Women who fantasize about or want to watch their significant other with other people, and who would that other person/people be?

[Mtnmike]

I think somewhere earlier I commented that this is not a common female fantasy, to watch her other half do another woman. When surveys on sexual fantasies are performed, we are invariably in a conscious form, and certainly this fantasy is not visible.

A fantasy which is similar but certainly not equivalent, and is more visible, is for us enjoying watching a woman being fucked (not by the husband). Just the idea of seeing a woman getting fucked. I did mention before that i used to get excited hearing and watching my roommate at university getting fucked. Yes, this is not uncommon, and it surfaces mostly in group sex, in the heat of action, some women do enjoy watching other women getting fucked, but not the husband.

There exists definite reasons for a woman to seek a threesome with her husband and another woman, and enjoying seeing him do her. These are mainly in the subconscious and they rarely surface. A prerequisite is for the woman to be capable of completely separating love from sex. A complete separation. Also being sure that her hubby too can do the other woman without the possibility of emotional involvement. This is premordial. This is in the conscious. As for the subconscious, a woman who is very proud of the sexual prowess of her husband, may want to show another woman how good he is, and usually she wants to see her husband ravaging the other woman. At times this desire surfaces when two women are arguing about how good their husbands are. The other reason relates to women who believes that women are "whores" or "sluts" (metaphorically speaking) and she wants to see her husband punish that whore. This desire may surface when a particular woman acts like a slut in the presence of a woman who subconsciously enjoys this fantasy. In most cases it may relate to close friends, with the woman desiring to see her husband fuck her "slut" friend and punish her. The third reason is when a woman is incapable of satisfying her husband and wants to see him with another woman, but mainly wants to see how the other woman is satisfying him. The fourth reason is the woman counterpart of male cuckolding, with a woman enjoying and getting gratified in being humiliated in seeing another woman satisfying her hubby.

Very well said, gives a lot of interesting things to think about.

 

[Up4FunTonite]

My wife was the one who brought up adding another girl to the mix. Totally shocked me.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

There is a difference between a woman wanting a threesome with her hubby and another woman, or wanting to see her hubby fuck another woman. Surely, the second may be a reason leading to the first. But a woman desiring a threesome with hubby and another woman may not want to see him do her, but want to interact with another woman. It is a fact that many women who indulged in group sex and threesomes for the first time, were desirous to touch and have sex the other woman.

I would be all for it. Wife can sex it up (and be sexed) all she (would) want with another woman, especially if I were there.

 

[LizVegas79]

I love both fantasying about my husband being with someone else and ACTUALLY being there to watch.

It's two totally different experiences for me though.

Or maybe it's that each one opens up to similar but different opportunities (variety isn't just the spice of life, it's the oxygen of life for me!)

You are so not alone Jenni (obvs by the number of confessions already on here! lol)

The first time I watched my husband with another woman was magical. For me, it's still the best time. I've watched him with 5 different women so far (they were all bi except for one who said she was bi but when it came time for my personal attention, let's just say she didn't prove it ). I've watched him with two of those women more than once, which has it own set of pros and cons - mostly pros btw.

Fantasying about him being with someone else can go in two directions for me:
#1 - I pretend to be someone else while we're doing it, either someone we both know, or only I know, or someone famous (I have a Rachel wig in my toy box because he's got a thing for Jennifer Anniston lol)
#2 - or, when I'm all alone, I pretend to catch him with someone. I pick who it is (usually someone I know ), where it is, whether they know I'm there or not, whether they invite me to join or not, whatever, it goes in a million directions.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

The ultimate male fantasy!

Well...sure, but what I am saying is that it would not bother me, if she just wanted to watch me with another woman, or if she wanted me to watch her with another woman.
I would be open to all sorts of things.
But seriously, I am open to just getting sex from a woman that wants and desires sex. (much less anything fancy)

 

[tiddlerjoe]

It would awesome to see my wife with another woman...or man! Pretty sure it will not happen any time soon. But if she wanted to have a guest with us I would be excited! I would ok if it wasnt a threesome, and I only but would join if she wanted (and the guest) I want to watch and I want to see her happy.

