Trans/bi curious

This post runs a bit long, but I’m a writer, so buckle up.

It’s been a long journey for me. It all started when my wife and I started having MFM threesomes about ten years ago. I noticed that many of the men on the swinger site we used to find people were bi, so my brain started to entertain the possibilities.

My wife is a natural submissive (she calls me Daddy), and have I learned how to take a dominant role in the bedroom. In most respects, I’m very egalitarian, but I developed a demanding and forceful persona for her. One thing that really turned her on was that many of the men we played with would defer to me, asking my permission to touch my wife, for example. This got me wondering about dominating another guy.

I have always been a little curious, but the sight of naked men frankly repulsed me. I didn’t even care much for watching a woman perform a blowjob. I decided to experiment and see if I could change that by watching gay porn. Surprisingly, I very quickly lost that reflex and eventually began to be aroused by the sight of cocks, but especially the idea of being dominant over a submissive male

My wife’s reaction to this has been a little mixed. On the one hand, the thought of me being in full control of the other M in a threesome gets her hot, but she’s not so thrilled with the idea of any male/male contact. I had a chance to test this when we met someone who was both bi and submissive.

We all agreed beforehand that the extent of anything bi was for him to eat my cum out of my wife’s pussy. However, when she went down on me, he dropped to his knees next to her and started begging to suck my cock. She, in the middle of bobbing her head, turned to him and said “no”. I’m sure it was a combination of her slight aversion to anything bisexual and her aversion to the thought of me with anyone else. She is fully aware of the contradiction, but it isn’t something she’s been able to get past. I love my wife with all my heart and try to always respect her boundaries, so I didn’t say anything, even though I really wanted them both right then.

Later on, they got into a 69, her on top, and I moved in behind her. I would fuck her doggystyle for a bit, then withdraw to let him eat her pussy, all the while she was sucking him. Finally, I gave into the impulse, directed my cock downward, and felt a wet, warm mouth engulf the head, my first real sexual contact with a man. I alternated between his mouth and her pussy, but I didn’t enjoy it as much as I should because I started to feel guilty for going against her wishes. I decided to finish inside her so that he could lick her clean.

We talked about it after we left. She wasn’t really angry, but I could tell she was having the “Is my husband gay?” thoughts that so many women get. The whole situation did make me uncomfortable, so I told her that it didn’t do much for me, and I was definitely straight. And the fact is, I am and always have been attracted to women and particularly my wife. I wouldn’t give her up for anyone else.

And yet, there is still that desire. It has waxed and waned, but on the whole seems to get a little stronger all the time. One thing that my wife wants to try is a DVP with me and another man. I get instantly hard at the idea of rubbing cocks with another man, all while we are both fucking the love of my life. We want our bi, submissive friend when we do get around to doing it, but unfortunately we had to move out of state. We’ve kept in contact though, and he would be happy to help us with our fantasy.

I also started messaging him myself, telling him that I would like to take him up on his offer to suck me off. I also mulled it over, used my imagination, and came to the realization that I am not only willing, but eager to reciprocate. My dominant side is also quite eager to bend over a submissive of any sex for a good railing.

So here I am in my mid-forties, with a wife of twenty years that I love deeply, and a desire that’s more than just curiosity. Early on in our exploration of threesomes, my wife was firmly against meeting other couples for a full swap. I argued that it could be fun for her, but again, she couldn’t wrap her head around the idea of me with another woman. She finally said, “You can do it, but just don’t let me know about it.” Also, a few years ago, she consented to our bisexual female friend eating her pussy. She’s done a few things since with our friend, mostly after a good bit of alcohol. It shows that she’s still loosening up as time goes on.

My thinking is that if I did ever meet up with our bi friend the next state over, I have implicit permission as long as she doesn’t know about it. As much as I would prefer the fantasy where she’s totally into it, that probably won’t happen. Then again, she still wants that DVP, and might be more accepting now if there’s some incidental contact between the two M’s of the threesome.
 
I'm almost 40 and for the first time I'm starting to think dicks are sexy. I don't like other male body parts but a dick just drives me crazy right now. I've been denying this thought to myself for over a year but its now to the point that I have to face reality. I'm dreaming of cock in my mouth and even hitting my prostate. Literally dreaming at night, not just fantasizing when I'm horny. I honestly don't know how to deal with this. I've just now admitted it to myself. What does this mean? I've been raised to think this is wrong. I never thought I'd have these thoughts. I'm still attracted to women way more but its weird to admit that a dick can also get me off. Please help shine some light.
40s is about when it begins… welcome to the club.
 
I think a lot of us are that way. Guys don't get me excited. Women still get me going. If you put a cock in my face I'll be drooling like one of Pavlov's dogs drooling after he rang the bell. Beats me why.
mmm that's hot. I'd have you salivating.
 
You are not the only one who is turned on by trans women.
Transgender porn is one of the most popular genres of porn. A strange thing since transgender people themselves are Public Enemy #1 in the United States. Such is the completely fucked up state of this country.
 
So at 60, I have started to be attracted to trans women, although I don’t think it’s because they have dicks… or maybe it is. Honestly, if I were to get together with one, I’m not entirely sure what I would or wouldn’t want to do with them. I will admit I feel a bit intimidated by the pictures I’ve seen where they’ve got much bigger dicks than I have! I just know that I think of them as women, and the photos I’ve seen turn me on.
Bear in mind that a lot of the pics, probably most, of gorgeous women with huge cocks are actually natural women with the cock photoshopped in.
 
So at 60, I have started to be attracted to trans women, although I don’t think it’s because they have dicks… or maybe it is. Honestly, if I were to get together with one, I’m not entirely sure what I would or wouldn’t want to do with them. I will admit I feel a bit intimidated by the pictures I’ve seen where they’ve got much bigger dicks than I have! I just know that I think of them as women, and the photos I’ve seen turn me on.
As others have warned. There’s a lot of photoshop out there. Remember that even if it isn’t photoshop, porn is always a biased industry. Keep an open mind and be clear in communicating your needs. If you’re actively looking, then I hope you find your first soon. If not, maybe you should start…We’re a pretty fun group (generally).
 
As others have warned. There’s a lot of photoshop out there. Remember that even if it isn’t photoshop, porn is always a biased industry. Keep an open mind and be clear in communicating your needs. If you’re actively looking, then I hope you find your first soon. If not, maybe you should start…We’re a pretty fun group (generally).
It's a viable fantasy, even if it could never be realized. Humongous AI dick. What next!
 
As others have warned. There’s a lot of photoshop out there. Remember that even if it isn’t photoshop, porn is always a biased industry. Keep an open mind and be clear in communicating your needs. If you’re actively looking, then I hope you find your first soon. If not, maybe you should start…We’re a pretty fun group (generally).
I have reached out to a few on other sites without any returned interest so far… it may be one of those unfulfilled fantasies!
 
I'm in my later mid 60's and have long been dreaming of being with a trans woman. Unfortunately, I live in an area that all that seems to be available are semi-passible bottom crossdressers.
I want to admire the entire person and do my best to please her before having her take me for her pleasure.
Holding out hope that I may still happen someday for real rather than just in my mind.
 
It's a fascinating thing to me that in a country where transgender people are hated and discriminated against legally, so many men have a fantasy of being with one. I imagine that some of the men with this fantasy are the same ones who pass laws against their very existence. What a fucked up country this truly is.
 
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It's a fascinating thing to me that in a country where transgender people are hated and discriminated against legally, so many men have a fantasy of being with one. I imagine that some of the men with this fantasy are the same ones who pass laws against their very existence. What a fucked up country this truly is.
Fucking hypocrites. This country is full of them!
 
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