Is bisexuality a blessing or a curse?

[J1biboi]

I showed this to my wife after I answered it previously and her response was "why wouldn't anyone, male or female, want to be bi. If you're bi you can eat pussy, suck cock, and bury your face in any ass you get the chance to.

My guess is that women like your wife are few and far between.

 

[vizio]

It's a blessing of course it doubles your chances of getting a date.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I really feel for those that can't be comfortable admitting to others they're bi, or pan, or however they relate sexually.
It's true, it's not anyone's business if you don't want to disclose, but then there's a shame within you.
I came out as bi to my husband early on in our relationship.
It's a blessing to me to be honest and feel safe doing so.,
It seems more acceptable for women to be sexually fluid, than men...
What do you think?

 

[TrailerHitch]

It's a blessing of course it doubles your chances of getting a date.

OR it doubles your chance of rejection...

 

[CharlieBoker]

I really feel for those that can't be comfortable admitting to others they're bi, or pan, or however they relate sexually.
It's true, it's not anyone's business if you don't want to disclose, but then there's a shame within you.
I came out as bi to my husband early on in our relationship.
It's a blessing to me to be honest and feel safe doing so.,
It seems more acceptable for women to be sexually fluid, than men...
What do you think?

I think that you’re right….There seems to be more acceptance surrounding female bisexuality.

I’m out to my wife but very few other people. I wouldn’t lie if the subject arose but (forgive the pun) I don’t ram it down anyone’s throat.

 

[Icekiller56]

I really feel for those that can't be comfortable admitting to others they're bi, or pan, or however they relate sexually.
It's true, it's not anyone's business if you don't want to disclose, but then there's a shame within you.
I came out as bi to my husband early on in our relationship.
It's a blessing to me to be honest and feel safe doing so.,
It seems more acceptable for women to be sexually fluid, than men...
What do you think?

I totally agree, with straight guys liking lesbian porn they find it hot when their SO wants to be with another woman.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

My guess is that women like your wife are few and far between.

I don't know, back home she had a lot of girlfriends that got her to help turn their husbands and boyfriends bi and even feminize them. They then became my lovers.

 

[J1biboi]

I don't know, back home she had a lot of girlfriends that got her to help turn their husbands and boyfriends bi and even feminize them. They then became my lovers.

Maybe one just needs to know where to look, but I have yet to run into a woman that wants anything to do with a bi man.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

Maybe one just needs to know where to look, but I have yet to run into a woman that wants anything to do with a bi man.

You should come here to Thailand where we live now. There are many women here married to Kathoeys which is the term here for a shemale or ladyboy.

 

[J1biboi]

You should come here to Thailand where we live now. There are many women here married to Kathoeys which is the term here for a shemale or ladyboy.

It sounds inviting but a country boy from WV wouldn't know what to do in a place like Bangkok.

 

[Biguy77578]

A blessing. I had bi sex before straight and ave enjoyed both for over 50 years

 

[TallOne]

Blessing, especially once you find a partner who is also bi and is non-monogamous. Though that search is admittedly more difficult.

But ethical non-monogamy is certainly taking off among younger folks. As they say, "Monogamy? In this economy?" Out there starting poly families just to afford housing.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

It sounds inviting but a country boy from WV wouldn't know what to do in a place like Bangkok.

You'd figure it out real quick.

 

[Wanking_Frank]

I think a little of both, because personally I think you find authenticity in what it is that you really want and find satisfying. For me it is complicated because I only really want a long term relationship with a female - and they are far less accepting of that than one might think.

I‘ve matched with several people where that seems to be a deal breaker where everything else was pointing toward us being completely compatible.

I would also say my preference for matching with people online is that they’re bisexual right in their profile, and then at least I feel like I can be open about it. I don’t advertise it both because it squelches some otherwise good matches, and I don’t want a colleague or someone I know getting that information.

I guess the blessing in it is if I am struggling trying to get a real relationship with women I get much more effortlessly hook up with men to satisfy sexual needs.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Being bi brings so much in the way of variety when it comes to sexual fulfilment, I feel blessed that I can be turned on by hot sex with a man or a woman. It took a while, but I’m 100% comfortable and proud of being bisexual.

Once in a committed monogamous relationship though, I can’t help but feel I’m missing out.

