Cock Talk

[hotwords229_A]

Can’t respond till I get a classic hotwords piece of artwork on the questions.

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[Wand3rlust]

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Hey - someone's nicked my USP!

 

[Mei5ter]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six , result happiness.

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery."

I have Charles Dickens as my financial advisor.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Yes. But as I fell for them rather than their bank balance, it never made the slightest difference to my feelings either way.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

No. Not in the slightest.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

No.

For socioeconomic reasons, I think we often find ourselves meeting and dating people in a roughly similar position to us. If I'm the guy who fixes truck tires and you're a princess, we may be the most star crossed of lovers who should be together for always, but life being what it is it's unlikely our paths will cross.

But doing it intentionally can be gross. I have met women who have been completely open about refusing to date a man who earns less than a certain amount. Good luck to them, and I hope they find the man they deserve. It won't be me.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

It would change our expectations and that would need talking over. I'm not sure lottery wins are good for relationships. If you've spent your life living according to your means, and those means have always been a certain way, a windfall is just as disruptive as bankruptcy.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Complex question. It can do both at once, because it can destroy trust while creating dependency, and that's a toxic mix. And not in a good way.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money...

I can't give it away, unfortunately.

or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy?

Flirty, yes. I have done a few charity events where I have ratcheted up the charm levels as best I can and persuaded people to part with cash for a good cause.

I have gone to events with friends as their 'plus one' once or twice, but strictly as friends. My sexy is for my person, and I'm not selling.

Shouldn’t you?
If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Absolutely every single costume and item of lingerie in her size that I can find.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

This reminds me that I need to watch Labyrinth.

How has money affected your relationships?

Hey I just had a session with my counselor and this is what we discussed. How timely!

Money is something that is a stressor sometimes. We have different attitudes about it. We have different opinions on what we need, etc. That can be stressful. My counselor worded it in a way that was helpful when she said that money can mean a lot of different things to different people. I think that it is important to respect your partner and keep his or her comfort level at the heart of things, but also be openminded and willing think about more than just one right way to do things.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

No

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

No. I imagine that the activities I do and where I work and spend most of my time are dictated, somewhat, by where I am financially and therefore who I’m around … but that’s the only way.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

The same answer as above really. Not purposefully, no.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

Sure? Any major life change that they’d have would be something that would cause them to be in a different place in their life, right? Maybe they’d just want to elope and buy an island and start our own compound where societal expectations, clothing, and money are outdated anyway.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Big financial decisions always cause some waves and it takes a lot of discussion and planning to weather those. But we have basic foundational understandings that we rely on and are helpful. I wouldn't say that we feel super close or bonded by these situations.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Not unless you count strip poker.

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Hmm a little flat in London.

 

[hotwords229_A]

This reminds me that I need to watch Labyrinth.

What?!

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

What?!

 

[lavendersilk]

Money is something that is a stressor sometimes. We have different attitudes about it. We have different opinions on what we need, etc. That can be stressful. My counselor worded it in a way that was helpful when she said that money can mean a lot of different things to different people. I think that it is important to respect your partner and keep his or her comfort level at the heart of things, but also be openminded and willing think about more than just one right way to do things.

I love this.

 

[Apisto42]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

No more so than it affects my life in general. I’ve never been poor, but man have I been broke.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Nope. Only fallen for one woman and money had nothing to do with it.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

Now? Yes it would. At 50 I’m not going to be interested in a relationship with someone that doesn’t have their shit together enough to be self sufficient. It’s not the money, it’s what life choices have you made to be broke at this age.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

All of my dating was before I was 27. We were all broke. College was a morherfucker on finances.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

Nope. Because if we were that much in love that I’d be willing to be joined together, it’d just be good news.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

It led to some laughs. The special take out dinner of KFC that we could barely afford landed on the ground? Pick the gravel out, heat it up and make do.

We had some great sex that night.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?


Don’t no one want to see that. I suppose. Could raise money by threatening to strip!




If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

A year long cruise.

 

[hotwords229_A]

@Love_Is_Blonde

Looks more like a coin purse than a wallet!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

The wallet I accidentally washed last week and ruined his important things??

As usually, these are such good questions, HW! I've been pondering them since you posted and, for any podcast listeners out there, I'd like to recommend a podcast called Death, Sex and Money. It's about hard conversations we all need to have but out culture has made really difficult to have. It's a weekly banger (as far as podcasts go) for me.

