Cock Talk

[lavendersilk]

Yes, but they're adorable outside! I made a toad house for my garden, a platform for crows to get peanuts, and I've got plans for a bat house

Look at this rescued flying Fox, tell me it's not ADORABLE!
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Please start a thread called "Bat Talk" please and thank you.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Immortality not your thing? I get it.

I’m afraid of what he might bite.

Look at this rescued flying Fox, tell me it's not ADORABLE!

Yes, that’s exactly what he wants you to think.

I recently had lunch with an old friend I hadn't seen in years. It was fun to catch up. Among the less-fun things I learned was that her hubby recently started taking Zoloft. This apparently has caused him to be able to get hard but not allow him to reach orgasm. She said she loved it the first time because he kept going and going. It was only after he stopped did she get a sense of his frustration. They tried again a couple of days later and had the same things happen. She said that even going at it hard and fast didn't do anything more than tire him out. According to her, he didn't even feel as if he was getting close. This seems to have disheartened him enough that he no longer wants to even try, so they now haven't had sex in months.

This is along the lines of a question that just occurred to me recently.

I think the worst thing you can do to have an orgasm is to try to have one. Or maybe the dose is too high? Clearly, needs to talk to a Dr. about alternatives. But I also bet if he smacks it around enough and maybe with her help and no pressure and time, he will cum.

Medications can really mess with us. Taking away sex drive, sensations or the ability to cum is horrible.

 

[AmberLGreen]

It's ok to not have all the answers..

No it’s fucking not. Who are you and what have you done with the real Queen of Sarcasm!

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I recently had lunch with an old friend I hadn't seen in years. It was fun to catch up. Among the less-fun things I learned was that her hubby recently started taking Zoloft. This apparently has caused him to be able to get hard but not allow him to reach orgasm. She said she loved it the first time because he kept going and going. It was only after he stopped did she get a sense of his frustration. They tried again a couple of days later and had the same things happen. She said that even going at it hard and fast didn't do anything more than tire him out. According to her, he didn't even feel as if he was getting close. This seems to have disheartened him enough that he no longer wants to even try, so they now haven't had sex in months.

I’m afraid of what he might bite.

Yes, that’s exactly what he wants you to think.

This is along the lines of a question that just occurred to me recently.

I think the worst thing you can do to have an orgasm is to try to have one. Or maybe the dose is too high? Clearly, needs to talk to a Dr. about alternatives. But I also bet if he smacks it around enough and maybe with her help and no pressure and time, he will cum.

Medications can really mess with us. Taking away sex drive, sensations or the ability to cum is horrible.

Bupropion can have this same side effect, and I noticed a gradual change to this state. At first, I felt like a sex god (too bad my partner wasn't in to lengthy interactions). Then it became increasingly frustrating. I literally was unable to orgasm via any means. After 6 months, I requested a medication change.

 

[Wand3rlust]

No it’s fucking not. Who are you and what have you done with the real Queen of Sarcasm!

Shush. I was man-baiting. He nearly fell for it too...

 

[hotwords229_A]

too bad my partner wasn't in to lengthy interactions

How does she feel about girthy ones?
That sucks though. I hope things have gotten better for you.

Shush. I was man-baiting. He nearly fell for it too...

I man-bate before bed. It helps me sleep.

 

[jason28053]

Shush. I was man-baiting. He nearly fell for it too...

I think you misspelled masturbating

 

[lavendersilk]

I man-bate before bed. It helps me sleep.

Is it exhausting?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Is it exhausting?

It’s relieving.
Wait, are we talking about the same thing?

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

How does she feel about girthy ones?

Probably not a fan, but that's a challenge to say because it's like a hot dog in a hallway.

That sucks though. I hope things have gotten better for you.

It's working out alright in the end.

I man-bate before bed. It helps me sleep.

Is he a FWB or are you more serious?

Oh, you didn't mean with a partner...

