Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[Splendidjane]

I’m considering typing unavailable for free use spank bank content creation in my about section…

 

[cheekygirl75]

He just PMed me with a list of affirmations he thought I might need.

That might seem sweet from someone with whom I had interacted before, but not from someone with whom I've never interacted. Then again, the creep vibe may also be because of your post, so thank you.

I got the same one! He even said sorry for copying and pasting

 

[lil_jenni]

I got the same one! He even said sorry for copying and pasting

Yep. But hey... He apologized, so it's all okay.

 

[Splendidjane]

Watching the new episode of South Park (not trying to be political at all…stay w/me please) there’s a recurring bit of a guy that enters a bedroom-and the minute he enters the room-in which his partner is sitting up in bed-the guy immediately strips from the waist down-effectively saying “hey partner” and crawling into bed…seemingly oblivious to whatever the partner is doing or their mood.

And I thought-this is a bit like getting messages on lit sometimes…minus the having any previous acquaintance aspect of course hahaha

 

[stickygirl]

Watching the new episode of South Park (not trying to be political at all…stay w/me please) there’s a recurring bit of a guy that enters a bedroom-and the minute he enters the room-in which his partner is sitting up in bed-the guy immediately strips from the waist down-effectively saying “hey partner” and crawling into bed…seemingly oblivious to whatever the partner is doing or their mood.

And I thought-this is a bit like getting messages on lit sometimes…minus the having any previous acquaintance aspect of course hahaha

Nah - it's more like the dude on crowded public transport who rubs up against you

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I need to bitch if it's ok.
I'm feeling old and mean.
Not because of any man here though (none have even noticed me)

I'm a wargamer (hence the name). I like to push tiny 1/2 inch counters around maps of old battles.
Was big on wargaming forums in 2003.
Military forums seem to have died off around 2007. Not sure why.

Then the transgender thing happened (for me). Like 2012.
So I of course looked up some transgender forums. I could mention some names. Nah, just don't care.
It was an unexpected disaster. You would think they would be a safe place. They're not actually.

I have known of Lit since about 2002.
Nice it is still here.
Amazing it hasn't died as well. You might find this a shock, but this site is better behaved than I think you realize.

Ya, there are cretins perverts and all manner of wtf? But, the site is about erotic writing.
So if a guy wants to get hot and bothered here.
And I'm sure we ladies can be about the same.

But I am just so frustrated with some of the real world.
I hate religion so intensely. It blames me for everything.
And in the last year, it seems they are convinced the left is the great danger.

I just want to scream sometimes.
I'm too old for this garbage too.
The under 20s know no better. The under 30s can't stop talking into their cell phones.
The under 40s and under 50s are still too young as well.
I have no one to talk to much.

I have not done the trans child life, nor the trans youth experience or trans in highschool. I never went to college, but so what, I was well past my 30s without hearing a hint of what transgender was. I was past my 40s as well. I didn't meet the truth until I was 50. By then, I was so far removed from trans society, I couldn't relate. And I sure can't relate in my 60s.

I have no way to communicate online with transgender persons. I don't speak their language. I can't relate to their politics. I don't know what they experience. It won't be me fighting the fight. I'll be fortunate to be alive in 20 years.
But then again, society might not last much longer. Well if the young don't learn how to fight.

Part of me is afraid of the news. Part of me wonders what the point to being afraid is? What can they do to me?
They can't force me to learn junk in school. They can't refuse me work, I'm a long time past having any need of work.
They can't deny me my surgery, too late, old news. I sometimes wonder, am I wearing a label I no longer need? Ya, under a medical scan you can see some incongruities. So what. If someone wants to tell me "You are really a man", I can respond with, "oh fuck off".

I hope I am not boring anyone here.
It is an odd feeling knowing of all places online to be chewing about the trans world, I'd be doing it on a site for sex saturated fiction.

