Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[JennyCapricorn]

Long time unregistered reader of lit-recent joiner-very recent reader/engager on forums.
Glad to have found this thread amongst all the is Lit and appreciate all the women who’ve contributed to it. There’s a lot that resonates with me.

I’ve found it very interesting how my claim of gender is a bit reactionary-and really person with a vagina is what I mean-vs other options.

Even after saying I’m totally cool with any skepticism it’s viewed as an invitation to PM asking proof. Dude I just said you’re free to not believe me-it’s all good.

Somehow it seems portrayed as worse to impersonate gender (again used by me as a proxy for vagina vs no vagina) than to misrepresent other facets of identity…but maybe intentional misrepresentation -anonymously on a sex focused site on the internet mind you-is similarly not good? Not worse when it’s about if I have a vagina or not?

I get wariness-completely valid for all anywhere on the internet.

I’ve documented on here guys who asked me for opinions on their cocks but only after I have confirmed my gender identity with full face selfies taken today; I wouldn’t be surprised if they also demanded I hold up today’s newspaper. Dude, you approached me!

I saw on @LilKitKat’s common photos she has to have one of her holding a sign that says “I am LilKitKat from Literotica” to forestall claims of stolen vagina-possession.

I find it exhausting at this point.

 

[EvaLane]

Even after saying I’m totally cool with any skepticism it’s viewed as an invitation to PM asking proof.

I’m laughing because the same dumbos will be fooled by an AI deepfake with two thumbs on their left hand

Welcome to Lit

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Do you post them on Lit?

I haven't yet, but I am inclined to do so.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Sigh I'm only just getting here, and it might be the only raft left

An explanation

Well, I have been active on Bluesky. An ok place
But I am also on YouTube (mainly a viewer)
I don't need to mention the US or the UK
But Canada's Alberta Premier sounds like a total scumball, too. The West has always been that way.

I'm too old for this shit

I just want a quiet spot to laugh with some writer types, maybe take a stab at a dozen started not finished books, and just pretend the real world isn't out there.

I don't have the fortitude, because I actually AM kinda old.
I turfed Facebook (that was not easy)
I turfed a predominantly left-wing site, because it gets as bad as the right-wing sites
I need to shut up on YouTube and just watch the videos on models and construction trucks and trains

I hope you guys won't mind me hanging out here on this thread

 

[Barbelle]

I’ve documented on here guys who asked me for opinions on their cocks but only after I have confirmed my gender identity with full face selfies taken today; I wouldn’t be surprised if they also demanded I hold up today’s newspaper. Dude, you approached me!

I saw on @LilKitKat’s common photos she has to have one of her holding a sign that says “I am LilKitKat from Literotica” to forestall claims of stolen vagina-possession.

I find it exhausting at this point.

Oh, hell no. Giving you a damn chore chart to “prove” yourself when they’re the ones clamoring for YOUR attention?!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Oh, hell no. Giving you a damn chore chart to “prove” yourself when they’re the ones clamoring for YOUR attention?!

That was it exactly.

I have seen men on here express their honestly held fear that they will climax in play with someone and have that person pop up a picture with "surprise, you just sexted a GUY!" which I find the most ridiculous fear imaginable. Is this something any gay man is really about to do? And even if they do, so fucking what? it all feels transphobic adjacent nonsense.

I find it much, much more likely that women approaching me for play are men who can't find partners on here with men. They are usually so clumsily hopeless at pretending to be women that the ruse fails in a couple exchanges.

 

[Splendidjane]

I keep being surprised <facepalming> I hadn’t thought about the men showing up as women. Such a rube am I!

Clumsy is spot on…it’s hard to be charmed by an immediate barrage of invasive questions or demands. This idea I exist here to simply supply fodder on demand for another’s gratification…

Oblivious to the reality that much of how we perceive others through this medium is our idea of them vs some actuality of who they are…how can it be otherwise…yes what we share and how we connect through words and images etc informs that idea but it is still an idea in someone else’s mind colored by their own experiences.

I’ve often thought in my irl relationships men much preferred the idea of me than the reality of me…a shame because I’m fucking delightful

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I don't really know if I can claim to have 'experience' with men or not.

The dating years 2014 2017 were, if anything, utterly pointless. And never went anywhere. IE no actual sex.
But I was pre op at the time, and wasn't really interested in pre op sex.

My only 'experience' since then, or whatever it is called, has been with pre op transgirls and pre op transmen.

I don't mind saying, it sometimes feels odd being the only post op person in a room of transgender persons.

I have not been in a hurry to fuss over horny needy cis men

 

[Barbelle]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

You're not the first person to see that; could well have been the same guy

 

[Splendidjane]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

I always find the bait n switch fascinating - eventually she’s gonna realize there’s no wife…does he think his game is just that good she will be so in his thrall at that point she won’t mind or will forget? oh yeah-she writes dazed with lust-did you say something about a wife? No? Cool let me tell you about the dirtiest thing I’ve ever done in great detail…

if his game was that good he probably won’t need the ruse…just sayin’-fraud and blatant lies seems a harder hurdle to overcome with PM rizz.

I’m might start answering all the questions with 6-7 lol whatever you want it to be baby plus a little more to make it pop…

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I always find the bait n switch fascinating - eventually she’s gonna realize there’s no wife…does he think his game is just that good she will be so in his thrall at that point she won’t mind or will forget?

The idea that any of them are thinking past their next nut is laughable.

oh yeah-she writes dazed with lust-did you say something about a wife? No? Cool let me tell you about the dirtiest thing I’ve ever done in great detail…

and why do they always ask that?!