I’m with a woman and to put it simply I miss cock. I miss sex with another guy. It’s different and I find it so erotic to suck cock and be fucked.

I don’t really feel the desire to stray and fuck other women though. I’m happy with sex with my wife, that box is ticked.

I won’t stray though, out of respect for her desire to be exclusive, so my cock cravings remain just that.

I’m pretty sure that if I was in a committed relationship with a guy, getting all the cock I needed full time, I’d miss sex with a woman. I’m very attracted to women and I find sex with them very fulfilling too. I doubt I could live without pussy and all that goes with a beautiful woman.

For me I guess the problem is not the bisexuality itself but actually monogamy…..I just think that in my case my bisexuality just exaggerates it and means I can’t really ever be fully satisfied in an exclusive relationship.

I know it’s not the same for everyone who’s bi but I thought it would be interesting to hear others’ views and thoughts…….

I'm in a similar situation. I had lots of variety in my sex life when I was younger. Several cocks and lots of women. Now I'm married and faithful and in the closet for nearly 30 years, with a case of ED which my doctor suspects is from boredom. I'd love to have some variety in bed

 

[tristantrotsky]

I tend to relate to people, not genders.
If the spark is there, it's a delight.
If that involves sucking a nice cock, that's beautiful.
If that involves licking a delicious pussy, that's even more wonderful.

 

[CharlieBoker]

I'm in a similar situation. I had lots of variety in my sex life when I was younger. Several cocks and lots of women. Now I'm married and faithful and in the closet for nearly 30 years, with a case of ED which my doctor suspects is from boredom. I'd love to have some variety in bed

Any bi fantasy play with your wife? Does she know you're bisexual?

 

[Hitchiker69]

Any bi fantasy play with your wife? Does she know you're bisexual?

She suspects I was BI before we met. She's seen my porn collection, which has a lot of beautiful hard cocks and trannies. And she knows I once lived in a very gay part of town, with gay clubs and cruise pick up spots within walking distance. But I know she won't play along, so I don't even try. I'm left to my own fantasies and memories.

 

[CharlieBoker]

She suspects I was BI before we met. She's seen my porn collection, which has a lot of beautiful hard cocks and trannies. And she knows I once lived in a very gay part of town, with gay clubs and cruise pick up spots within walking distance. But I know she won't play along, so I don't even try. I'm left to my own fantasies

That's a shame, I really feel for you.

I'm lucky in that whilst she's adamant she will not tolerate me playing away for real, my wife knows I'm bi and does at least accomodate a little fantasy role play between us.

 

[BrokenQuill]

I really feel for those that can't be comfortable admitting to others they're bi, or pan, or however they relate sexually.
It's true, it's not anyone's business if you don't want to disclose, but then there's a shame within you.
I came out as bi to my husband early on in our relationship.
It's a blessing to me to be honest and feel safe doing so.,
It seems more acceptable for women to be sexually fluid, than men...
What do you think?

Hindsight would have been a blessing forme. Knowing that I am bisexual is the culmination in a slow dawning of realisaion as my life has progressed. I have discussed this with my wfe once. The fallout was near terminal on our marriage. So I live a seperate life for her and keep my own true feelings for myself.

 

[FL30]

I showed this to my wife after I answered it previously and her response was "why wouldn't anyone, male or female, want to be bi. If you're bi you can eat pussy, suck cock, and bury your face in any ass you get the chance to.

Didn't Andy Warhol say pretty much the same thing?

 

[ChrissyCD64]

Didn't Andy Warhol say pretty much the same thing?

I wouldn't know about that. I have heard some say that being straight is like going to a restaurant and only looking at half of the menu, and I totally agree with that. However, in our case I prefer cock to pussy and my wife prefers pussy to cock.

 

[litalicious]

I'm openly bi and proud and still young so just having fun right now but I do think if I ever kinda settle down, it'd probably be with a woman. But I already wonder how I could do that unless it was an open type of thing. I get different kinds of fulfillment with guys than with women and can't really imagine doing without men at all. I just wanna say thanks to all the insights here because they give me things to think about and make me realize I'm not alone in this at all.

 

[Marty Fisher]

DEFINITELY a BLESSING

If you can openly live it

But somewhat of a curse if you can't......

 

[Jordanjack]

If I could be openly bi it would be a blessing, but having to keep that side of me locked up at all times is a curse.