 

[cheekygirl75]

I recently had lunch with an old friend I hadn't seen in years. It was fun to catch up. Among the less-fun things I learned was that her hubby recently started taking Zoloft. This apparently has caused him to be able to get hard but not allow him to reach orgasm. She said she loved it the first time because he kept going and going. It was only after he stopped did she get a sense of his frustration. They tried again a couple of days later and had the same things happen. She said that even going at it hard and fast didn't do anything more than tire him out. According to her, he didn't even feel as if he was getting close. This seems to have disheartened him enough that he no longer wants to even try, so they now haven't had sex in months.

He should ask his doctor about trying something else or adding something on... when I've been on anti-depressants, adding Wellbutrin (buproprion) really helped in that department, although with it I tend to cum very quickly so maybe he wouldn't want that either!

 

[MrMakersMark]

Please start a thread called "Bat Talk" please and thank you.

Shikaka!!

 

[StillRain]

It’s relieving.
Wait, are we talking about the same thing?

Pretty sure you’re stuck on the dick hole farts.

Don’t worry. Me too.

 

[SassySheDevil]

You mean, you're building bat houses so you can enjoy more sky puppies?

We have bat houses. My husband is a freak about wanting to make them his friends and name them.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Shikaka!!

My bat sanctuary will much more orderly, and cater to old boys too, not just sky puppies.

 

[MindYaBitness]

We have bat houses. My husband is a freak about wanting to make them his friends and name them.

We shouldbe friends!

 

[MrMakersMark]

My bat sanctuary will much more orderly, and cater to old boys too, not just sky puppies.

Can't believe they named that bat Statler and not Jackie Daytona.

 

[hotwords229_A]

That Whoreable Feeling

https://gifdb.com/images/thumbnail/woman-scared-on-halloween-meme-vnb85479jadru0zf.gif

There is a thrill that comes with sex, but that can also lead to terror, anxiety, performance issues, etc.

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?
How do you manage that nervous feeling?
Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?
Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?
Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?
In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?
What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

That Whoreable Feeling

Your pun game is on point.

There is a thrill that comes with sex, but that can also lead to terror, anxiety, performance issues, etc.

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

Well, I've only had three 1st times, and the first first time I wasn't nervous, it was on my honeymoon. It... was terrible.
Second first time, I was nervous I'd be far too quick, so after lots of foreplay and a couple of orgasms for her, it was actually fantastic. The duration could have been longer, but it wasn't embarrassingly short, so it all turned out okay.
Third 1st time had zero anxiety and no fear. It wasn't great, but it was fun.

How do you manage that nervous feeling?

Alcohol lol Really though, just reminding myself that my partner cares about me and it's not about the initial experience.

Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?

Pretty much an emotional raw dog. I don't partake in anything other than caffeine and alcohol, and it takes WAY too much alcohol to get to me, so it isn't worth it, IMO

Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?

Nope.

Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?

Honesty, communication, and the tried-and-true: under-promise & over-deliver.

In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?

I (foolishly) waited until marriage and had it built up to a mystical thing. My new bride was also a virgin and as it turns out, is TERRIBLE at sex. No amount of talking, showing, explaining, etc. could fix it, either.

What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

Do NOT wait until marriage! In fact, talk to a friend of your sexual preference and discuss learning together. It's someone you trust, someone you already talk to, it would be awkward at first, but I think it's a great way to get the stigma over with, demystify, and develop healthy and natural behaviors.

Also, I think adults should be more intentional with teaching children about sex. There are obviously age-appropriate topics, but I don't care how liberal or uptight conservative your culture is - having a safe and trustworthy adult give facts, research based information, and a little wisdom would go a long way to make everyone develop more healthy sexual attitudes and behaviors.

 

[BongoGal]

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

I was nervous to the point of shaking my first first time. But after that I've been pretty casual about subsequent first times with people.

 

[BongoGal]

Do NOT wait until marriage! In fact, talk to a friend of your sexual preference and discuss learning together. It's someone you trust, someone you already talk to, it would be awkward at first, but I think it's a great way to get the stigma over with, demystify, and develop healthy and natural behaviors.

