesnt come around anymore but I wonder just how many people he lied to before he got caught

 

[koalabear]

I can't possibly be Pink or Lorilei. I have an arse and they don't.

I'm an arse and have a AV, geesh are you that voice in my head!

 

[borgthemagician]

mmm...

Well, any who know me from UK directory have probably figured out I lie..... *gets ready for seriously heavy things being thrown*..

No, you see I never came here thinking Lit was a dating site , nor did I come here looking for out and out sex. I joined Lit because I really like the friendliness of the majority of the people who write on here, I enjoy the quick witted-ness, I enjoy the creativity - stories, fantasies, aliases etc. I like the honesty. I think the site attracts like minded, open minded people who are more up front and honest than some traditional dating sites. OK, so maybe I'm just naive (as well as being horny ).

I figured if I was after love and / or sex, I'd generally look at other sites, but, if romantic encounters or love happen here, then that would be a bonus

I lie (joke?) about my castle, I joke (lie?) about my maids being tied up in far away rooms. I might joke (lie?) about me, if it fits the conversation (Yes gorgeous, I am wearing the collar. ..)...... ( ooops... Have I ruined the fantasy now.... )

I consider myself to be very honest, If someone asks me a direct, serious question, they will receive a direct, serious answer.. (although it may be PM'd)

One of the things I put on a profile on a dating site (yes, I am on a couple) was :- "What you give is what you receive - if you're loving, warm and kind, that'll be the person you'll find in me". The same is true for here, If you flirt, make me laugh, I'll be there flirting and trying to make you laugh.

I'd hate to think that I'd been dishonest, posting and PM'ing to several people at once, all with the 'same' intention of trying to perhaps lure them. Sometimes however, you get into situations where you want / need / feel obliged to interact with more than one person at once because it is just as friends!. But, as with RL friends, being honest with all of them is really important and if one says 'I like you', then, there and then, the interaction with all has to change in some ways and honesty is paramount.

I am truly sorry about those who got hurt, I think it's sad. I think honesty is what makes this place (my incredibly strange view) and I hope I am never the cause of hurt. We all should remember that behind the façade we use on here, there are real people with real feelings.

(But some of them have incredibly cute bewbies and botties ).......

 

[BlacklistLady]

Public Service Announcement

A couple of us are putting together a database of men which will make information available to women of long standing at lit.

If you submit the name of your cyber lover/relationship, their age, exclusiveness and marital status they would be checked against the information in the database as well as added to it.

If anything is known about them that would render what you have been told to be untrue, we will share that with you. We will not give out names of men on the database or people they could be involved with unless given explicit permission.

You may also submit historical information. Everything will be kept in complete confidence. You may also submit good stuff like "great at oral," whether you have met them in real life and how they stood up.

 

[AboutFace]

A couple of us are putting together a database of men which will make information available to women of long standing at lit.

If you submit the name of your cyber lover/relationship, their age, exclusiveness and marital status they would be checked against the information in the database as well as added to it.

If anything is known about them that would render what you have been told to be untrue, we will share that with you. We will not give out names of men on the database or people they could be involved with unless given explicit permission.

You may also submit historical information. Everything will be kept in complete confidence. You may also submit good stuff like "great at oral," whether you have met them in real life and how they stood up.

Wow! This is a HUGE undertaking. It would certainly up the level of honesty, wouldn't it? Cool.

 

[koalabear]

that's a little late, the gossip net has thrived here forever.........

 

[lovemonster]

I'm an arse and have a AV, geesh are you that voice in my head!

Yeah, I'm that one telling you get your cock out at really inappropriate moments.

 

[koalabear]

Yeah, I'm that one telling you get your cock out at really inappropriate moments.

lm ao.......SPANK!

 

[lovemonster]

lm ao.......SPANK!

 

[koalabear]

nice AV by the way..........

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

A couple of us are putting together a database of men which will make information available to women of long standing at lit.

If you submit the name of your cyber lover/relationship, their age, exclusiveness and marital status they would be checked against the information in the database as well as added to it.

If anything is known about them that would render what you have been told to be untrue, we will share that with you. We will not give out names of men on the database or people they could be involved with unless given explicit permission.

You may also submit historical information. Everything will be kept in complete confidence. You may also submit good stuff like "great at oral," whether you have met them in real life and how they stood up.

Has it really come to that?
That is wide open to abuse and untruths..rumour and hearsay...wow...I'm shocked x

 

[koalabear]

Has it really come to that?
That is wide open to abuse and untruths..rumour and hearsay...wow...I'm shocked x

Ah you are fairly new, it's morphing into the GB by default.