And my own journey has been kinda lonely. 2012 no one to talk to other than untrained medicals.
2014 and wife separates as a prerequisite to divorce.
4 very lonely years learning all by myself.
Celebrating my surgery, alone.
Recovery alone.
Learning that dating is a monumental disappointment this century if you are over 25
I have my wife, but sadly we spend most of our time feeling like there is no one out there for our age.
I have one 18 year old transgender female friend. She calls us her aunties. But we don't know what it is like to be her.
And there is really nowhere to interact with the young (without a lot of nasty comments resulting).

I have looked on YouTube. Old for trans is considered mid 30s. I'm a complete fossil.

Thanks for any who listened.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I need to bitch if it's ok.
I'm feeling old and mean.
Not because of any man here though (none have even noticed me)

I'm a wargamer (hence the name). I like to push tiny 1/2 inch counters around maps of old battles.
Was big on wargaming forums in 2003.
Military forums seem to have died off around 2007. Not sure why.

Then the transgender thing happened (for me). Like 2012.
So I of course looked up some transgender forums. I could mention some names. Nah, just don't care.
It was an unexpected disaster. You would think they would be a safe place. They're not actually.

I have known of Lit since about 2002.
Nice it is still here.
Amazing it hasn't died as well. You might find this a shock, but this site is better behaved than I think you realize.

Ya, there are cretins perverts and all manner of wtf? But, the site is about erotic writing.
So if a guy wants to get hot and bothered here.
And I'm sure we ladies can be about the same.

But I am just so frustrated with some of the real world.
I hate religion so intensely. It blames me for everything.
And in the last year, it seems they are convinced the left is the great danger.

I just want to scream sometimes.
I'm too old for this garbage too.
The under 20s know no better. The under 30s can't stop talking into their cell phones.
The under 40s and under 50s are still too young as well.
I have no one to talk to much.

I have not done the trans child life, nor the trans youth experience or trans in highschool. I never went to college, but so what, I was well past my 30s without hearing a hint of what transgender was. I was past my 40s as well. I didn't meet the truth until I was 50. By then, I was so far removed from trans society, I couldn't relate. And I sure can't relate in my 60s.

I have no way to communicate online with transgender persons. I don't speak their language. I can't relate to their politics. I don't know what they experience. It won't be me fighting the fight. I'll be fortunate to be alive in 20 years.
But then again, society might not last much longer. Well if the young don't learn how to fight.

Part of me is afraid of the news. Part of me wonders what the point to being afraid is? What can they do to me?
They can't force me to learn junk in school. They can't refuse me work, I'm a long time past having any need of work.
They can't deny me my surgery, too late, old news. I sometimes wonder, am I wearing a label I no longer need? Ya, under a medical scan you can see some incongruities. So what. If someone wants to tell me "You are really a man", I can respond with, "oh fuck off".

I hope I am not boring anyone here.
It is an odd feeling knowing of all places online to be chewing about the trans world, I'd be doing it on a site for sex saturated fiction.

And my own journey has been kinda lonely. 2012 no one to talk to other than untrained medicals.
2014 and wife separates as a prerequisite to divorce.
4 very lonely years learning all by myself.
Celebrating my surgery, alone.
Recovery alone.
Learning that dating is a monumental disappointment this century if you are over 25
I have my wife, but sadly we spend most of our time feeling like there is no one out there for our age.
I have one 18 year old transgender female friend. She calls us her aunties. But we don't know what it is like to be her.
And there is really nowhere to interact with the young (without a lot of nasty comments resulting).

I have looked on YouTube. Old for trans is considered mid 30s. I'm a complete fossil.

Thanks for any who listened.

Giving this a love reaction because I can’t give it a hug reaction. But big hugs for you - I’m sorry your journey has been so lonely but I’m glad you were able to find who you really are.

 

[Zrosey]

Giving this a love reaction because I can’t give it a hug reaction. But big hugs for you - I’m sorry your journey has been so lonely but I’m glad you were able to find who you really are.

I totally agree w cheekygirl. Virtual hugs to you sister

 

[Zrosey]

And lit has really reminded me about the experience of objectification in the less than one week I’ve been on the forum lol. I’d taken a bit of a break from men.

