Cock Talk

[lavendersilk]

How has money affected your relationships?
I've always been middle class (despite lots of hard work and not many bad decisions), sometimes lower middle class, sometimes higher. I reckon I'll always be in the middle class (as long as one exists) and that honestly suits me fine. I've only wanted to feel comfortable, not have to stress about an emergency, and travel a little. I couldn't enjoy having more than enough and watching people I care about have less. It's only affected my relationship when our goals weren't in alignment. And honestly, I blame myself for being a people pleaser and not putting my foot down on those instances. Someone's gotta be the dreamer, someone's gotta be the accountant.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
No. This will probably be unpopular but I think people from different socioeconomic statuses are very different from each other in ways that you can't tell until you're doing life together. People take for granted the way they live their lives are pretty similar to the way everyone lives and it's just not true. They assume the hardships or the opportunities they've had are common or available to everyone. This isn't necessarily good or bad, to be clear, just different. For me, I value people who share the same ideals and those ideals are very often displayed through finances and their attitudes towards people with more or less. That's a long way of saying, so far, I've fallen for people who understand money in a similar way to me.

This makes a lot of sense. It has everything to do with where you live, go to school, hang out, etc.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

So... wear a ballgag? Kinky.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This is interesting. Maybe a silent film style OF?
That could be pretty hot. If you want to make a practice OF, I can offer plenty of . . . encouragement.

Can we have pics back?

Abso- fucking - lutely. Along with many upgrades!

That condom he’s been carrying around since high school?
Also, was this your fault?

It was! He totally told me not to wash his pants but I forgot.

 

[Apisto42]

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
No. This will probably be unpopular but I think people from different socioeconomic statuses are very different from each other in ways that you can't tell until you're doing life together. People take for granted the way they live their lives are pretty similar to the way everyone lives and it's just not true. They assume the hardships or the opportunities they've had are common or available to everyone. This isn't necessarily good or bad, to be clear, just different. For me, I value people who share the same ideals and those ideals are very often displayed through finances and their attitudes towards people with more or less. That's a long way of saying, so far, I've fallen for people who understand money in a similar way to me.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
A bit. If you're completely dependent on the grace of family, friends, strangers and for whatever reason can't provide for yourself, then that's a big consideration for me. Not because of the lack but because I can't quite handle taking care of anyone else in my life at the moment. It's not ambition I value but hard work. If you're extremely well off, then I would have to understand somethings about you and how you got there and how you view your wealth and what you're doing with it. I don't find someone whose only goal in life to make more money very attractive. Personally. Generosity of attention, time and resources is sexy af. Personally.

Agree completely.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

. Lord, I hope he never hears the lit pod episodes you did a few years ago.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Agree completely.

. Lord, I hope he never hears the lit pod episodes you did a few years ago.

Lol, no. The podcast has been retired but I totally still listen to when I rub one out.

I'M KIDDING!!!

 

[TomTeacher19]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

It usually doesn't but sometimes the differences has made it awkward

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

No, but I fell for a couple when I already knew they were.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

Sure. Wealth impacts your entire life and lifestyle.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

Usually, but I think that was mostly because people in similar income levels tend to be around each other. Bill Gates won't date many bums because he isn't ever around them

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

No. That's a sudden, recent change. You already have the relationship built.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Once I was one of two guys this girl was dating at the same time and she ended up picking him over me because he had more money.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Does a kissing booth count?

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

If buy a nice little cabin in the forest by a stream with a big comfy bed and a hot tub and everything in place to enjoy quiet weekends / weeks / months together without ever needing to leave.

 

[morelikeasong]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

I had an ex who prioritized making money over spending time with me. Like he refused to ever turn his work phone off when we were on dates and such (even though he was able to). That sucked.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Not exactly. I have fallen for someone and then later learned the extent of the poverty that they grew up in, but they weren’t in that situation when I met them.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

I don’t think so

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

Yeah, I think generally similar to me. Except that one architect who was 11 years older than me. I don't know exactly what his income was but way more than me as a recent college grad, for sure.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

I’d hope they’d know me well enough to know that the lottery wasn’t the reason.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

I’ve been lucky enough to always have enough that I didn’t really have to worry about that. Tight budget leading to little tiffs, maybe, but nothing major.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Uhhh, I’ve gotten treat money from online friends for coffee and/or lingerie. Does that count as a good cause?

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Expensive lingerie that actually fits my boobs and that vibrator that records orgasm data

 

[hotwords229_A]

Uhhh, I’ve gotten treat money from online friends for coffee and/or lingerie. Does that count as a good cause?

Sounds good to me!