I obviously don't know your circumstances, but with my wife, I just had a feeling she was finding the threesome idea something she would like to actually get involved in, rather than just something we talked about as a lead-up to some wonderful sex. The fact that you are willing to mention it here, I wonder if there has been some sign that your wife might be willing to go further than just chat. It took a while for my wife to come round to actually wanting to go as far as a threesome, but, believe me, it has been the best thing that ever happened to us. We already had a super sex life and a lovely relationship apart from sex, but now having threesomes regularly with my best mate is just the icing on the cake, made even better by her recent confession that she would like a threesome with another female, even suggesting a threesome of herself, our male regular partner and another female, with me just watching, which if you knew our relationship, drives me wild just thinking about. I would love to know if you and your wife get anything organised.

 

[LeeKee]

I obviously don't know your circumstances, but with my wife, I just had a feeling she was finding the threesome idea something she would like to actually get involved in, rather than just something we talked about as a lead-up to some wonderful sex. The fact that you are willing to mention it here, I wonder if there has been some sign that your wife might be willing to go further than just chat. It took a while for my wife to come round to actually wanting to go as far as a threesome, but, believe me, it has been the best thing that ever happened to us. We already had a super sex life and a lovely relationship apart from sex, but now having threesomes regularly with my best mate is just the icing on the cake, made even better by her recent confession that she would like a threesome with another female, even suggesting a threesome of herself, our male regular partner and another female, with me just watching, which if you knew our relationship, drives me wild just thinking about. I would love to know if you and your wife get anything organised.

No. Never happening. Probably Organise divorce or separation papers though. Sorry.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

I crave to see my husband do another woman!

When we first got married 27 years ago, and I realised that his fantasy was to see two women together, and sometime later, I did encourage him to sleep with two call girls while at a company seminar in Las Vegas. He did hire the women, but he did not sleep with them. A few years later, on two occasions in Paris, he watched me with an escort girl, but whenever they attempted to engage him, he backed off. I was encouraging him them, to have sex with them, but he would refuse. Many years later, we relocated to another country, and we started teaming with a waitress and a boutique assistant for him to see me with them (separately), but again, he would not touch them, even when I encouraged him to have sex with them. All he wanted was to see us women doing our own thing, then he would do me and not the other woman. Until then, I was merely encouraging him. Then an incident took place when I found out that one of my two best friends (a very sexy lady) was bedding young men, and this friend was attracted to him and would attempt to provoke him for sex. Here I started really encouraging him and longing to see him do her, but he would not budge. Sometime later, I found out that he was attracted to women with thick thighs, and I was shocked that he had the hots for my other best friend (who is not attractive) but had thick thighs! So, I used to fantasise about him doing her, and I also played on that fantasy in our pillow talk. That friend of mine is a prude and whenever I used to tell her that my husband fancied her, she would blush, etc…. It took me another 10 years before I saw him do another woman, after pushing, persuading, and pleading. I basically love to see him ravishing and animalistically taking the other woman. It makes me elated.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

Thanks for your reply. I gotta say

I crave to see my husband do another woman!

When we first got married 27 years ago, and I realised that his fantasy was to see two women together, and sometime later, I did encourage him to sleep with two call girls while at a company seminar in Las Vegas. He did hire the women, but he did not sleep with them. A few years later, on two occasions in Paris, he watched me with an escort girl, but whenever they attempted to engage him, he backed off. I was encouraging him them, to have sex with them, but he would refuse. Many years later, we relocated to another country, and we started teaming with a waitress and a boutique assistant for him to see me with them (separately), but again, he would not touch them, even when I encouraged him to have sex with them. All he wanted was to see us women doing our own thing, then he would do me and not the other woman. Until then, I was merely encouraging him. Then an incident took place when I found out that one of my two best friends (a very sexy lady) was bedding young men, and this friend was attracted to him and would attempt to provoke him for sex. Here I started really encouraging him and longing to see him do her, but he would not budge. Sometime later, I found out that he was attracted to women with thick thighs, and I was shocked that he had the hots for my other best friend (who is not attractive) but had thick thighs! So, I used to fantasise about him doing her, and I also played on that fantasy in our pillow talk. That friend of mine is a prude and whenever I used to tell her that my husband fancied her, she would blush, etc…. It took me another 10 years before I saw him do another woman, after pushing, persuading, and pleading. I basically love to see him ravishing and animalistically taking the other woman. It makes me elated.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

MiaA, there must be so many guys reading your above post, going berserk with love and lust, wondering if they will ever be in a position to see their wife make out with another guy or gal in a threesome, and here you are having the devil of a job trying to persuade him to do just that.