That's pretty much how my first time happened. We were both horny af 19-year-old virgins. There was no romance at all. We were just two friends who had this weird thing in common, and we decided to end it at the day and time of our choosing rather than wait for just the right person to come along at some unknown point in the future. I never had any regrets about it. Looking back, it seems to me like a perfect way to learn.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

That's pretty much how my first time happened. We were both horny af 19-year-old virgins. There was no romance at all. We were just two friends who had this weird thing in common, and we decided to end it at the day and time of our choosing rather than wait for just the right person to come along at some unknown point in the future. I never had any regrets about it. Looking back, it seems to me like a perfect way to learn.

Also, in my case, what a time to discover that my now "forever partner" and I have zero sexual chemistry!

 

[EvaLane]

That Whoreable Feeling

https://gifdb.com/images/thumbnail/woman-scared-on-halloween-meme-vnb85479jadru0zf.gif

When you’re feeling self-cuntscious

How nervous are you the first time you have sex with someone?

When I first read this, I thought it said “how nervous were you the first time you had sex” and I was all eager to trauma dump

But anyway, it’s been about 7 years since my last “first time”. It was easier with my husband than with previous partners, probably because he already ticked so many boxes.

He was stronger, older, more experienced. I wasn’t nervous. Honestly, I didn’t have time to be nervous by the time I let his hands on me.

We were also probably drinking

How do you manage that nervous feeling?

I didn’t, really. With the two exes before him, I just played the part.

It’s easy to follow a script you’ve memorized, even if you’re not enjoying the play.

But I’ve learned that autopilot sex is boring as fuck. A partner who surprises me, who can disarm and engage me in equal measure, that’s what makes me come alive.

Alcohol often plays heavily into sex (no really), do you dabble in any chemical arts to relax when getting it on, or do you emotionally raw dog it?

I don’t need drugs to have sex - I have sex because it is a drug.

That feeling of being high off someone, the arousal, the adrenaline, the way you crave more, it can be addictive. I love that. I get obsessive with it.

Lately, I usually am on something these days. A bit of or a drink or two.

But I enjoy being sober too, especially when I want to feel everything a little faster, sharper.

Have you ever had an anxiety attack during physical intimacy? How did you handle it?

I never called them panic attacks at the time but according to my therapist, my freeze/shut down responses still count.

We’ve talked a lot about it. I’ve got tools now - learning to catch the early warning signs in my body, using safe phrases, and knowing what to do if I can’t get out of a situation right away. Sometimes that looks like journaling, walking, or, worst case, calling for an emergency session.

It’s been over a decade now, but still, I’m glad I know what to do, just in case.

Do you have a tried-and-true technique of putting yourself, or your partner, at ease before sex?

I don’t think I’ve ever wanted to feel totally at ease before sex. I wouldn’t want to feel calm before skydiving, which is an extreme, but the same could be said about re-reading a well loved book. I still would have a sense of curiosity and excitement going into it.

I want to feel desperate. Nervous. Eager. And I want him to see it, to feel it, and burn for it.

In the past, did you build sex up to be more than it is, causing more nervousness than was necessary, or were you a casual sex person without enough worry?

Me?? You think I, she, herrrrrrrrrr, meeeeeeeeee would ever overthink sex?!

Yes, but not out of fear.

I’ve always believed it could be more, should be more. Not romantic in the fairytale sense, but meaningful, almost sacred.

I’ve never been the casual type. I’ve never even been single long enough to really try. Even when I was, I wanted to give all of me to one person. That’s just how I’m wired, unfortunately.

What advice would you go back and give your virgin self if you could?

I’d probably just tell her to go back to sleep.

There’s nothing I could have done differently or better or smarter or wiser. She should just sleep.

 

[Peter_Out]

I’d probably just tell her to go back to sleep.

There’s nothing I could have done differently or better or smarter or wiser. She should just sleep.

That really bites.

 

[EvaLane]

That really bites.

For some reason, whenever a question pops up about revisiting my past self, it’s always at night. A future me popping by during the day, unannounced just seems so rude