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For a couple years now , have had some interests in bdsm... am a spanko, mentee , etc ... but sometimes want more .
oh sorry I guess I am saying how do you know when you want to pursue being submissive?
spouse is very vanilla ..have had a friend onlne that played wth that had elements of this ... but seems we cannot connect as much anymore
I see. In that case, it's much more than a question of if you want to experiment or not. Seems like the question is, do I want to look for satisfaction outside of my relationship. I'm sorry I can't help you with that one! Perhaps someone else here can, though.
Good luck!
A drunk?I dont trust a drunk wth ths knowledge...
I dont trust a drunk wth ths knowledge...
yeah, that would be a problem.
But maybe-- read the link in my signature, and see if it gives you any new ideas.
without getting into my personal business , i have no desire to let him be the dom in my life .Hey, have you actually asked your partner if it's something he/she would give a try? Sometimes we just assume we know everything about the people we live with. In my case, it was me who seemed to be driven towards bdsm and so it was me who brought it up in the first place. Turned out he was more willing than I had ever imagined
This is something I used to ask myself before trying: ok, vanilla doesn´t make you feel complete, what's the reason? and why do you feel particularly attracted to bdsm? Try some other stuff as well and discard.
In my experience, once you try what you feel you are into, if that is really the case, you WILL KNOW.
without getting into my personal business , i have no desire to let him be the dom in my life .
For a couple years now , have had some interests in bdsm... am a spanko, mentee , etc ... but sometimes want more .
oh sorry I guess I am saying how do you know when you want to pursue being submissive?
my experience was as follows, and i don't really know if it happens similarly to everybody or just me:
i am not sure if i had felt anything related to this before. but as i started to grow professionally in my job, the positions demanded me to be more and more dominant at the workplace. i went from assistant to assistant manager, then junior manager, then senior manager and when i realized i was 27 years old and managing a large team of people for a multinational company. it was A LOT of pressure and my marriage at the time began to collapse. i had to work long hours, barely slept, barely had time for myself and wanted to be excellent at my job. this is when the feelings started to show. i started to feel the need to get home and not tell anyone else what to do; i used to dream about getting home and have someone tell me what to eat, how to dress, anything that would release me from the responsibility i already had the entire day.
my husband then was pretty absent in the reltionship and it soon came to an end; after that i started looking for the BDSM lifestyle and found my first partner with whom i'd start exploring this side of me.
i hope it helps to read about other people's experiences... : )
Given your r/l situation, perhaps you could start by exploring an on-line relationship. Some scoff at it, but given the deep and meaningful relationships I have been able to have, it has been great. At least it's a way to achieve going deeper while exploring this side of you.
Be careful out there!
In Domination,
Steel
just to be clear, this is how the desire started to manifest itself... nowadays i changed careers and i have a much slower-paced life, but i found i love being submissive and kept on the lifestyle even if my job does not demand as much from me anymore.
oh sorry I guess I am saying how do you know when you want to pursue being submissive?