I can only thank my lucky stars that my wonderful sexy wife is open to every and all suggestions, I think she would be frustrated beyond words if I displayed a similar attitude as your man, you would only have to see her in the days before our latest threesome to see the expectation and lustfulness in her demeanour. Our pre-meeting-up days are a joy to me, to see her physically and mentally preparing not only for her own enjoyment, but knowing that ANYTHING she will be doing will be okay with me, even to the point of asking me to leave her and our guest, male or female, on their own, because I know she will make it worth my while later. If they have been alone, her later description of their action is a total turn-on, telling me as she frigs herself with her latest toy. Although a lot of our threesomes are with my best mate, and, given her description and keenness to tell me about anything I missed, she enjoys a second woman completing our threesome sessions. We even have a regular scenario where I go and collect a takeaway, giving the two of them at least a half-hour or more on their own. It is a total turn-on to get back, start to prepare the takeaway and call them, They come downstairs into the kitchen, both naked and the afterglow of super sex , which may have been interrupted...(sorry!) obvious. Me being fully dressed just adds to the eroticism of the moment. Then we sit in the dining room, with that same mixture, the two of them naked, me dressed, eat the meal, then the 3 of us make our way upstairs to complete the evening to everyone's satisfaction.

 

[PFWilly]

I just want to interject. What about a woman wanting to watch her man be with another man? Ok so maybe not a turn on to most. However, ive met several men and we discussed this very thing. Guys are just wanting a release. No emotional connection per say. We meet secretly to get each other off. I see more and more men who like giving and getting oral to one another. Would the woman be less threatened? If her man was to invite another man to bed? And solely to please each other, no contact with the female. Unless she initiated it. Im just curious a female point of view in this. What if she saw her man give hot sensual oral to another man. Sucking hid cock. Stroking his balls. Seeing him be submissive to another guy. Or vice versa. Alot of my FWB of minr talk and wish our wives would be ok with watching us please each other. Also, the woman might get some pointers and learn new techniques to use on her man. Just a thought…..

My wife and I frequently discuss her favorite fantasy…her watching me with another guy. She knows of my bisexual adventures in the past, and completely approves. She has her most intense orgasms when I share with her how much I truly enjoy sucking cock and swallowing multiple cum shots. Though I’ve never been fucked, she knows how much I’d like to try that option, she really gets off thinking about watching my ass in the air with a big cock deep inside.

She would particularly like to see with a guy who was a mutual friend of ours many years ago. He and I had mutual oral sex on many occasions, never with her involvement. She had one super intense night with him as well, and knows how big his cock was, and how quickly his recovery time could be, six times in one night! He only got off three times in one encounter with me! lol

The other guy is one who she had a two year affair with a decade ago. She’s described their sexual encounters in great detail, so I can almost see what his cock looks like. Specifically, she says his cock is sort of wedge shaped, average length, head about the same as mine, but MUCH thicker at the base. Evidently it really spread her pussy when he was fucking her hard. I do anything to taste his cock, especially if she was there to watch, or help out. Of course, I’d also enjoy watching him fuck her too.

Unfortunately, she won’t go there in real life. I’d love to play out any of her fantasy scenarios.

Oh well…

 

[tiddlerjoe]

My wife and I frequently discuss her favorite fantasy…her watching me with another guy. She knows of my bisexual adventures in the past, and completely approves. She has her most intense orgasms when I share with her how much I truly enjoy sucking cock and swallowing multiple cum shots. Though I’ve never been fucked, she knows how much I’d like to try that option, she really gets off thinking about watching my ass in the air with a big cock deep inside.

