There's a bit of a difference. Those bitching are the ones who supply the food and furniture for the place. The house is provided, but the users are providing the contents.
Ooo. I like continuing the metaphor.
Ok. So then it's like a pot luck. Everyone brings something to contribute and share.
There's a whole table labeled "Seafood Melange" so I figure maybe its loaded with things like a nice cerviche, or oysters on the half shell, or Po Boy sandwiches but nope. It's all tuna casseroles and I hate tuna casserole.
Should I complain to the host that everyone that brought something for the "Seafood Melange" brought tuna casserole just because I don't like it? The host has provided lots of other tables with stuff on it that I enjoy and are quite compatible with the dishes I have brought.