 

[Barbelle]

You're not the first person to see that; could well have been the same guy

I wouldn’t be surprised

 

[Splendidjane]

and why do they always ask that?!

Right?!? There’s an obsession with dirty, naughty, kinky, bad et al -someone asked me to join their devilish ride a couple msgs in and I said I don’t even know what that means only to receive as clarification

I should say that this is not representative of all of the communication so far on Lit but it’s def more than just a few…

 

[Zrosey]

I've had some lovely DM's around here on Lit, but when I first signed up an guys figured out (not like I hid it...) I am a trans woman, it was kinda an avalanche of 'fetish vendor' messages.
They were falling all over themselves imagining me as a hot young woman with all the operable man tackle.......
I found myself explaining reality to the first handful and than just started deleting and ignoring

 

[EvaLane]

The idea that any of them are thinking past their next nut is laughable.

The kinda wisdom I bestow upon the young adult women in my family

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Right?!? There’s an obsession with dirty, naughty, kinky, bad et al -someone asked me to join their devilish ride a couple msgs in and I said I don’t even know what that means only to receive as clarification

I should say that this is not representative of all of the communication so far on Lit but it’s def more than just a few…

I have to assume there is some group of women on here who get aroused and find release in sharing their moments of “depravity” but for me everyone one of these requests feels like “you should do unpaid labor to carry this conversation so I can climax” and it’s such a turn off. Their responses of “go on!” And “” are hardly fulfilling.

I sure hope there are women who do enjoy it, because it seems in demand.

 

[Splendidjane]

I have to assume there is some group of women on here who get aroused and find release in sharing their moments of “depravity” but for me everyone one of these requests feels like “you should do unpaid labor to carry this conversation so I can climax” and it’s such a turn off. Their responses of “go on!” And “” are hardly fulfilling.

I sure hope there are women who do enjoy it, because it seems in demand.

Agreed-I get stuck on believing everyone’s idea of dirty is probably a bit different. For some-I’ve probably done a bit of really dirty things -which maybe others would categorize as more of a good start on the road to dirty haha

 

[Splendidjane]

I've had some lovely DM's around here on Lit, but when I first signed up an guys figured out (not like I hid it...) I am a trans woman, it was kinda an avalanche of 'fetish vendor' messages.
They were falling all over themselves imagining me as a hot young woman with all the operable man tackle.......
I found myself explaining reality to the first handful and than just started deleting and ignoring

I’ve been thinking about this…love that you’ve leaned into delete and ignore-it’s so important and I think we women often wait too long to do that-so good on you.

And lit has really reminded me about the experience of objectification in the less than one week I’ve been on the forum lol. I’d taken a bit of a break from men.

I can’t imagine what the experience of being fetishized is like -esp as the result of choice to live as your true self and to be open about that choice-which is fucking brave and shows amazing integrity-now you’ve got all this other people’s garbage projected and dumped on you. It seems paradoxical.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

So many versions of just wrong

Spent 50 years as the lie that was me (wasn't aware I was a lie at the time)

So I ended up seeing a lot of men being men

But I think we can all agree, you don't see men quite the same way until you are subjected to them as only a woman can be

Of all my transition years, nothing quite compares to the treatment of being treated like a woman by a man

Being whistled at, offered a beer, assumed to know nothing in a hardware department, opinions just don't interest them, and that's in Canada. Not sure I want to experience the American version.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

When not here, what do you get up to?

I spend too much time freaking out about politics. Wish I didn't

But my average day is actually just sitting, eyes closed, meditating. Likely spend 4 hours a day with that.

I'm supposed to be making something, most of the time. Model, writing or painting. Or of course reading a good book.

I like shopping, too damned much hehe. Mostly I shop so I can talk to people while shopping. I am likely one of the most well known persons in town, and usually well liked by almost anyone.

It's been 30+ years since I had to work. I can't even relate to working people anymore. I'm not a kid, I just live the same sort of life. I wake eat and ponder "what to do today". It's boring.

My disability couldn't care less though.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

There’s a new perv cruising the forum and he messaged me. DaddyDomLooking wants to teach me about DDlg, but he views both D and L only as abused in childhood.

 

[lil_jenni]

When not here, what do you get up to?

I was an elementary school teacher for many years, but having one year old twins plus a second grader makes it a bit difficult to do that now. Plus... I was tired of it, I now realize.

I am working on becoming a Realtor. A friend is one, and I am helping her out as I take classes online. So far, I really like it.

And in the past couple of weeks, I have started taking belly dancing lessons with a friend, who is a stripper. She's learning it to add to her routines. I'm doing it for fitness and fun. Also, since I've stayed a bit curvier after this last pregnancy (my hips are definitely wider after the twins, despite the c-section), it kinda fits my new body shape.

 

[lil_jenni]

There’s a new perv cruising the forum and he messaged me. DaddyDomLooking wants to teach me about DDlg, but he views both D and L only as abused in childhood.

He just PMed me with a list of affirmations he thought I might need.

That might seem sweet from someone with whom I had interacted before, but not from someone with whom I've never interacted. Then again, the creep vibe may also be because of your post, so thank you.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I was an elementary school teacher for many years, but having one year old twins plus a second grader makes it a bit difficult to do that now. Plus... I was tired of it, I now realize.

I am working on becoming a Realtor. A friend is one, and I am helping her out as I take classes online. So far, I really like it.

And in the past couple of weeks, I have started taking belly dancing lessons with a friend, who is a stripper. She's learning it to add to her routines. I'm doing it for fitness and fun. Also, since I've stayed a bit curvier after this last pregnancy (my hips are definitely wider after the twins, despite the c-section), it kinda fits my new body shape.

Second pregnancies will do that!