She would particularly like to see with a guy who was a mutual friend of ours many years ago. He and I had mutual oral sex on many occasions, never with her involvement. She had one super intense night with him as well, and knows how big his cock was, and how quickly his recovery time could be, six times in one night! He only got off three times in one encounter with me! lol

The other guy is one who she had a two year affair with a decade ago. She’s described their sexual encounters in great detail, so I can almost see what his cock looks like. Specifically, she says his cock is sort of wedge shaped, average length, head about the same as mine, but MUCH thicker at the base. Evidently it really spread her pussy when he was fucking her hard. I do anything to taste his cock, especially if she was there to watch, or help out. Of course, I’d also enjoy watching him fuck her too.

Unfortunately, she won’t go there in real life. I’d love to play out any of her fantasy scenarios.

Oh well…

So sorry to read that you are missing out on your wife's fantasy. If it is any consolation, it took a fair while, and all sorts of bribes from her, to take up my wife's insistence that during a threesome with my best mate, I should suck his cock. However, what finally did it was when (after explaining to my mate her wants, and knowing how much he loved our threesomes and fucking my wife) I agreed to her request to firstly play with his cock, and to do a 69 with him, while she watched. But I think the killer point which turned her on was seeing me licking his asshole, while she leaned ever nearer. If there was any doubt she regretted pushing me into that, it was dispelled, as she pulled me to her and kissed me, taking my tongue so recently in his anus into her mouth, and, as he and I are great mates with a long history of sharing my wife, this slight diversion from our normal modus operandi did not alter our threesome fun at all.

Never say never......glass half full.....blah,blah,blah....I hope you find a way to turn her fantasy into reality.

 

[Bisexguy70]

So sorry to read that you are missing out on your wife's fantasy. If it is any consolation, it took a fair while, and all sorts of bribes from her, to take up my wife's insistence that during a threesome with my best mate, I should suck his cock. However, what finally did it was when (after explaining to my mate her wants, and knowing how much he loved our threesomes and fucking my wife) I agreed to her request to firstly play with his cock, and to do a 69 with him, while she watched. But I think the killer point which turned her on was seeing me licking his asshole, while she leaned ever nearer. If there was any doubt she regretted pushing me into that, it was dispelled, as she pulled me to her and kissed me, taking my tongue so recently in his anus into her mouth, and, as he and I are great mates with a long history of sharing my wife, this slight diversion from our normal modus operandi did not alter our threesome fun at all.

Never say never......glass half full.....blah,blah,blah....I hope you find a way to turn her fantasy into reality.

Wow. Incredible!! Ive never thought about licking a guys ass in front of another woman, only sucking cock. That made my cock throb! Although i thought it be so hot to rim a guy as the woman sucks her man. Ive only experienced stuff like tgis watching porn. Its on my bucket list but lately its been difficult finding just a cock to suck.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

Wow. Incredible!! Ive never thought about licking a guys ass in front of another woman, only sucking cock. That made my cock throb! Although i thought it be so hot to rim a guy as the woman sucks her man. Ive only experienced stuff like tgis watching porn. Its on my bucket list but lately its been difficult finding just a cock to suck.

Wow. Incredible!! Ive never thought about licking a guys ass in front of another woman, only sucking cock. That made my cock throb! Although i thought it be so hot to rim a guy as the woman sucks her man. Ive only experienced stuff like tgis watching porn. Its on my bucket list but lately its been difficult finding just a cock to suck.

BSG, thank you so much for your reply...sometimes it feels like I'm talking to myself, but just getting one appreciation like yours makes it worthwhile. Believe me, all the above has happened, as I say, normally with a guy who became something like 'the third person in this marriage' to quote a member of the Royal Family, lol. My wife is not over--keen on some of the secrets I've let out, but I think she will get a helluva kick out of your message.

Unfortunately, the days of our sexual escapades are now mostly behind us, age is a bastard, I still think we enjoy it, but my wife, god bless her, feels less than confident about baring all, even to our 'third' family member....strange when I think about what we have done over the years, the three of us. It's a fact that my mate tries hard not to make her feel uncomfortable, and is forever asking her if she is okay, as their contact makes it inevitable way towards various climaxes.