How has money affected your relationships?
I've always been middle class (despite lots of hard work and not many bad decisions), sometimes lower middle class, sometimes higher. I reckon I'll always be in the middle class (as long as one exists) and that honestly suits me fine. I've only wanted to feel comfortable, not have to stress about an emergency, and travel a little. I couldn't enjoy having more than enough and watching people I care about have less. It's only affected my relationship when our goals weren't in alignment. And honestly, I blame myself for being a people pleaser and not putting my foot down on those instances. Someone's gotta be the dreamer, someone's gotta be the accountant.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
No. This will probably be unpopular but I think people from different socioeconomic statuses are very different from each other in ways that you can't tell until you're doing life together. People take for granted the way they live their lives are pretty similar to the way everyone lives and it's just not true. They assume the hardships or the opportunities they've had are common or available to everyone. This isn't necessarily good or bad, to be clear, just different. For me, I value people who share the same ideals and those ideals are very often displayed through finances and their attitudes towards people with more or less. That's a long way of saying, so far, I've fallen for people who understand money in a similar way to me.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
A bit. If you're completely dependent on the grace of family, friends, strangers and for whatever reason can't provide for yourself, then that's a big consideration for me. Not because of the lack but because I can't quite handle taking care of anyone else in my life at the moment. It's not ambition I value but hard work. If you're extremely well off, then I would have to understand somethings about you and how you got there and how you view your wealth and what you're doing with it. I don't find someone whose only goal in life to make more money very attractive. Personally. Generosity of attention, time and resources is sexy af. Personally.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?
Always. Well maybe not income but certainly similar economic status. More money, more problems, as they say.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?
If we're about to get engaged, I would assume our goals are aligned. I feel like this is an early relationship question because the answer is so telling. Pay our bills, be comfortable, take care of everyone we love, get involved in charities we're passionate about, travel. What's the point of money if you can't share it?

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?
Closer. There's a certain understanding between people who work their ass off and figure out how to make it work. It creates a safe place to bring the struggles and a totally celebration when something goes your way.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?
I'll buy Lit.

Also, plane tickets and the PTO it would equal to enjoy the destination. (Is that sex work? I want us to have time to enjoy but I don't want you to lose money on me so I would cover what you would have made that week? It kinda feels like sex work.... thoughts?)

 

[hotwords229_A]

No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

This is interesting. Maybe a silent film style OF?
That could be pretty hot. If you want to make a practice OF, I can offer plenty of . . . encouragement.

I'll buy Lit.

Can we have pics back?

 

[hotwords229_A]

The wallet I accidentally washed last week and ruined his important things??

That condom he’s been carrying around since high school?
Also, was this your fault?

 

[lavendersilk]

How has money affected your relationships?
I've always been middle class (despite lots of hard work and not many bad decisions), sometimes lower middle class, sometimes higher. I reckon I'll always be in the middle class (as long as one exists) and that honestly suits me fine. I've only wanted to feel comfortable, not have to stress about an emergency, and travel a little. I couldn't enjoy having more than enough and watching people I care about have less. It's only affected my relationship when our goals weren't in alignment. And honestly, I blame myself for being a people pleaser and not putting my foot down on those instances. Someone's gotta be the dreamer, someone's gotta be the accountant.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
No. This will probably be unpopular but I think people from different socioeconomic statuses are very different from each other in ways that you can't tell until you're doing life together. People take for granted the way they live their lives are pretty similar to the way everyone lives and it's just not true. They assume the hardships or the opportunities they've had are common or available to everyone. This isn't necessarily good or bad, to be clear, just different. For me, I value people who share the same ideals and those ideals are very often displayed through finances and their attitudes towards people with more or less. That's a long way of saying, so far, I've fallen for people who understand money in a similar way to me.

This makes a lot of sense. It has everything to do with where you live, go to school, hang out, etc.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

So... wear a ballgag? Kinky.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This is interesting. Maybe a silent film style OF?
That could be pretty hot. If you want to make a practice OF, I can offer plenty of . . . encouragement.

Can we have pics back?

Abso- fucking - lutely. Along with many upgrades!

That condom he’s been carrying around since high school?
Also, was this your fault?

It was! He totally told me not to wash his pants but I forgot.

 

[Apisto42]

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?
No. This will probably be unpopular but I think people from different socioeconomic statuses are very different from each other in ways that you can't tell until you're doing life together. People take for granted the way they live their lives are pretty similar to the way everyone lives and it's just not true. They assume the hardships or the opportunities they've had are common or available to everyone. This isn't necessarily good or bad, to be clear, just different. For me, I value people who share the same ideals and those ideals are very often displayed through finances and their attitudes towards people with more or less. That's a long way of saying, so far, I've fallen for people who understand money in a similar way to me.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
A bit. If you're completely dependent on the grace of family, friends, strangers and for whatever reason can't provide for yourself, then that's a big consideration for me. Not because of the lack but because I can't quite handle taking care of anyone else in my life at the moment. It's not ambition I value but hard work. If you're extremely well off, then I would have to understand somethings about you and how you got there and how you view your wealth and what you're doing with it. I don't find someone whose only goal in life to make more money very attractive. Personally. Generosity of attention, time and resources is sexy af. Personally.