First off, thanks for everything you expressed here, it really resonated for me!
I've found myself feeling wary around men, I avert my eyes, feel very conscious anytime I need to walk by ones not known by me.
It is like I've developed some kind of early warning.

I can’t imagine what the experience of being fetishized is like -esp as the result of choice to live as your true self

For the most part, any of the rudeness and negative external bs I've gotten since my transition is offset by the amazing, awesome feeling of living life as I have always seen myself, a woman!
I would never ever consider going back, and I've said it elsewhere, but I finally feel complete, as I was meant to be.
Sorry for my late reply, I'm currently traveling, visiting with my gender doctor and visiting friends

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Had to kick the ant hill

But this is what I'm thinking of right now.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

That was a picture test.

I am currently using my Bluesky to review wargames.
This is NOT a new product by the way.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

The trouble with current politics, is you have about 24 hours to discuss ANY event, and then the next day it is usurped by the next WTF? moment

So anyone posting to politics is demonstrating the futility of relevance

So I'm going to just offer this video on making a nice copper bracelet

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

 

[Splendidjane]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

I had not-so out of curiosity-googled it. It sounds complex, nuanced, and multi-faceted-like most things having to do with the human experience. I did better learn the distinction between dysphoria and dysmorphia. Therian seems to suggest some adjacency at least to furry-but that’s just a whole other area in which I lack knowledge so

 

[Zrosey]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

 

[stickygirl]

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

Okay you got me. Now I have to look it up

 

[PollyGons]

I’m considering typing unavailable for free use spank bank content creation in my about section…

Excellent idea!

 

[Splendidjane]

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

I love this:

Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

I always find it utterly baffling how some folks try to tell someone else about their true self-I don’t need to know a lot to know the person with the most visibility to who their true self is-is that person. Now there can be discussions around how observed behavior doesn’t match that-which is also always observed through a lens of individual experience-it’s always complicated…

I do not know about the experience of feeling like you are not the right species-and I don’t doubt the veracity of it for someone. I’m cool with accepting it at face value cause I don’t understand and also no prob asked me to validate it for them. I don’t know if the comment made to @Mrswargamer9dash1 was comparative or more representative of an empathetic offering of another’s experience. for the latter…

 

[Splendidjane]

Okay you got me. Now I have to look it up

Look at us learning together

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

For myself

When I am VERY sad, I keen like a wolf cub. I have something of a pack mind at that time. And I feel lonely as I have lost all of my pack. Both of my parents gone, siblings moved far away. Mate and child abandoned me.

But I don't think I'm part wolf. It's just a manifestation of part of my autism

When I get angry, I growl like an old female mother bear. And I am very dangerous to interact with.

But I am also not of the belief I am part bear.

But I do wander like a bear. I am not a good choice for leading in the woods. I get distracted.

Thw whole bunny thing. My avatar is a Celtic rabbit image. My legal middle name IS Bunny. In bed I tend to burrow.
But I don't have any idea I'm a rabbit. Although, I'd gladly waste a perfectly good wish to have genuine real bunny rabbit ears. Because I'm an idiot

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I have to remember
I lived through the Cuban Missile Crisis and the Cold War The October War Bosnia Rwanda The Gulf War The Killing Fields Falklands Afghanistan Grenada to name a few.
Y2K 2012 The war on Terror 9/11 Covid being transgender and turning 60
I think I can survive Donald too

But some days he really tasks me

 

[PollyGons]

I love this:

I always find it utterly baffling how some folks try to tell someone else about their true self-I don’t need to know a lot to know the person with the most visibility to who their true self is-is that person. Now there can be discussions around how observed behavior doesn’t match that-which is also always observed through a lens of individual experience-it’s always complicated…

I do not know about the experience of feeling like you are not the right species-and I don’t doubt the veracity of it for someone. I’m cool with accepting it at face value cause I don’t understand and also no prob asked me to validate it for them. I don’t know if the comment made to @Mrswargamer9dash1 was comparative or more representative of an empathetic offering of another’s experience. for the latter…

You really are splendid xx

 

[Splendidjane]

You really are splendid xx

ty-that really made my day

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Share them titties like you wanna!!!