I hope sincerely that you find a cock to suck, I know how much I miss our threesomes, and whilst my wife was being pleasured, I was also supplying a willing mouth, tongue, anus and cock for whoever, (well, normally my best mate), wanted the pleasure of tasting.

Feel free to message anytime, nice to know you.

 

[PFWilly]

So sorry to read that you are missing out on your wife's fantasy. If it is any consolation, it took a fair while, and all sorts of bribes from her, to take up my wife's insistence that during a threesome with my best mate, I should suck his cock. However, what finally did it was when (after explaining to my mate her wants, and knowing how much he loved our threesomes and fucking my wife) I agreed to her request to firstly play with his cock, and to do a 69 with him, while she watched. But I think the killer point which turned her on was seeing me licking his asshole, while she leaned ever nearer. If there was any doubt she regretted pushing me into that, it was dispelled, as she pulled me to her and kissed me, taking my tongue so recently in his anus into her mouth, and, as he and I are great mates with a long history of sharing my wife, this slight diversion from our normal modus operandi did not alter our threesome fun at all.

Never say never......glass half full.....blah,blah,blah....I hope you find a way to turn her fantasy into reality.

I appreciate what you’ve written, as well as your perspective.

Her fantasies are just going to stay as fantasies…she’s had similar ones for literally decades. She’s just not willing to participate in any sort of three way activities. Yes, she’s had a couple of other lovers during our marriage, with my knowledge. She still has some hang ups from her youth about “wild” (haha) sex, and sticks to her limits.

Though that’s personally a bit frustrating, I’m okay with it.

Cheers!

 

[tiddlerjoe]

I appreciate what you’ve written, as well as your perspective.

Her fantasies are just going to stay as fantasies…she’s had similar ones for literally decades. She’s just not willing to participate in any sort of three way activities. Yes, she’s had a couple of other lovers during our marriage, with my knowledge. She still has some hang ups from her youth about “wild” (haha) sex, and sticks to her limits.

Though that’s personally a bit frustrating, I’m okay with it.

Cheers!

It does sort of worry me, no, that's too strong a word...its something I must accept, that, as age relentlessly moves on, she will not always have the same willingness to either indulge my interest in her satisfying my mate (mainly), or want to bare herself to his gaze and touch, as much as they are so fully conversant, and perfectly okay with each other's body.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

I appreciate what you’ve written, as well as your perspective.

Her fantasies are just going to stay as fantasies…she’s had similar ones for literally decades. She’s just not willing to participate in any sort of three way activities. Yes, she’s had a couple of other lovers during our marriage, with my knowledge. She still has some hang ups from her youth about “wild” (haha) sex, and sticks to her limits.

Though that’s personally a bit frustrating, I’m okay with it.

Cheers!

It does sort of worry me, no, that's too strong a word...its something I must accept, that, as age relentlessly moves on, she will not always have the same willingness to either indulge my interest in her satisfying my mate (mainly), or want to bare herself to his gaze and touch, (or any other man), as much as they are so fully conversant with each other's body. To me, and I'm sure, to him, she is still a super-looking female, with a body I love to see her giving to other men in whatever way she chooses. Of course, I especially love to see her with my mate, or in our threesome, just to be near her as she satisfies him, it makes me love her more than ever, if that is possible. On any forum of other sites, I usually use a name suggesting sexual insecurities, as I am not over-blessed in the penis department, although, as much as my wife has had sex with so many other guys, she has never attempted to make me feel inferior, actually I don't think I'm that small, but all you ever read about is guys with 2 or 3 metre-long cocks, and the girth of a hand grenade. Actually, it gives ME as much satisfaction as my wife to see her playing with, sucking or being fucked by somebody bigger than me, as I feel it somehow makes the satisfaction better for her. (I must ask her about that some time!!)

I love that you have accepted the situation with your own partner, and I must say, I do know that the day will come when my hopes and expectations will just survive around fantasy, but I will have some fantastic memories to live off.

 

[OldFred65]

My wife loves to watch me suck cock and get fucked. She has often mentioned finding a black shemale with a big cock to move in with us so we can both share her.