Agree completely.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?
No.... but I often joke about starting an OF. Surprisingly my partner is totally on board with that as long as I don't talk to anyone watching. So.... thats.... awkward.

. Lord, I hope he never hears the lit pod episodes you did a few years ago.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Agree completely.

. Lord, I hope he never hears the lit pod episodes you did a few years ago.

Lol, no. The podcast has been retired but I totally still listen to when I rub one out.

I'M KIDDING!!!

 

[TomTeacher19]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

It usually doesn't but sometimes the differences has made it awkward

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

No, but I fell for a couple when I already knew they were.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

Sure. Wealth impacts your entire life and lifestyle.

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

Usually, but I think that was mostly because people in similar income levels tend to be around each other. Bill Gates won't date many bums because he isn't ever around them

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

No. That's a sudden, recent change. You already have the relationship built.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Once I was one of two guys this girl was dating at the same time and she ended up picking him over me because he had more money.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Does a kissing booth count?

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

If buy a nice little cabin in the forest by a stream with a big comfy bed and a hot tub and everything in place to enjoy quiet weekends / weeks / months together without ever needing to leave.

 

[morelikeasong]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

I had an ex who prioritized making money over spending time with me. Like he refused to ever turn his work phone off when we were on dates and such (even though he was able to). That sucked.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Not exactly. I have fallen for someone and then later learned the extent of the poverty that they grew up in, but they weren’t in that situation when I met them.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?

I don’t think so

Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

Yeah, I think generally similar to me. Except that one architect who was 11 years older than me. I don't know exactly what his income was but way more than me as a recent college grad, for sure.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

I’d hope they’d know me well enough to know that the lottery wasn’t the reason.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

I’ve been lucky enough to always have enough that I didn’t really have to worry about that. Tight budget leading to little tiffs, maybe, but nothing major.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

Uhhh, I’ve gotten treat money from online friends for coffee and/or lingerie. Does that count as a good cause?

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Expensive lingerie that actually fits my boobs and that vibrator that records orgasm data

 

[hotwords229_A]

Uhhh, I’ve gotten treat money from online friends for coffee and/or lingerie. Does that count as a good cause?

Sounds good to me!

. . . and that vibrator that records orgasm data

Wait, they have this?
Like a tracker for orgasms?
What does it record? Intensity? Frequency?
How does this info help you? Up your Kegel exercises?
Like, instead of how many steps you’ve taken that day . . .?
Do you get a monthly Pie Chart (get it!)?

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Your Wallet: The other bulge in your pants.

How has money affected your relationships?

There have been a couple times undiscussed debt has impacted my marriage. So much shame built into not being on top of everything. It happened, fortunately it was resolved. And we’ve moved on.

Have you ever fallen for someone, then learned they were super rich, or super poor?

Nope.

Does your personal wealth affect how you perceive suitors?
Do you, or did you, date within people of a similar income?

No other than I probably would not have dated someone in a significantly different socioeconomic status than me. Money and security and world view are so tied together.

If you were about to propose marriage and then the other person won the lottery, would you then feel weird about it?

Not at that point, no.

Has a lack of money destroyed your relationships? Or did it bring you closer together?

Knock on wood.

Have you ever stripped for money, had sex for money, or raised money for a good cause by doing anything sexy? Shouldn’t you?

No. I don’t like to make sex transactional. Even strip clubs make me vaguely uncomfortable.

If you suddenly had financial security and money to burn, what would be the first sexual or sexy thing you would buy?

Shit, I don’t know. A personal trainer and chef. And some HGH. Like the Hollywood folks have.

 

[morelikeasong]

Wait, they have this?
Like a tracker for orgasms?
What does it record? Intensity? Frequency?
How does this info help you? Up your Kegel exercises?
Like, instead of how many steps you’ve taken that day . . .?
Do you get a monthly Pie Chart (get it!)?

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[EvaLane]

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

That’s cool.
It would be funny if it shamed you. I know mine would!

 

[jason28053]

It tracks pelvic floor movements while you masturbate and then graphs them, similar to those FitBit watches that graph your heart rate and whatnot.

I think it also gives you data on how often you masturbate, what time, what days, how long until O, how long your O lasts, what orgasm pattern you have. All that jazz.

I want oneeeee
But I can’t buy another expensive toy that might not work for me.

How many steps are counted as an orgasm?