Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[InCNCestBangPie]

Credit where credit is due, @Bellinah 's post: Women on here? helped give me a push.

Since so many of us ladies on here have had absolutely horrid experiences with men on this site, alone, I thought we should be able to comfortably share these things with one another. Call it online group therapy.

To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.

Please feel free to tell us how you've been shocked, hurt, angered, or otherwise disrespected without worrying about if said jackass is reading your post. Fuck 'em. This is for us to get the weight off our minds and find relief/fellowship through our shared experiences.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I'll start.
I've had so many terrible, demeaning encounters with men on Lit lately that it was honestly building to a dangerous crescendo. Well, my worst encounter occurred Monday night & it left me absolutely terrified & hyperventilating.

Fast forward to Tuesday night & I let all my online play guys know that I was taking a step back & needed "to re-establish peace & safety." Basically, a nice way of saying please don't message me until further notice while also giving a glimpse into the hell I've seen, right?

Well, even those guys who had yet to be problematic, sure took that as an invitation to start. Paraphrase of real interaction:
Me: I need space after several bad encounters & the worst one last night.
Him: Oh no, what happened?
Me: I don't want to cry, just know I need space.
Him: I understand.

NEXT DAY

Him: I know you don't want to talk to me because you need space, but can you hook me up with another woman I can sext with? I've just been so horny lately.


Why THE FUCK this man think I'm an online pimp now??
Like, fuck allll the way off.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

Wherever two or more ladies try to hang out and enjoy good sexy conversation there will always be some man trying to bust down the door to see what we are up to!! I know cuz I have one such man that's wired that way!
Stick around @InCNCestBangPie

 

[MindYaBitness]

I have had some really weird interactions with men on here. I don't understand why you would start straight out if the gate with a link to a dick pic, with an assumption that I'm into whatever kink you are, or with weird stalkery behavior.

I need to put some kind of warning on my profile: Whatever image of me you've created in your mind is not my responsibility!

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I have had some really weird interactions with men on here. I don't understand why you would start straight out if the gate with a link to a dick pic, with an assumption that I'm into whatever kink you are, or with weird stalkery behavior.

I need to put some kind of warning on my profile: Whatever image of me you've created in your mind is not my responsibility!

I think they're so overstimulated & inordinately excited by the delusion that online contact with a woman means they can't be rejected like they are irl. Like, since we're on this site, we must want all manner of advances towards us, tact be damned.
Though, fun fact: I can ghost you in any setting.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Lance strikes again.

 

[MindYaBitness]

I think they're so overestimated & inordinately excited by the delusion that online contact with a woman means they can't be rejected like they are irl. Like, since we're on this site, we must want all manner of advances towards us, tact be damned.
Though, fun fact: I can ghost you in any setting.

In the last 24 hours I've gotten two PMs that requested pics, skype, mutual masterbation, called me pet names, and assumed I was into their kink. All of this in the first messages.

Look, I get it, you've found this forum and you are blown away that women in here can comfortably discuss sexual topics under the cozy cloak of anonymity, plus me & many women on here, have boobs (or otherwise provacative pics) as our AV. But, guess what? There's still a human behind that AV. Just like real life, there has to be chemistry, you have to "click".

If you're awkward AF in real life, maybe use this place as a way to practice your game instead of just being a creeper

 

[MrsPassion]

I’ve only been here just shy of a year but man…what a year. I’ve had some pretty terrifying encounters. I’ve had comical ones and some that left me feeling the wrong kind of dirty. I am always shocked and get the worst second hand embarrassment for the men who act like all the women here are monolithic and you can approach them any kind of way.

When it first would happen, I’d get an unsolicited dick pic or really vulgar and sexual message I didn’t know what to do and it felt really isolating. I didn’t know anybody here and after I met some people I was able to talk about it with others and that was immensely helpful. I’ve since adopted the mentality of I don’t owe anyone polite responses to nonsense like that. Most days I just ignore the people immediately—on some of my spicy days I tell them off. No one has the right to make you uncomfortable or feel unsafe, even on a sex forum.

Good on you for making this space @InCNCestBangPie! the ladies of lit should absolutely have a space like this.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I’ve only been here just shy of a year but man…what a year. I’ve had some pretty terrifying encounters. I’ve had comical ones and some that left me feeling the wrong kind of dirty. I am always shocked and get the worst second hand embarrassment for the men who act like all the women here are monolithic and you can approach them any kind of way.

When it first would happen, I’d get an unsolicited dick pic or really vulgar and sexual message I didn’t know what to do and it felt really isolating. I didn’t know anybody here and after I met some people I was able to talk about it with others and that was immensely helpful. I’ve since adopted the mentality of I don’t owe anyone polite responses to nonsense like that. Most days I just ignore the people immediately—on some of my spicy days I tell them off. No one has the right to make you uncomfortable or feel unsafe, even on a sex forum.

Good on you for making this space @InCNCestBangPie! the ladies of lit should absolutely have a space like this.

Omgosh, I really needed to "hear" that. All of that. My heart...gosh. Biggest huggies!

 

[RachelWalsh]

Hiya. Are trans women welcome here?