 

[PFWilly]

It does sort of worry me, no, that's too strong a word...its something I must accept, that, as age relentlessly moves on, she will not always have the same willingness to either indulge my interest in her satisfying my mate (mainly), or want to bare herself to his gaze and touch, (or any other man), as much as they are so fully conversant with each other's body. To me, and I'm sure, to him, she is still a super-looking female, with a body I love to see her giving to other men in whatever way she chooses. Of course, I especially love to see her with my mate, or in our threesome, just to be near her as she satisfies him, it makes me love her more than ever, if that is possible. On any forum of other sites, I usually use a name suggesting sexual insecurities, as I am not over-blessed in the penis department, although, as much as my wife has had sex with so many other guys, she has never attempted to make me feel inferior, actually I don't think I'm that small, but all you ever read about is guys with 2 or 3 metre-long cocks, and the girth of a hand grenade. Actually, it gives ME as much satisfaction as my wife to see her playing with, sucking or being fucked by somebody bigger than me, as I feel it somehow makes the satisfaction better for her. (I must ask her about that some time!!)

I love that you have accepted the situation with your own partner, and I must say, I do know that the day will come when my hopes and expectations will just survive around fantasy, but I will have some fantastic memories to live off.

At least I’m lucky enough to have a spouse who enjoys sharing fantasies with each other, and details about our own limited adventures with other sex partners. It’s apparent reading some posts on this forum that many guys are not that fortunate. We’re of an age where those memories have become more important…for both of us.

 

[tiddlerjoe]

At least I’m lucky enough to have a spouse who enjoys sharing fantasies with each other, and details about our own limited adventures with other sex partners. It’s apparent reading some posts on this forum that many guys are not that fortunate. We’re of an age where those memories have become more important…for both of us.

SO TRUE, just not looking forward to the day when fantasy and real life take separate routes, and we are just left with
the fantasy. But, as you say, you have a wife with whom you share fantasies, and so will I have.
You've made me look at myself and my thoughts, and I thank you very much.

 

[BongoGal]

I have no interest in watching any guy I'm involved with having sex with another woman. That has never come up as a possibility, of course. I'm trying to picture how that would work: "There's a new girl at work who is pretty hot. She's down to fuck, but I told her I'd only do it if you were okay with it and wanted to watch. Whaddaya say?"

(That said, if a guy I was with had some old videos with partners before he met me, I might be up for checking those out.)

 

[lil_jenni]

I have no interest in watching any guy I'm involved with having sex with another woman. That has never come up as a possibility, of course. I'm trying to picture how that would work: "There's a new girl at work who is pretty hot. She's down to fuck, but I told her I'd only do it if you were okay with it and wanted to watch. Whaddaya say?"

(That said, if a guy I was with had some old videos with partners before he met me, I might be up for checking those out.)

Actually, Hubby's worked with a couple women I'd be down with him doing exactly that with ... But I'm guessing your approaching it from the point of the woman being propositioned....

You are right, the above is probably an extremely low percentage move. I was thinking more in group/swapping situations. I know I loved watching Hubby fuck another woman when we had our threesomes, and I fantasize more and more about being able to watch him with a woman while I'm with her man.

But if they scenario you described ever actually played out, I'd be up for it...

 

[wallstreetguy]

This is why I love cuckqueans. Their fantasies are so detailed and intense. They are constantly on the lookout for women to join us, if only in fantasy. They spy women looking at me/us. Even if we never even touch another woman, that fantasy of her as huntress is overwhelming.

 

[VinylLizzie]

My husband cheated on me before we were married and I must admit it ripped me up at the time. But we were both young, at university and as he says not married. This was years ago, but now I sometimes fantasise about him with them - one in particular, sucking her large tits and unfastening her stockings before going down on her then fucking her (which he told me about!). I sometimes pleasure myself while imagining the scene. Maybe it’s because I feel I missed out - I wasn’t part of it. Sometimes it really turns me on. Other times I feel incredibly hurt and angry!! Not sure I could watch it for real now - I’d probably get too jealous!!

 

[Analsexlover]

I've been married for over 20 years and I never wanted to share my wife with anyone. But since or marriage has become sexless I've started to have thoughts and ideas of her being a complete slut. I would love to watch her be a cumdump or just gang banger by 20 or 30 guys