. . . and that vibrator that records orgasm data

Wait, they have this?
Like a tracker for orgasms?
What does it record? Intensity? Frequency?
How does this info help you? Up your Kegel exercises?
Like, instead of how many steps you’ve taken that day . . .?
Do you get a monthly Pie Chart (get it!)?

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

There have been a couple times undiscussed debt has impacted my marriage. So much shame built into not being on top of everything. It happened, fortunately it was resolved. And we’ve moved on.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Nope.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

No other than I probably would not have dated someone in a significantly different socioeconomic status than me. Money and security and world view are so tied together.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

Not at that point, no.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Knock on wood.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

No. I don’t like to make sex transactional. Even strip clubs make me vaguely uncomfortable.

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Shit, I don’t know. A personal trainer and chef. And some HGH. Like the Hollywood folks have.

 

[morelikeasong]

Wait, they have this?
Like a tracker for orgasms?
What does it record? Intensity? Frequency?
How does this info help you? Up your Kegel exercises?
Like, instead of how many steps you’ve taken that day . . .?
Do you get a monthly Pie Chart (get it!)?

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[EvaLane]

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

That’s cool.
It would be funny if it shamed you. I know mine would!

 

[jason28053]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

How many steps are counted as an orgasm?

 

[Apisto42]

No. I don’t like to make sex transactional. Even strip clubs make me vaguely uncomfortable.

yeah. The whole thing is slightly nauseating. The customers more than anything.

… A personal trainer and chef…

I could get on board with this. Especially if I didn’t have to decide what we’re eating. That would fabulous.

That’s cool.
It would be funny if it shamed you. I know mine would!

“You have jerked off 6 times today. That is above your average of 3 jerkoffs, but below your all time high of 12. Your average time spent jerking off is 4 minutes and 34 seconds. I hope that was time well spent.”

 

[MrMakersMark]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

That seems like something a clever person might be able to hack into.

Not me of course

Just sayin'..

 

[hotwords229_A]

yeah. The whole thing is slightly nauseating. The customers more than anything.

I could get on board with this. Especially if I didn’t have to decide what we’re eating. That would fabulous.

“You have jerked off 6 times today. That is above your average of 3 jerkoffs, but below your all time high of 12. Your average time spent jerking off is 4 minutes and 34 seconds. I hope that was time well spent.”

Mine would read more like “Dude, get a girlfriend already!”

 

[LostHorizon]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

That sounds absolutely fascinating.

I know data based decision making is all the rage these days but this takes data analytics to a whole knew level.

I’m getting turned on just thinking about all the statistical possibilities of such a toy.

 

[AveryElle]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?
Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?
If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?
Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?
Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Only had one partner where this was an issue. He had a big chip on his shoulder about people who made more money than him but also "worked less". He had a lot of issues around people who did better than him when he thought he WAS better than them. He placed personal value on what he perceived as work ethic which made me feel like I could never be enough. I am decently off, and much better off than him, but I think he felt like I didn't earn it. My grandparents came to this country with nothing - my grandfather hadn't ever owned proper underwear before being given it at Ellis Island. I ended up taking this partner (let's call him Alpine) to Ellis Island and, honestly, I think a lot of the class hatred is because he was from a place that didn't have immigrant stories. People were born into their class and that was that. But, I felt like I could never work enough for him to think I deserved the lifestyle I have, even though I've been working since I was 14 with no breaks except when I studied abroad because I had no work authorization. Having a chip on your shoulder, regardless of why, is not a good look. But, when it's all you know and struggling is a part of your identity, I can understand the comfort that chip brings you.

I have never fallen for anywhere where money was an issue on my end.

My financial situation is no one's business but mine (and my spouse)

I married someone from a similar background but with great potential. I also have a job that gives me the flexibility to take care of my family so my spouse can earn what he does. I've mostly dated people of similar income mostly because it's been similar education.

I have no idea how I'd feel about the lottery. Gotta play to win, not sure I'd date someone who played!

Money was an issue with my ex, let's call him Alpine, because he was very insecure and in retrospect, I think he was using me.

I have never done anything for money because no one would pay to see this. Gross.

I have financial security and money to burn, and I don't buy things, really. I have used my money to go away and experience people and places. That's sexy!

 

[Endless_Night]

How has money affected your relationships?
My relationships and money interaction is a little offbeat. My SO is exceptionally bright, but lacks ambition. I supply the ambition. It works quite well.

That seems to be a pattern for me.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
Nope.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
No. I'm more of a work together type of person. That said, extreme wealth might put me off a bit.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?
That's tricky. My income has always been all over the place.