 

[MrsPassion]

Omgosh, I really needed to "hear" that. All of that. My heart...gosh. Biggest huggies!

I got you boo

(Also…tell me who upset you. Its fine…I just wanna talk to them )

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I got you boo

(Also…tell me who upset you. Its fine…I just wanna talk to them )

But like, my e-Love for you is palpable. I will 100% be your alibi while you "talk" to him & all of them. I most definitely got the receipts.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Hiya. Are trans women welcome here?

My dear, if you've felt verbally abused or otherwise wholly uncomfortable by a man on Lit, you are most welcome to share.

 

[MindYaBitness]

I’ve only been here just shy of a year but man…what a year. I’ve had some pretty terrifying encounters. I’ve had comical ones and some that left me feeling the wrong kind of dirty. I am always shocked and get the worst second hand embarrassment for the men who act like all the women here are monolithic and you can approach them any kind of way.

When it first would happen, I’d get an unsolicited dick pic or really vulgar and sexual message I didn’t know what to do and it felt really isolating. I didn’t know anybody here and after I met some people I was able to talk about it with others and that was immensely helpful. I’ve since adopted the mentality of I don’t owe anyone polite responses to nonsense like that. Most days I just ignore the people immediately—on some of my spicy days I tell them off. No one has the right to make you uncomfortable or feel unsafe, even on a sex forum.

Good on you for making this space @InCNCestBangPie! the ladies of lit should absolutely have a space like this.

I have a really hard time not replying with, at the very least, a no thank you. However, I've recently gotten creative and animated a few memes to turn into GIFs for when I'm asked for boobs straight out if the gate. Here's one, and another I haven't put into a gif just yet

 

[MrsPassion]

Hiya. Are trans women welcome here?

I would certainly hope so. Trans women are subjected to so much fetishizment and aggression, offline I can’t imagine it’s any different on Lit. You should feel welcome and safe here to find community and support as well

 

[RachelWalsh]

My dear, if you've felt verbally abused or otherwise wholly uncomfortable by a man on Lit, you are most welcome to share.

It is nice to have a space. I don't think I have had anything to tge extent you have, but so often feel like I am treated as a prostitute doing charity work, if you follow me.

 

[MrsPassion]

But like, my e-Love for you is palpable. I will 100% be your alibi while you "talk" to him & all of them. I most definitely got the receipts.

You already know I’m on the case

I have axreallybgard time not replying with, at the very least, a no thank you. However, I've recently gotten creative and animated a few memes to turn into GIFs for when I'm asked for boobs straight out if the gate. Here's one, and another I haven't put into a gif just yet

omg! The pears!
I struggle not telling them all about themselves and they mama, and their mangy ass dog! maybe I should take a more comical approach

 

[RachelWalsh]

I would certainly hope so. Trans women are subjected to so much fetishizment and aggression, offline I can’t imagine it’s any different on Lit. You should feel welcome and safe here to find community and support as well

Awe. That is very sweet. Thanks

 

[MindYaBitness]

It is nice to have a space. I don't think I have had anything to tge extent you have, but so often feel like I am treated as a prostitute doing charity work, if you follow me.

yep, I completely get that. Just because you are on thus forum does not mean you owe anyone a chat, a pic, or engagement of any kind. Charity or otherwise.

You already know I’m on the case

omg! The pears!
I struggle not telling them all about themselves and they mama, and their mangy ass dog! maybe I should take a more comical approach

My go to is to make them feel dumb for falling for it

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

You already know I’m on the case

omg! The pears!
I struggle not telling them all about themselves and they mama, and their mangy ass dog! maybe I should take a more comical approach

Look, ultimately, we're being unreasonable bitches when we speak up for ourselves. Might as well have fun & bruise some hubris-fueled egos while we do it.

 

[RachelWalsh]

Look, ultimately, we're being unreasonable bitches when we speak up for ourselves. Might as well have fun & bruise some hubris-fueled egos while we do it.

Yeah. But I have had actual moments when I was an unreasonable bitch. Lol

 

[MindYaBitness]

Look, ultimately, we're being unreasonable bitches when we speak up for ourselves. Might as well have fun while & bruise some hubris-fueled egos while we do it.

Right?!?! I will choose to laugh over anger 9 times out of 10

 

[MindYaBitness]

Yeah. But I have had actual moments when I was an unreasonable bitch. Lol

We all have. Remember, consent can be revoked, and you don't owe anyone e a good time

 

[MrsPassion]

My go to is to make them feel dumb for falling for it

Absolutely!! Like did you really think…I was gonna flash you my titties dummy

Look, ultimately, we're being unreasonable bitches when we speak up for ourselves. Might as well have fun & bruise some hubris-fueled egos while we do it.

I think “unreasonable bitch” is a good look for us though
The crazy part is you know they don’t approach women like that offline.

There’s no friggin way they’ve walked up to a woman and said “show me your tits like a good little whore” without being on a list somewhere.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

It is nice to have a space. I don't think I have had anything to tge extent you have, but so often feel like I am treated as a prostitute doing charity work, if you follow me.

Oh I 100% follow. Sadly, I think most of us do. We're the online placeholder to briefly fix everything wrong in their life, but just through sex.
And no, it doesn't make an ounce of sense.