 

[lovemonster]

nice AV by the way..........

Thank you KB

I've always liked yours.

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

Ah you are fairly new, it's morphing into the GB by default.

Uh huh I guess I must be very naive too because its sounding remarkably like Lord of The Flies...and Kangaroo Court. Who decides this information is true? Someone that has been scorned or rejected gets to say what they like about someone and it goes down on their 'record'?!
Maybe I misunderstood but I cant believe this is serious... x

 

[lovemonster]

A couple of us are putting together a database of men which will make information available to women of long standing at lit.

If you submit the name of your cyber lover/relationship, their age, exclusiveness and marital status they would be checked against the information in the database as well as added to it.

If anything is known about them that would render what you have been told to be untrue, we will share that with you. We will not give out names of men on the database or people they could be involved with unless given explicit permission.

You may also submit historical information. Everything will be kept in complete confidence. You may also submit good stuff like "great at oral," whether you have met them in real life and how they stood up.

Has it really come to that?
That is wide open to abuse and untruths..rumour and hearsay...wow...I'm shocked x

I quite agree. And who exactly is this person? We're all supposed to reveal information to someone nobody knows?

 

[pink]

The downside to a list is one can simply create a new account here.

 

[chunu]

Uh huh I guess I must be very naive too because its sounding remarkably like Lord of The Flies...and Kangaroo Court. Who decides this information is true? Someone that has been scorned or rejected gets to say what they like about someone and it goes down on their 'record'?!
Maybe I misunderstood but I cant believe this is serious... x

From my brief forays into General Board land, sometimes those type of statements are serious, sometimes they are to hijack the thread, sometimes they are just said as a nasty joke. You never can tell.

Especially with whoever it is seeming to have created a new ID and posted his her first post on that issue.

 

[koalabear]

I quite agree. And who exactly is this person? We're all supposed to reveal information to someone nobody knows?

sure post it..........hehehe

Koalabear, single Dad w/SO. I can be your best friend or your worst enemy, choice is yours. Lie to me and I call you every name in the book. Not here for a lifelong romance from some one here. I just like making ladies cum. If ya don't like me fine, my happiness, career, money, etc. is not tied to the internet. enough for now?

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

I quite agree. And who exactly is this person? We're all supposed to reveal information to someone nobody knows?

Hey LM *blows kisses*
I'm still gobsmacked to be honest...I thought this place was about fun..not life or death. I feel for anyone that has got hurt...its a horrible thing to happen....but I think we should all be held accountable for our own actions and all have to judge a situation and a person as we see fit...not by a 'blacklist' . If you sense something isnt quite right..it generally isnt..but sadly our radars let us down sometimes...and sometimes we dont want to see it either. We want it to be what we want it to be x

 

[lovemonster]

sure post it..........hehehe

Koalabear, single Dad w/SO. I can be your best friend or your worst enemy, choice is yours. Lie to me and I call you every name in the book. Not here for a lifelong romance from some one here. I just like making ladies cum. If ya don't like me fine, my happiness, career, money, etc. is not tied to the internet. enough for now?

And flashes his cock at inappropriate moments *whisperwhisperwhisper*

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

sure post it..........hehehe

Koalabear, single Dad w/SO. I can be your best friend or your worst enemy, choice is yours. Lie to me and I call you every name in the book. Not here for a lifelong romance from some one here. I just like making ladies cum. If ya don't like me fine, my happiness, career, money, etc. is not tied to the internet. enough for now?

Great attitude..I like it x

 

[koalabear]

And flashes his cock at inappropriate moments *whisperwhisperwhisper*

roflmao.......hey ! those AV';s are by request.......

 

[lovemonster]

Hey LM *blows kisses*
I'm still gobsmacked to be honest...I thought this place was about fun..not life or death. I feel for anyone that has got hurt...its a horrible thing to happen....but I think we should all be held accountable for our own actions and all have to judge a situation and a person as we see fit...not by a 'blacklist' . If you sense something isnt quite right..it generally isnt..but sadly our radars let us down sometimes...and sometimes we dont want to see it either. We want it to be what we want it to be x

Hi there ERF
I'm equally concerned that someone sets themselves up as the holder of a 'blacklist' when they're either new or using an alt.

 

[lovemonster]

roflmao.......hey ! those AV';s are by request.......

Oh well, if we're taking requests....can you inappropriately put that one up in amongst the grass again please?