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Vulnerability is a dangerous and double edged sword in my book.
Vulnerability should be controlled when possible, consciously confined to safe areas of our lives when possible, and dealt with as gently as possible when seen in strangers - all in the hopes that the universe will reciprocate in kind.
But I also am acutely aware that I am unable to make genuine connections with others without becoming vulnerable. That I must show at least parts of my true self with others. To elucidate and illuminate the things that matter to me and the things that have hurt me and caused me pain. Every time I do this I feel a tightness around my chest. I wonder if it is really worth it. If I am pouring my vulnerability into a black hole and if it will be used against me in some way.
So, darling CnC? would you most closely identify with this quote of the ones I selected for the Op? ..
Some people should not be allowed to see beyond your surface. Seeing your vulnerability is a privilege, not meant for everyone.”
― Yasmin Mogahed
CnC ~ I think you have really captured something important here.
Many times I have typed out responses to posts but deleted them because of my vulnerability or the vulnerability of my relationship.
I don't think so. I'm really not that guarded, though I probably should be. I have a huge capacity for pain, both physical and mental. It's the main reason I don't like pain with sex, I usually can't tell when I have had enough, most often resulting in my detriment. Au contraire, I show my most frivolous, vulnerable side here most often. Some people are frivolous on the surface, and hide their serious under self. I hide my serious surface, and let my inner child play here without restraint. She's vulnerable, but still with tough skin. You have to be trying really hard to mess with her. I know that seems inside out, but I'm ok with being inside out I do still recognize the reality of holding ones cards close to the chest, though, as most people do.
I more closely related to this gem
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The more you know yourself, the less judgemental you become”
― Aniekee Tochukwu
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I generally find people far too quick to judge others, usually in an attempt to hide from or cover up their own vulnerabilities.
How we internalize and externalize vulnerabilities in context to other humans just might be the fundamentals of the meaning of life
Interesting way of thinking about it.
I use my serious surface to hide my inner frivolous playful self.
Also, I have found not just knowing myself, but accepting myself has helped me judge others less. Also, judging others less makes me less judgemental of myself.
I have learned as strongly as I feel emotional and physical pain, I have a greater capacity for it than I ever realized.