I will say that anyone I'm likely to form a lasting attachment with would need to be, at core, security driven. We wouldn’t have to start there, be it would need to be a goal.

Not that I don’t like my occasional luxuries, but a good financial foundation is the most important thing. It makes me feel safe.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?
I would be unlikely to be the one proposing, but I do think the situation has at least the potential to be uncomfortable.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?
Tough times, if weathered, always makes things stronger.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy?


If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?
Eh.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

Mostly in negative ways.
Some good things of course come from it.
But from my personal experience money causes more issues and bitterness than it avoids.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

I haven't.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

Lol. I don't think I have suitors.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

Yeah. Pretty much.
I mean, relatively close.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

Yeah. That would be awkward.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Both.
Anyone who has ever been close to someone with an unhealthy relationship with money can attest.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Every single time I strip, it's for money.

Seriously, if it's down to me to do something sexy for money, we are legitimately and officially fucked.

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Hmm.
I am a simple Man of simple taste.
New truck and matching bass boat.
And a year of nothing but driving from lake to lake.
Making me all wet just thinking about it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Pre-Gillette Sex

I read recently that a majority of women prefer men with beards or whiskers over clean shaved faces.

I know from previous answers that Lit women overwhelmingly seem to prefer some body hair on their dude.

Do you prefer a guy clean shaved, some stubble, or full beard?
I assume it is appreciated when we (men) groom to a degree, but how do you feel if a guy is totally shaved (head to toe)? What if it’s for his job—Swimmer, Model, Stripper?
According to old movies, a guy’s face should be smooth as silk before a date, what changed?
Women seem to enjoy the beard between their legs, but whiskers take some time to become beards. What is the proper amount of whiskers to enjoy getting oral from?
Do you love the feeling of smooth balls on your chin, or are you fine either way?
What criticisms do you have about past partner’s grooming habits?

 

[cheekygirl75]

Pre-Gillette Sex

I read recently that a majority of women prefer men with beards or whiskers over clean shaved faces.

I know from previous answers that Lit women overwhelmingly seem to prefer some body hair on their dude.

Do you prefer a guy clean shaved, some stubble, or full beard?
I assume it is appreciated when we (men) groom to a degree, but how do you feel if a guy is totally shaved (head to toe)? What if it’s for his job—Swimmer, Model, Stripper?
According to old movies, a guy’s face should be smooth as silk before a date, what changed?
Women seem to enjoy the beard between their legs, but whiskers take some time to become beards. What is the proper amount of whiskers to enjoy getting oral from?
Do you love the feeling of smooth balls on your chin, or are you fine either way?
What criticisms do you have about past partner’s grooming habits?

I prefer clean shaven - I have sensitive skin so kissing (or other things I assume though I have no direct experience) with any facial hair is irritating.

I would side eye a guy who’s so into their looks as to shave everything, unless it’s for a job, then that’s what they have to do.

No idea what changed but I wish it would change back!

Like I said, I have no direct experience but I’d guess none for me.

I’m fine with smooth or hairy balls, either way. That said, I’ve never gone down on a guy who had a ton of hair down there.

All past partners have been pretty good with grooming.

 

[lavendersilk]

I read recently that a majority of women prefer men with beards or whiskers over clean shaved faces.

Where are these polls being taken? Up in the mountains?

Do you prefer a guy clean shaved, some stubble, or full beard?

I assume it is appreciated when we (men) groom to a degree, but how do you feel if a guy is totally shaved (head to toe)? What if it’s for his job—Swimmer, Model, Stripper?

I'm not picky about pubic hair. I want them to be comfortable in their own hair. I would never request they shave down there for me.

According to old movies, a guy’s face should be smooth as silk before a date, what changed?

No clue...

Women seem to enjoy the beard between their legs, but whiskers take some time to become beards. What is the proper amount of whiskers to enjoy getting oral from?

If the hair is taken care of (conditioned/oiled/brushed) it doesn't matter how much there is in my opinion.

Do you love the feeling of smooth balls on your chin, or are you fine either way?

It's... fine.

What criticisms do you have about past partner’s grooming habits?

All I really care about is good hygiene. A clean body is a sexy body.

 

[Endless_Night]

Where are these polls being taken? Up in the mountains?

This^^^.

I prefer clean shaven. Sue me.

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They forgot the Hercule Poirot.

 

[Endless_Night]

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Acceptable in a pinch.

Because I pride myself on being broadminded. And they are pretty.


But. I draw the line at no leg hair. Unless they are swimmers. Men should not have naked calves. It's discombobulating.

#endlessrrule652

Not really.

I am so easy going I have no rules.


I am full of mendacity.